Calling The New Step Father...".Daddy"

[elkbowhunter]

I've got a step daughter. I call her by her fist name and she calls me by my first name. She is college age now but when she was at the house she would see her dad every other weekend. The guy is the biggest Richard Head you will ever meet, however I'm not looking to replace him and I'm fine with how it went.

Very clever....Richard Head.

[krisw]

My Sister in law is a widow and her new husband forces the kids to call him dad. He does not allow step dad. It is awful.

When they get old enough to know better, there's a good chance they are gonna resent her and hate him for that.

[dawgkllr]

My son calls his step dad by his first name and he calls my wife by her fist name and it's fine .I don't feel that the ex wife should be pushing for this or it's going to cause a lot more problems

Same way here and my step daughter calls me by my first name.

[pdevoto]

Man-Up!

It is a heartbreaker for the real dad.

Bring it up once and quietly with the mother to express the real dad's displeasure with the practice.

Let it go after that. She will only thrive on the upset it causes.

If the new husband has any sense and/or balls he will realize what a slap this is to the child's real father and avoid the practice.

We can only hope the new husband will man-up here.

[Avezorak]

My daughter is not mine biologically but she is my girl. She has been with me since she was 6 months old and the bio father hasnt seen her since then. She knows who her "Daddy" is.

My sisters oldest 2 boys call their stapfather "Dad" but that was their choice. Their bio Dad is a POS and still sees/talks to them but they know who truly cares for them.

Every situation is different. A child should never be forced to do anything like that, but I cant see a problem if it comes from the heart.

[lglidewell]

I have a 6yr old stepdaughter... I told her a long time ago she could call me whatever she wants. Sometimes she calls me by name, sometimes it's Lee Daddy, sometimes it's Daddy. Makes no difference to me and it isn't an issue on our end.

[125Dad]

My oldest called his step-dad Dad and his step-mom Mom. It never really bothered any of us. My ex-wife married a good guy and has always been just like a dad to my son and the same for my wife his step-mom.
One time I was at my ex's and was helping her husband do something and there little girl about 4 asked me if I could be her dad also and I asked why she wanted that and she said so she could get more gifts on her birthday. I said well ok then she has called me dad every time I see her and I make it a point to send her a gift. She is 17 now.

[nursejenn]

Daddy is a title that is earned, not inherited!

I agree 100%...

That said, I don't know that I would LET my kids call their step-father dad or daddy or anything of the sort. It's about respect and consideration for their real dad. I would expect the same in return. Now, this is just my opinion and I am very happily married to the father of all 3 of my children so it's possible that skews my perception a bit but I just don't think that as long as my husband (their father) was in their lives as a father figure, that I could let that happen...

Now if the father was a dead beat who had nothing to do with them or he was abusive, and the stepfather was everything the bio dad wasn't, then that certainly changes things.

[JackFlash]

I'm divorced as well. I was out to dinner with my 8 year old daughter when she told me she calls my ex husbands girlfriend "mom" sometimes. I almost choked on my dinner. It took me a minute or two to respond.. So I asked her these questions. "You love her right? She does a good job at being your mom when your with your dad right? She responded yes to both questions. I told her that she was pretty lucky to have two women whom she loved and loved her back do much that she could call both of us mom. It hurt a lot to say those words to her.. Of course I don't ever want her to call another women mom, BUT my daughter has such a big heart.. I know she was asking my permission if it was ok to call her mom and I gave it. It totally depends on the kid.

I know this had to be difficult for you. Especially for a mom. I don't know you but I have much respect for you anyway for this. I'm not sure how I would handle that if I was in that situation myself. My ex never remarried, but if she had I would have had a major issue with this.

[Mertzon Man]

Daddy is a title that is earned, not inherited!

Bingo!!

[Hunter_Man]

I went through this recently. I had to sit down with my kids and talk to them about it. Children have one mother, and one father...period. they only call them by that name. I explained that I will always be their father, and no one else. they understood (7 at the time)

this is called parental alienation... some people believe in it, some people do not. I do.

[Speedgoat]

I call my step dad by his first name, or pops when it suits me.

[WCB]

Glad members are using the search feature a lot.

My daughter has a "boyfriend" who has a son and my daughter is telling him to call me grandpa. Personally I barely know the kid and feel uncomfortable with grandpa. Grandpa is what "I" picked out for my grandkids to call me. Now in time I suppose it wouldn't bother me but who knows how long they will be together...

[Pushbutton2]

Im sure we all have people we know who are going through the scenario of ex wife getting remarried and then the ex-wife wants the new husband to be called Daddy by the daughter. I am trying to help explain to a young man in dealing with this issue...very thin line here. The daughter is 5 years old and has been told by mommy that she can call the new stepfather...daddy. This of course is driving the biological dad bonkers. The biological dad is a good guy and spends tons of time with his daughter and pays big child support. Opinions? I bet there are a few out there. Tough subject.

i was 7 or 8 when my parents divorced. 14 ish when my mom got remarried.
My Dad wasn't around much, step dad was. I called my step dad, Dad around our house. When my did come over I called my step dad by his first name. Neither made an issue of it that I'm aware of. It was my choice.

In 1998 my 3 & 5 year old nephews came to live with us, we ended up adopting them. I answered to Uncle, Kyle and Dad. I let them decide. I am all three.
My wife however threw a fit cause they didn't call her Mom. It caused problems for a while. 1) it ****** me off and I went off on her in private. 2) it made them feel like they couldn't come to her. 3) We had had no relationship with them at all up until them coming to live with us.

I say to the young man. Dad is a word! A father is forever!

IMO
If he makes it an issue it will be an issue.
HE IS setting the example for his daughter.