So I'm a new Dad and I'm not sure if I'm doing it right or not. My wife keeps hounding me, but in MY mind, I feel like I'm doing a pretty good job. Maybe you seasoned Dads out there can hear me out and give me an honest opinion. So here we go...
Daily routine during the week:
I get home from work around 5:30 everyday, and I will admit, I come home and get in my recliner for about 30 minutes of R&R, supper is usually going, so I get the little one in the recliner with me and spend some time while momma is cookin. I usually eat first, then I get my daughter so my wife can eat. By now it's usually 7:30 or so. Between 7:30-9 sometimes I have her, sometimes my wife has her. I usually am try to mow or do the manly things around the house whether it's inside or outside. By 9, wife gives her a bath, feeds her, and has her in bed by 10. By 10, I'm cleaning bottles and getting them all ready for the next day.
Baby sleeps from 10pm-10-10:30am straight through without waking up. My wife doesn't work, so she is usually in bed until my daughter wakes up mid morning. My daughter also naps for a couple of hours in the afternoon. Usually 3-5 or so.
Then repeat.
On the weekends, I relieve my wife of the morning feedings and when she gets out of bed, I give her our daughter and try to get a little extra done around the house on the weekends.
I change diapers when there's an opportunity, I feed her when there's an opportunity. Her parents also love one street over so they are constantly over to see the grandbaby in the evenings.
Basically, her argument is that I don't pay enough attention to our daughter and I don't interact with everyone in the house.
In my eyes, I'm home for just a few hours during the week. My time is obviously limited compared to my wife's. I'm also tired from a long day and I feel like I'm doing what I can during the week, but she doesn't think so. Her other argument is that I'm on my phone too much in the evenings. To me, it's no different than her watching TV. Both are forms of entertainment, I just don't always care to watch what she's watching.
Yet, I don't have a valid argument when I come home and there are still dishes in the sink or clothes aren't washed, or the house isn't picked up. Her argument is "I'm taking care of our child all day" my argument is, "get out of bed when I do in the morning instead of sleeping till 10 and you'd have several hours to get things done around the house before our daughter even wakes up. There's also that 2 hour gap during nap time.
We are happily married without a doubt, and we love each other a lot. We're just butting heads a little.
What you say?
(Ultimately, it's what momma says, I know!)
Daily routine during the week:
I get home from work around 5:30 everyday, and I will admit, I come home and get in my recliner for about 30 minutes of R&R, supper is usually going, so I get the little one in the recliner with me and spend some time while momma is cookin. I usually eat first, then I get my daughter so my wife can eat. By now it's usually 7:30 or so. Between 7:30-9 sometimes I have her, sometimes my wife has her. I usually am try to mow or do the manly things around the house whether it's inside or outside. By 9, wife gives her a bath, feeds her, and has her in bed by 10. By 10, I'm cleaning bottles and getting them all ready for the next day.
Baby sleeps from 10pm-10-10:30am straight through without waking up. My wife doesn't work, so she is usually in bed until my daughter wakes up mid morning. My daughter also naps for a couple of hours in the afternoon. Usually 3-5 or so.
Then repeat.
On the weekends, I relieve my wife of the morning feedings and when she gets out of bed, I give her our daughter and try to get a little extra done around the house on the weekends.
I change diapers when there's an opportunity, I feed her when there's an opportunity. Her parents also love one street over so they are constantly over to see the grandbaby in the evenings.
Basically, her argument is that I don't pay enough attention to our daughter and I don't interact with everyone in the house.
In my eyes, I'm home for just a few hours during the week. My time is obviously limited compared to my wife's. I'm also tired from a long day and I feel like I'm doing what I can during the week, but she doesn't think so. Her other argument is that I'm on my phone too much in the evenings. To me, it's no different than her watching TV. Both are forms of entertainment, I just don't always care to watch what she's watching.
Yet, I don't have a valid argument when I come home and there are still dishes in the sink or clothes aren't washed, or the house isn't picked up. Her argument is "I'm taking care of our child all day" my argument is, "get out of bed when I do in the morning instead of sleeping till 10 and you'd have several hours to get things done around the house before our daughter even wakes up. There's also that 2 hour gap during nap time.
We are happily married without a doubt, and we love each other a lot. We're just butting heads a little.
What you say?
(Ultimately, it's what momma says, I know!)
, I say hire a teenage girl to help her out a couple of times a week.
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