Divorce

[austinmike]

My only question is, what has changed SINCE the divorce? Are you still the same person, is she?

Many of us, especially when we are young, don't know what the heck relationships are about and how a healthy one is supposed to function.

I don't know your situation but I'd venture to say that there are things you need to learn. Have you invested in yourself to make you a better partner when the opportunity comes again?

Just my .02cents...

I didnt have a relationship with god 4 years ago I spend a lot of time alone I miss being a family we got one son he’s 12 we share him I would love to have my family under one roof I learned a lot I was living my life wrong
4 years ago all I did was work and come home mad

[Rack Ranch]

Prayed for God's will to be done in your lives.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

[12RingKing]

I was once told that getting back with an Ex is like trying to put a terd back in your butt....

Y’all divorced for a reason, it probably is the same as it was then.

Praying god gives you what you need not necessarily what you think you want right now.

[HoustonHunter94]

My parents got divorced when I was 13. Got back together my Junior year in HS but never got remarried that I know of. Were together 25 yrs after that until my Dad passed away last year.

[Shane]

God hates divorce. God loves to restore broken people and relationships. God is a master at renewing what is worn out, rebuilding that which is broken, making old things new, healing the brokenhearted, comforting the weary...etc.

God without relationship is religion - relationships without God are at an extreme disadvantage and will never fully realize the power of unity that God has intended.

I say it can work, but only if you put Jesus Christ at the center of your heart, and your ex-wife does the same - invite him into the relationship and there you will find life.

This^

Praying for you guys.

[jer_james]

Dont force anything - there is no need. Just live and be a good person towards her, and let what's natural be natural.

[progolferv1]

Praying for you bud. I disagree with many comments about it being different the se one time. People can change for the better. I have seen it many times. God is in contro and as long as you allow him to be things always work out. Many times challanges in life are designed to bring us closer to him. Nothing in a marriage can’t be overcome as long as two people are willing to work together.

Look into the hideaway experience. It’s a 4 day marriage retreat. Its very intense, and will change you personally and spiritually. You can always PM me if you have any questions about it.

[SaltwaterSlick]

God hates divorce. God loves to restore broken people and relationships. God is a master at renewing what is worn out, rebuilding that which is broken, making old things new, healing the brokenhearted, comforting the weary...etc.

God without relationship is religion - relationships without God are at an extreme disadvantage and will never fully realize the power of unity that God has intended.

I say it can work, but only if you put Jesus Christ at the center of your heart, and your ex-wife does the same - invite him into the relationship and there you will find life.

This is SOUND advice. If your wife is open to uniting that bond between the two of you, the glue that will hold it together is Christ. And Christ has told husbands to love their wife as He loved the church. Put her above all others. How did Christ love? He was a servant. He took the initiative to care for His church. If your wife is open to being loved like that, and you are open to loving like that, it will work, and work beyond your wildest dream. If either side is not willing to be all in, then it will only cause the both of you misery. If indeed you have "changed" as you have suggested, she needs to know that... Best way other than to tell her, is to show her... If you share a son, love on the son to the point he can't help but tell his mom about it and that he sees the change in you... He is indeed the strongest link/bond between the 2 of you. Strengthen that bond. Just a suggestion, but it's a good place to start... First of all it MUST start with God through His Son Jesus Christ.

I will pray God's will in this for the two, no 3 of you. You are a good man to want your family united.

[El Viejo]

I would hope you are both members of a strong Bible believing church. That will help. Perhaps some Godly counseling, as well. You will be in my prayers.

[rattler03]

I know of 2 couples that have divorced and remarried, and they have both been back together for quite awhile.

prayers for the two of you ... if its God's will, it will happen, but I'd advice you against trying to force it. I've found that when I am praying for a specific outcome, I'm missing the point of being a believer ... I should have been praying for the strength to come out of the situation a better man regardless of the outcome. One has to really, truly trust God to put it completely in His hands and let Him lead the way. Its hard to do sometimes.

[Pacman70]

Tough deal all around. I also know of a couple that divorced and remarried. They have now been back together for 7 years. Best of luck to you. Prayers sent.

[JHT]

First of all good luck with whatever path you take.

There has to be more to the story. I have never heard of anyone going splitzo because of "coming home from work mad".

If I had to guess she's just messing with you by saying she wants you back then says she doesn't. Go all in or quit entertaining the idea. To me it sounds like she thought the grass would be greener and it isn't hence the drama.

I hope you two are leaving this idea out of your son's head. He isn't old enough to deal with the back in forth.

[whakm]

Whatever you decide, take it slow. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and sometimes we forget the bad and focus only on the good. That's fine for memories but is no way to plan a future. You have to be happy with yourself. Being with another person won't fix what's wrong. Remember, a healthy relationship is two people giving 100%. Good Luck, walk with God and listen to him.

[k-town]

Move on ...

[breadman]

answer your question . yes and it didn't work , people change mostly from bad to worse !! don't put yourself threw it , suck it up and move on.