What does it mean to be a man?

[John Paul]

If anyone seriously wants to tackle that issue, check out the book “kingdom Man” by Tony Evens. I am listening to it and it is darn good.

[Drycreek3189]

Some of you scoff at the question, but I think it is an important one. There is quite a bit of whining on this site about societal woes in our modern day. It is my belief that those woes are directly related to concept and responsibility of a man. Men are softer, less bold and allow ourselves to be more moveable than generations before. Sure there is a societal component to it, but we relinquish our masculinity incrementally and society suffers from it.

There have been some great responses, keep them coming.

Gotta watch out for that toxic masculinity though, or the libs will have you in the looney bin.....

[okrattler]

For sure. No matter what lies we try to sell ourselves, a woman cannot play a man’a Role, nor can a man play a woman’s role. Our kids learn more by what is demonstrated than what is stated. It was once described to me as “more is caught than taught.” It’s the reason I get upset when I don’t handle a situation, because I know my kids are watching far more than they are listening to em. Either way a woman cannot demonstrate masculine traits.

I think just as damaging is men who are in the home but totally disengaged. Whether it’s working too much or man who hasn’t accepted responsibility and spends his time in his man cave or playing video games, his marriage sons and daughters are missing his leadership.

It is a sad state when you consider 50% of marriages end up split and part of the other half are disengaged.

I was raised by my Great Grandma. The only men I was around very much was my Uncle and my Grandpa other than the occasional boyfriend my mom had when I was growing up. I've met a lot of great guys from growing up around my Uncle and Grandpa. Guys that they were friends with. I wasn't taught to be any certain way other than the normal things kids are taught. But I had men I looked up to and strived to be more like. I also found out from a young age the kind of men I didn't want to be like through personal experiences. I grew up being disappointed when my dad would promise to see me but that day never came. I'm a lot of things but I ain't a liar. I watched a man beat my mom in front of me when I was a kid. I figured out pretty quick I'd never be a man that shoved women around.

Kids ain't stupid. They'll form their own opinion of what kind of person they want to be just from the people they're around on a daily basis. Even from people they're not around very much too I guess. Nobody made me the way I am today but me. I could have turned out any way I wanted by taking the experiences I've had in my life in a completely different way. At the end of the day we all have a choice to do what's right. We have control over the kind of men we want to be.

[Playa]

Gotta watch out for that toxic masculinity though, or the libs will have you in the looney bin.....

Dr Warren Ferrell, author of The Boy Crisis, describes “toxic masculinity” in the best terms I’ve heard. He describes it as testosterone bottled up. Basically society has made the normal expression of testosterone taboo, with no outlet it festers, especially adolescent boys with no male model. The result is school shootings. That’s not a direct quote and he explains it better. But frankly I thought it was a bunk concept until I heard his explanation and it makes sense.

Basically the society trying to tame men has created the wildest of beasts because you cannot curb what is biologically going to occur.

[Playa]

I was raised by my Great Grandma. The only men I was around very much was my Uncle and my Grandpa other than the occasional boyfriend my mom had when I was growing up. I've met a lot of great guys from growing up around my Uncle and Grandpa. Guys that they were friends with. I wasn't taught to be any certain way other than the normal things kids are taught. But I had men I looked up to and strived to be more like. I also found out from a young age the kind of men I didn't want to be like through personal experiences. I grew up being disappointed when my dad would promise to see me but that day never came. I'm a lot of things but I ain't a liar. I watched a man beat my mom in front of me when I was a kid. I figured out pretty quick I'd never be a man that shoved women around.

Kids ain't stupid. They'll form their own opinion of what kind of person they want to be just from the people they're around on a daily basis. Even from people they're not around very much too I guess. Nobody made me the way I am today but me. I could have turned out any way I wanted by taking the experiences I've had in my life in a completely different way. At the end of the day we all have a choice to do what's right. We have control over the kind of men we want to be.

No argument here you are spot on. You get to choose. You can’t sit around and blame your father who wasn’t around or whomever, at some point you get to choose.

[AtTheWall]

I don't judge any man.

I can only claim my role...and my role only.


Serve your country - push your *** beyond hope.....come home and provide for your family. Over and over and over again, for 4 years - take it 20........HELLS YEAH!

My bar isn't normal but a few, the 1% - GET IT.\

Operator level - those who rolled with OPCON and RESPONSE on mission - know what I mean.

PEACE!

[Acameron52]

Lots of good men on here!

[JayB]

"Manhood and Christlikenss are synonymous"...Dr. Ed Cole

oh look...what is that?

[okrattler]

No argument here you are spot on. You get to choose. You can’t sit around and blame your father who wasn’t around or whomever, at some point you get to choose.

I agree. I've heard that excuse many times from men who made the wrong decisions in life. I feel like blaming my dad is a cop out. I've made wrong decisions in my life but that was my bad. I won't blame nobody but myself. He's apologized many times for things that have happened in the past. That's a major difference between my dad and I. He dwells on things that have happened in the past. Neither of us can change that. We're in control of what happens now and in the future. If he called me and needed my help right now I'd be there for him. That's just the way I am. I don't hold a grudge against him. I never have and never will. Because I need to be better than that. Life is too short to be holding things against people. We've all made mistakes.

[BBReezen]

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