Need some GS advice on post 20 yr olds

[Matt_C]

I did some of the things your son did when I was his age. I called my Dad and said, Dad I need a helping hand, he said " Son, reach up and put your finger on your elbow, now, follow it down to your hand. There's your helping hand." I was mad as heck but it worked.

[MadHatter]

Doesn't sound a whole lot different than my situation when I was 20. Dad didn't kick me out, but mom was not thrilled with the hours I was keeping...and it was coming. I got a rent house with some buddies and we partied all the time and had a blast for several years. The advantage I had was a job, it was with the family business and I knew if I ****ed around to bad I would get it from my uncle at work, mom, and dad....and if I got fired I knew I'd have to move back, and that there would be more rules than I cared to deal with.

2 Most important things I kept in mind then, and applys to your son now.

1. MAKE SURE...not to knock any of those girls up.
2. Have a real job, and get there everyday. We are in a labor crisis right now, jobs are easy to find. (I'd hire him tomorrow if you were closer)
3. No DWIs.


I always knew mom and dad loved me and would have taken me in, but I sure didn't want to have to ask.....so I guess a little pride didn't hurt either.

Good luck, sir!

Rule #1 = the only one that matters .
I watched a lot of buddies crash and burn over random hookups.

[Snowflake Killa]

He will be just fine.

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[Dale Moser]

Rule #1 = the only one that matters .

I watched a lot of buddies crash and burn over random hookups.

I tell all of my buddies sons when they get about 15...."rules number 1, 2, and 3...wrap it, Wrap It, WRAP IT!!".

I will tell my son the same thing, because you can't stop that powerful an instinct.


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[brushtrooper]

Noticed that.
So how is he OP?

23 and in the Army as you can tell by my avatar. We had some rough roads to traverse then but life is going good. Proud Father for sure

[Rubi513]

23 and in the Army as you can tell by my avatar. We had some rough roads to traverse then and still some now but life is going good. Proud Father for sure

That’s awesome!
Well done! Please tell him, thanks for his service.

[RascalArms]

23 and in the Army as you can tell by my avatar. We had some rough roads to traverse then but life is going good. Proud Father for sure

Great news. Glad it seems to have worked out for both of y’all.

[RyHolub]

My brother is going on 24 and is doing the same thing. My mother is an only parent and is having the same issues. She has finally had enough of his habits blowing money and is drawing the line. He is in school but is screwing off which ends up costing more money. I on the other hand am almost 21 and will be beginning Chiropractic school in January. There are just two kinds of kids in the world. Some of us who learn the easy way and some of us who learn the hard way. Your son is doing better than my brother who has never had a legitimate job. I on the other hand have had a full time and a part time job, while going to school full time and actively pursuing my real estate license. Although I’m not a parent, I have seen this occur with many friends and in my own family. Finally enough is enough and if they won’t let you help them figure it out, then you just have to let them do it on their own. Best of luck to your family in this difficult situation.


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[justindiehl7]

Just sounds enabled to me. Cut him off the mommy and daddy bank account and let him grow up. I’ve been paying for almost all of my own things since I was 16. Offer college to em but say no pass no pay. So if he wants to screw up he can waste his own money. I run my own business and got to school full time while doing it so I have no sympathy for a lazy kid who gets spoon fed by mommy and daddy and takes advantage of it. But on the bright side, at least he’s chasing women[emoji12]


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