In a weird place... Need some advice..

[JeffJ]

The fact you havent gone looking for him to beat his arse is commendable. I say ignore him and call your REAL dad...he has been there for you and will offer support.

[Bonesplitter]

I figure if GOD can forgive us for our sin's, I could atleast listen to him. People make mistake's and sometives deserve a second chance. Im not saying he does but sometime's making peace is the best medicine.

[Blood Trail]

All I got to say is that the bible said to honor your mother and father, with no conditions attached. You don't have to have a relationship with him, but you should should forgive, as your Father in heaven as forgiven you.

[TMC50]

Some good stuff already.

Try to answer all the questions.

I'm 23, single, new career so I'm starting my life now. No kids, one niece, went through college with a 4.0 and have had a pretty good time doing it all.

My sister was always with friends and what not. She was the age where she could go outside and play. I've seen videos (shhhh don't tell me mom) of the beatings and how he thought it was funny. He was an alcoholic like no other. He has another child after me who I've spoken with not knowing who it was.

[160class]

Exactly what you did

[Johnny]

All I got to say is that the bible said to honor your mother and father, with no conditions attached. You don't have to have a relationship with him, but you should should forgive, as your Father in heaven as forgiven you.

I couldn't have said it any better myself...the voice of reason.

[lameduck]

All I got to say is that the bible said to honor your mother and father, with no conditions attached. You don't have to have a relationship with him, but you should should forgive, as your Father in heaven as forgiven you.

Very well said. And things like this should not be put on the world wide web.

Facebook is a cancer for this.

[curtintex]

All I got to say is that the bible said to honor your mother and father, with no conditions attached. You don't have to have a relationship with him, but you should should forgive, as your Father in heaven as forgiven you.

It'd be awful tough, but this is very good advice!

[EnW]

Sounds like you already handled it

X2.

[Cam-Mac]

Facebook is a cancer.

x2

[Dugie]

I have been in a somewhat similar situation, forgiving does not mean relationship, it also doesn't mean you even have to communicate with him. But hate, resentment in your heart etc...cost you not him at this point.

Took me several years to get there but it can be done.

[Blondie]

I would ask sister not to tag you anymore and/or change your settings so you cannot be tagged. I think you can also block specific people from messages and friend requests.

[4-fletch]

i figure if god can forgive us for our sin's, i could atleast listen to him. People make mistake's and sometives deserve a second chance. Im not saying he does but sometime's making peace is the best medicine.

good advice.imo

[firemedic2105]

I've been dealing with a somewhat similar situation over the last couple of years. You can forgive him without having a relationship and make your own peace. Explain to him that you have forgiven him for the past, but that you have no intention of forgetting. Thank him for teaching you how NOT to be a husband and a father, and for ultimately giving you the opportunity to meet the man that is truly your father, tell him that you will pray for him, and then explain to him that you have moved on with your life and you desire no further contact. There is a very good chance that if you allow him to speak his peace, he will offer a shallow apology, followed by attempts to justify what was done in the past. It will only raise your ire again, and create more resentment. Block him on FB and, as sad as it might be, if he continues to monitor you through your sister, block her too.

I know it sucks brother, will definitely be praying for you.

[Atfulldraw]

Twenty years can change a person.

Getting off the sauce can too.....


Hope you are able to find some kind of peace with this.