Marriage Proposal question

[Sleepy]

So I'm going to be proposing when I get back from my dove hunt. After talking to my dad and brother, I've decided I'm going to use my late mothers wedding ring. Since she can't be here to be a part of everything, I figured it's the best way to be a part of it all. My soon to be wife also thinks dearly of my mom, even though she was never fortunate enough to meet her, through all the stories and talk with family, she feels as of she's known her her whole life. I really think this will be the ticket. My dad and brother have one thing they ask of me, and that is to have it in writing and also signed, that if for some reason, our marriage ever came to an end, that the ring be given back to me to keep it in the family. What says the green screen on this situation? I don't want to do it, but for a sense of security for my brother and dad, I want to do what makes them feel best.

Also, what type of documentation would it need to be for it to hold up, if for some reason, something ever happened. We, like everyone, don't plan on anything ever happening, but I guess it's just one of those things that you just really never know.

[curtintex]

Don't start your marriage out with an escape clause. On the day you propose, what happens when your marriage ends shouldn't be part of the discussion. If that's the terms of using your mom's wedding set, then don't use it. That's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth.

[Full curl]

I would keep the ring and give her a different ring. You could wear your moms ring around your neck during the wedding.

[cashcropper]

Dad should keep Moms ring. Discussion of what if we split up should never be on the table.

[JSquaredDaddy]

Sticky situation. If you give it to her, it's hers, for better or for worse. If your dad and brother don't feel good about that, use a different ring.

[Avezorak]

Don't start your marriage out with an escape clause. On the day you propose, what happens when your marriage ends shouldn't be part of the discussion. If that's the terms of using your mom's wedding set, then don't use it. That's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth.

Ive gotta agree 100%. I would never start out a marriage with a "If/When we split....."

Good luck and Congrats.

[akey]

Don't start your marriage out with an escape clause. On the day you propose, what happens when your marriage ends shouldn't be part of the discussion. If that's the terms of using your mom's wedding set, then don't use it. That's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth.

Cosign 100%. If that's a requirement then don't use the ring. Even if she handles it well it's still a wet blanket on the beginning of your engagement.

[RangerRick2012]

Agree...don't start with "an escape clause". Prayers for you both and for the best of futures together.

[bphillips]

Id like to say don't use it but its not much different than a prenup and those can be a great idea sometimes.

[Cajun Blake]

your mom will already be there in spirit

I concur with others, buy a separate engagement ring that has no strings attached

[sir shovelhands]

I'm sure many of the guys on the classifieds selling everything they own to pay for a divorce would probably wish they had an "escape clause" or pre-nup.

Hopefully you will never share in their pain, but it pays to be pragmatic.

[PDT4]

Don't start your marriage out with an escape clause. On the day you propose, what happens when your marriage ends shouldn't be part of the discussion. If that's the terms of using your mom's wedding set, then don't use it. That's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth.

Yessir what this guy says.

[AntlerCollector]

Don't start your marriage out with an escape clause. On the day you propose, what happens when your marriage ends shouldn't be part of the discussion. If that's the terms of using your mom's wedding set, then don't use it. That's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth.

This^^^^^^

[AntlerCollector]

Get her a ring that's HERS. Not one she's just borrowing

[Abcdj]

I hope this proposal thread goes better than the last one!