Calling The New Step Father...".Daddy"

[elkbowhunter]

Im sure we all have people we know who are going through the scenario of ex wife getting remarried and then the ex-wife wants the new husband to be called Daddy by the daughter. I am trying to help explain to a young man in dealing with this issue...very thin line here. The daughter is 5 years old and has been told by mommy that she can call the new stepfather...daddy. This of course is driving the biological dad bonkers. The biological dad is a good guy and spends tons of time with his daughter and pays big child support. Opinions? I bet there are a few out there. Tough subject.

[lovemylegacy]

Sounds like mommy is trying to drive a wedge between her daughter and the real daddy.

[Atfulldraw]

can't control what other people do,

takes some people a lifetime to learn this.

I wouldn't like it, but I continually work to deserve my title,
what other people do or think is outside of my area of concern.

[dfkoon]

Tough subject. I never went thru it as the witch never remarried. But I had thought about it before. Betting that it is more the ex-wife than the new guy pushing for this. In which case it is like the kid is being pulled in two directions. For the kid sake, I'd just let it go and simply reinforce that he is the father during their time together

[brownwdbwhunter]

My son calls his step dad by his first name and he calls my wife by her fist name and it's fine .I don't feel that the ex wife should be pushing for this or it's going to cause a lot more problems

[elkbowhunter]

My son calls his step dad by his first name and he calls my wife by her fist name and it's fine .I don't feel that the ex wife should be pushing for this or it's going to cause a lot more problems

Agree....the ex-wife says she is not pushing it. Hard to believe a 5 year old comes up with the subject. In some instances if all parties agree probably not a big deal. Its a tough call.

[Burntorange Bowhunter]

I have been the step father to our girls for 10 years, since they were 15 and 17. The father is out of the picture. They call me by my name or B or some other funny stuff. The grandson calls me Bils.....partly because I told him that at 45 I ain't no grandpa. LOL.

[Fishndude]

Daddy is a title that is earned, not inherited!

[firemedic2105]

Sounds like mommy is trying to drive a wedge between her daughter and the real daddy.

This would be my first guess as well. My mom never even mentioned it with me or my sister that I recall. I just started calling my step-dad "Pop" after 16+ years, mainly because I finally woke up and realized he has contributed more to making me a man than the other person I no longer associate with

[diamond06]

Daddy is a title that is earned, not inherited!

This

[aftex99]

Let the child make the choice. I little girl cause my wife mommy but its her step mom. She say she has two mom.

[bowstalker210]

Technically I have no biological children but I do have three kids. Two from her sister and one from my sister. We have adopted all three and it took about 3 years before they started to call me dad. I think it should be the child's choice, as long as he "earns" the title I really don't see anything wrong with it.

[johnspencer]

I wasn't forced to call my step mom mom. That being said I don't call her mom now. My dad and her have been together 20 years. Kids know who their real parents are.

[Burntorange Bowhunter]

Daddy is a title that is earned, not inherited!

Done. But we still don't use the term.

[Fishndude]

Done. But we still don't use the term.

It was just a general statement not directed at anyone BOB but that's awesome.