Need a Ear/Shoulder to lean on-Divorce

[HeyMikey]

Going through life wondering if your wife is screwing you over a 3rd time is no way to live life. And yes, every time he leaves the house that is what will be going through his mind if he "fixes" this marriage. You may forgive, but you never forget.

You said a few times "there is a part of me that is on the fence."

Clear your head. That's just because you know it will be hard to divorce her simply due to the unknown after. Don't trick yourself into being sucked back in for more punishment. As mentioned she will screw you over again if you stay with her.

First of all, prayers up. That being said, you are going to have bigger issues than “just” divorcing her. You are gonna have business implications (possibly contracts she signed implicating you), IRS issues (because it appears she isn’t reporting income), and credit issues (on stuff she signed you up for). It seems easy to say “divorce her”, and it is easy to say. However, most people that say that haven’t gone thru the painful and gut wrenching part of divorce. I have, and I’m telling you that you need the best attorney support you can afford and you need to run, not walk, away from that woman.

Best of luck OP. I am 100% in agreement with the above thoughts/advice. If she cared about you, she'd have cleaned up her act after getting caught the first time. Sad to say, but if you give her another chance, she's gonna screw you again.........write it down and stick it on your bathroom mirror, so you'll be reminded of that fact, every morning.

[Graysonhogs]

No advice, as my experiences have left me somewhat jaded, but I'll pray for you.

[scott123456789]

The best worst case scenario seems that the business isn’t actually profitable and she was having to take her actions to pay bills/pay employees. There was pressure for this to be the perfect business for your sons legacy but what if it wasn’t even breaking even let alone profitable? Give or take it sounds like $100k went somewhere. If there isn’t a new Escalade in the driveway the money shouldn’t be too difficult to track./

[Burnadell]

Wow!!! Lots of moving parts and complexities to your problem(s). Since you changed your screen name 6 months ago, were you contemplating asking us back then for advice? If so, it seems like you have been kicking the can down the road while delaying the inevitable. As others have stated, you need to be talking to a competent attorney, not asking us for advice. There are too many other issues that you have to clean up in addition to a divorce, but you know this.

A few questions would need to be answered before sound advice could be offered.

* What are these "payday loans" you mention? Who made the loans? Businesses don't get payday loans...wage earners do. Whose wages were supposed to be used to repay the loans?

* How did she take out loans in your name without you knowing about it? If she forged your name, you are NOT liable for their repayment, and your wife may be facing criminal charges.

* Was she authorized to sign on your dad's bank account or did she forge his name? Again, criminal liability.

* Why are you not able to determine where the money went? Have you not perused past bank statements to determine what was spent? You say the business is profitable. Are you certain of this? Where did your wife say the ill-gotten money went to?

* How did Adult Protective Services become involved? Did your father finally call them in?

Lots of unanswered questions...but if she did this previously (~5 years ago?), and now has done it again, I can't imagine trusting her on anything else. She betrayed you, your father, your son; committed criminal acts..and you still don't know where the money went? If she has not been willing to come clean about everything, you need to grow a pair and move on without her in your life...but...you need to follow an attorney's advice; not ours. You should have been talking to an attorney for some time.

Good luck. I wish you well in cleaning up the mess your wife has made. She should be in jail.

[gingib]

Wow!!! Lots of moving parts and complexities to your problem(s). Since you changed your screen name 6 months ago, were you contemplating asking us back then for advice? If so, it seems like you have been kicking the can down the road while delaying the inevitable. As others have stated, you need to be talking to a competent attorney, not asking us for advice. There are too many other issues that you have to clean up in addition to a divorce, but you know this.

A few questions would need to be answered before sound advice could be offered.

* What are these "payday loans" you mention? Who made the loans? Businesses don't get payday loans...wage earners do. Whose wages were supposed to be used to repay the loans?

* How did she take out loans in your name without you knowing about it? If she forged your name, you are NOT liable for their repayment, and your wife may be facing criminal charges.

* Was she authorized to sign on your dad's bank account or did she forge his name? Again, criminal liability.

* Why are you not able to determine where the money went? Have you not perused past bank statements to determine what was spent? You say the business is profitable. Are you certain of this? Where did your wife say the ill-gotten money went to?

* How did Adult Protective Services become involved? Did your father finally call them in?

Lots of unanswered questions...but if she did this previously (~5 years ago?), and now has done it again, I can't imagine trusting her on anything else. She betrayed you, your father, your son; committed criminal acts..and you still don't know where the money went? If she has not been willing to come clean about everything, you need to grow a pair and move on without her in your life...but...you need to follow an attorney's advice; not ours. You should have been talking to an attorney for some time.

