Originally posted by Shane
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My wife and I went through a pre-marital counseling class taught by a marriage and family counseling professor here at ACU. It was several weeks long. Great class. One week we took personality profile tests. The next week we reviewed the results and talked about what they meant, etc.... After class, the counselor called M.C. and I over. He said, "I don't know how to say this, so I'm just gonna say it. I don't think you two should marry each other."
We asked why. He said that after looking at the personality profiles, we were both type A personalities who like to be in charge, can be stubborn, are direct, etc... He said he was afraid we'd drive each other crazy and fight a lot. He recommended that we think long and hard about it before getting married. We'd already been dating for a year and a half, so we thought we had it all covered. We looked at each other and then looked at him and said, "Thanks, but we ARE gonna get married, and we're NOT gonna get divorced."
We finished the class and eventually got married a couple months later, as scheduled. That was over 26 years ago. About 2 years later, after M.C. had finished her master's degree in marriage and family therapy, that professor hired her to work for him. I saw him a month or so ago, and we laughed about that story. He didn't remember telling us that, but I sure do.
He was right about one thing though. We did fight about some really stupid and trivial things early on, in our individual efforts to run everything. But we learned to stop trying to rule each other's lives eventually, and we got along GREAT once we stopped trying to be each other's bosses.
My wife and I went through a pre-marital counseling class taught by a marriage and family counseling professor here at ACU. It was several weeks long. Great class. One week we took personality profile tests. The next week we reviewed the results and talked about what they meant, etc.... After class, the counselor called M.C. and I over. He said, "I don't know how to say this, so I'm just gonna say it. I don't think you two should marry each other."
We asked why. He said that after looking at the personality profiles, we were both type A personalities who like to be in charge, can be stubborn, are direct, etc... He said he was afraid we'd drive each other crazy and fight a lot. He recommended that we think long and hard about it before getting married. We'd already been dating for a year and a half, so we thought we had it all covered. We looked at each other and then looked at him and said, "Thanks, but we ARE gonna get married, and we're NOT gonna get divorced."
We finished the class and eventually got married a couple months later, as scheduled. That was over 26 years ago. About 2 years later, after M.C. had finished her master's degree in marriage and family therapy, that professor hired her to work for him. I saw him a month or so ago, and we laughed about that story. He didn't remember telling us that, but I sure do.
He was right about one thing though. We did fight about some really stupid and trivial things early on, in our individual efforts to run everything. But we learned to stop trying to rule each other's lives eventually, and we got along GREAT once we stopped trying to be each other's bosses.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Your story demonstrates to me, that no matter what Someone else says or believes, you found your LOVE. That is the way I feel about -C-
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