In a weird place... Need some advice..

[TMC50]

Thanks you guys and gals.... Really going to think on it this week... Will bring this back up when I do something

Thanks again

[The "Juan" 12]

Prayers up for ya trav. Hope you can find an answer to your prob bud!

[Snakelover]

Forgiveness would do YOU good. When you don't forgive someone, there is a sense in which they hold you in bondage. Forgiving them frees you to live your life without that baggage. You mentioned "rage." You don't need that in your life. Forgive him and free yourself from it. A relationship is not necessary.

At the young age of 2, my mom and donor divorced and my mom met mu "dad" who has raised me! Ive known no other.

As you said, you've known no other dad than the one who raised you. So, as far as honoring your mother and father, I think you're already doing that. JMO

[tx07]

My question is, was he on drugs or alcoholic?
Maybe he cleaned up and realizes his mistakes?
Why is your sister communicating with him?

[C.Read]

Forgiveness would do YOU good. When you don't forgive someone, there is a sense in which they hold you in bondage. Forgiving them frees you to live your life without that baggage. You mentioned "rage." You don't need that in your life. Forgive him and free yourself from it. A relationship is not necessary. As you said, you've known no other dad than the one who raised you. So, as far as honoring your mother and father, I think you're already doing that. JMO

Exactly what I was going to type.


My wife's father was the same as your biological father except he was a drug addict. He tried to sell my wife for $25 when she was less than a year old for drug money. He never beat his kids but did beat their mom, held a gun to her head and broken glass to her neck for hours. When my wifes mom finally left him she had a very strong hatred for the man and wouldn't let their kids have any contact with him. When my wife became a teenager she started talking to him when she would go visit his parents. Long story short, my wife and her sisters forgave their father and had a decent relationship with him. He died in a hotel fire 7 years ago........while they forgave him long ago, their mom never did before he died. She called my wife a few months after he passed, she was crying like no other, and told my wife that she was forgiving him for all that he had done to them. She said she had a dream about him and he came to her asking her for forgiveness for all the wrong he had done to her.


Forgive the man and set yourself free bud.

[Texas8point]

No text, no talk, no msg, no nothing. let the anger go and get on with your life.

[billfromtx]

I wouldnt give him the time of day. I would not respond.

This is just what I would do.

[holdem]

Life is too short to dance with ugly people.

[systemnt]

sign him up for buckmasters.

[BowCrazy]

All I got to say is that the bible said to honor your mother and father, with no conditions attached. You don't have to have a relationship with him, but you should should forgive, as your Father in heaven as forgiven you.

This ^^^^ If you don't forgive then this will bother and eat at you. Jesus said that if we don't forgive then how can he forgive us (Matt 6: 14 & 15, Mark 11: 25& 26). Forgiveness is easy once we set our mind to it and it will help you to move on.

Contact him and listen to his story, as said above he could have changed and wanting to make amends with you. If he doesn't then forgive him and then you never have to address him or the situation again.

[elkbowhunter]

Long winded read!!

At the young age of 2, my mom and donor divorced and my mom met mu "dad" who has raised me! Ive known no other. Growing up I questioned my sister who is 6 years older about my donor. She let me know that he used to beat us and my mom....really badly.. That set me in a rage as my mom is my rock..


For the past couple weeks as I've been preparing to move, my sister has been tagging me in post on FB. She is friends with that whole side of the family as she remembers them. My donor is friends with her and keeps saying things about being my "dad"

He hasn't paid a lick of child support, beat my mom and left her for dead, be me when I was defenseless, etc.. Basically he is POS...

He now keeps messaging me, emailing me, trying to be my friend on fb! It rages me to think he would want contact with me! I've emailed him back and let it be known VERY clear that I would beat him if I ever saw him...

What would you do in this?

Grace. We have all done things and regretted them. Just maybe he has come to a point of seeing what a POS he has been and wants to truly change. You call him donor but he is and will always be your father. Sounds like he was very mean, hateful and to beat a woman...well it don't get much lower but if you are a follower of Christ the answer is show him the same Grace God showed you. What you do know matters more than what he did. You never know, give him a chance. Not that you are going to run up and give him a big bear hug but that you would sit down and listen to what he has to say. Don't expect anything but you forgiving him. He is your father and you never know....people change. thats my advice.

[Captrix]

forgiveness doesnt mean you have to have a relationship with him or even trust him.

It sounds like you have no use for him. I recently cut ties with my dad, I had no use for him or his BS. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted. I forgive him for being a dumb *** but I don’t have a use for him in my life. The only thing I suggest is make it very clear why you do not want to be in contact with him.

[mperez76er]

sign him up for buckmasters.

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[EZ-10RANCH]

Forgive him for what he has done and let him know that he is forgiven. Then, if you decide to not communicate let him know and go on with your life. Secondly, tell your Dad (the man who raised you) just how much you love and appreciate him. God put him in your life for a reason and that reason is now tugging at your shirt tail.

[elkbowhunter]

pray