Good luck. I wish you well in cleaning up the mess your wife has made. She should be in jail.

I am wondering the same also! It sounds like a complete mess yall are in and there is more to this story on her end

Drugs or a man!

[Rwc]

Wow!!! Lots of moving parts and complexities to your problem(s). Since you changed your screen name 6 months ago, were you contemplating asking us back then for advice? If so, it seems like you have been kicking the can down the road while delaying the inevitable. As others have stated, you need to be talking to a competent attorney, not asking us for advice. There are too many other issues that you have to clean up in addition to a divorce, but you know this.

A few questions would need to be answered before sound advice could be offered.

* What are these "payday loans" you mention? Who made the loans? Businesses don't get payday loans...wage earners do. Whose wages were supposed to be used to repay the loans?

* How did she take out loans in your name without you knowing about it? If she forged your name, you are NOT liable for their repayment, and your wife may be facing criminal charges.

* Was she authorized to sign on your dad's bank account or did she forge his name? Again, criminal liability.

* Why are you not able to determine where the money went? Have you not perused past bank statements to determine what was spent? You say the business is profitable. Are you certain of this? Where did your wife say the ill-gotten money went to?

* How did Adult Protective Services become involved? Did your father finally call them in?

Lots of unanswered questions...but if she did this previously (~5 years ago?), and now has done it again, I can't imagine trusting her on anything else. She betrayed you, your father, your son; committed criminal acts..and you still don't know where the money went? If she has not been willing to come clean about everything, you need to grow a pair and move on without her in your life...but...you need to follow an attorney's advice; not ours. You should have been talking to an attorney for some time.

Good luck. I wish you well in cleaning up the mess your wife has made. She should be in jail.

Exactly my thoughts while reading the original post. Please tell us you have been in contact with an attorney for some time now and this post was just a vetting of steam post.......

Ill pray for you and this situation but stealing from my Dad, brother, son and myself would be the last straw........no matter my 29 year marriage and love for her! And I would not pay a dollar towards her theft debit before I talked to an attorney.

Best of luck with this situation.

Rwc

[CAMOJEEP]

No this screen name was not created for this deal. This was not even on my radar , not at all on my radar. I never dreamed I would be in something like this. This is stuff you read about other people being involved in. This screen name was just a thing I did for no particular reason.
Thanks for the words of wisdom. I have met with 2 attorneys so far and the 3rd one this afternoon. She is the one I really want. I just wanted to keep the other 2 out the running since I paid my fee or at least that is my understanding that since I spoke to them about my case she can not hire them. In the last 18 months, she took 153,000.00 I just don't understand it yet.

[HeyMikey]

No this screen name was not created for this deal. This was not even on my radar , not at all on my radar. I never dreamed I would be in something like this. This is stuff you read about other people being involved in. This screen name was just a thing I did for no particular reason.
Thanks for the words of wisdom. I have met with 2 attorneys so far and the 3rd one this afternoon. She is the one I really want. I just wanted to keep the other 2 out the running since I paid my fee or at least that is my understanding that since I spoke to them about my case she can not hire them. In the last 18 months, she took 153,000.00 I just don't understand it yet.

Man, I really hope this works out for you, but I can't help but wonder how in the world she got & hid $153K from you, after you've already been taken for that ride by her before? Not trying to rag on you, but truly can't understand why/how that happened twice.

[muzzlebrake]

This thread is eerily similar to several threads from a guy that used to post on TBH about all the weird catastrophic issues he faced over and over and over.

[CAMOJEEP]

Man, I really hope this works out for you, but I can't help but wonder how in the world she got & hid $153K from you, after you've already been taken for that ride by her before? Not trying to rag on you, but truly can't understand why/how that happened twice.

Because I trusted her to do the books. I thought we were past the episode before. In short, I was stupid. No other excuse/reason

[Hardware]

Prayers Up!!

[zztex]

Good luck to you. I had a friend whose wife was spending over $50 a day on drugs for about 18 months and he had no clue. Could it possibly be something like that? Hopefully not

[kae006]

Good luck to you. I had a friend whose wife was spending over $50 a day on drugs for about 18 months and he had no clue. Could it possibly be something like that? Hopefully not

I haven’t kept up with the price of drugs but $280 a day seems excessive.


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[gingib]

This thread is eerily similar to several threads from a guy that used to post on TBH about all the weird catastrophic issues he faced over and over and over.

WHo?

[bakin7005]

Unless she's paying Sancho's rent, she has a serious addiction problem and needs serious help. I would ask her and if it is an addiction, offer to get her help (after I secured an attorney).

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