Getting married to the church

[texan4ut]

Marriage not based on God in my opinion won't last. She needs to move on. Just my .02

[Encinal]

Seems like there a bunch of Buddhist and Hindu Marriages that last????

[mudcatz71]

I say go ahead and make her happy. Have y'all discussed rather or not kids if y'all plan to have any will be raised in the church?

[flywise]

Seems like there a bunch of Buddhist and Hindu Marriages that last????

thats because they dont find their wives in beer joints

[dac6933]

Marriage not based on God in my opinion won't last. She needs to move on. Just my .02

And the thumpers wonder why people have a bad taste for religion and judgement.

[sir shovelhands]

Regardless of your faith, if your fiancée wants a church venue, I'd go with that. Don't let the Bible thumpers around here get to you. They mean well, but you just have to live your life as you see fit.

Some mean well, some are just plain rude.

[CaptainDave]

If you aren't required to become a member of said church if you don't want to, then I don't see much reason why getting married in the church would be a big deal.

With that said, religion is a hot topic for many people, not any different than money or politics. Guess what I'm saying is, you better be sure you and her are on the same page regarding religion even if you have different view points. For example, if you don't plan on joining and/or attending a church, best be sure she is good with that.

[gatorgrizz27]

Well, since you're here asking for opinions...

I agree with those who said its not about the building. My wife and I are both Christians, and we got married in a church building other than our own, due to the logistics of where people were staying and our reception. Had we gotten married on a beach, mountain, or back yard, it wouldn't have changed the fact that our marriage is sacred in the eyes of God.

I also agree with those who said now is the right time to look at your personal relationship with God and talk about it with your wife to be. It is important and will cause problems, even if she says she's ok with it now. There are a lot of people who have had bad experiences in a particular church and gotten turned off to "religion", and just need a fresh start with Christ.

Unfortunately, being an "ok guy", which I'm sure you are, isn't enough to go to heaven, as I believe what the Bible says about it. Every one of us has done something wrong at some point in our lives (daily), which separates us from God. The only way to be with Him is to be forgiven of our sins, which can only happen through Jesus Christ.

Additionally, if you get married in a church, they will likely ask you if you swear your vows to God as well as your wife. If you say that you do, you're lying to her right off the bat unfortunately.

I truly hope that you take the time to think about this and that you can experience God and what he desires for you, regardless of the past issues with that church. If that is sorted out, it will be fine wherever you decide to get married.

[Mud Shark]

Marriage not based on God in my opinion won't last. She needs to move on. Just my .02

I'm a devout Christian and believer, but that's me. I try not to judge those that view it differently.
I agree that a marriage should have God in the center of the marriage, but I also know plenty of devout and believing Christians that are miserable and/or divorced. Just because God is at the center of the relationship is no guarantee, but it certainly seems like it raises the odds in favor of longevity. I also know people, each from a different religion, that have been married for over 49 years. One is Jewish and one is Christian...go figure.

To the OP, just out of curiosity, if you're not a religious person, why bother with the marriage? Seems like you're going to make a promise to a God you don't believe in, in a place you don't believe for a relationship title. Not being a smart ***, I'm just curious....why bother?

[Mud Shark]

Marriage not based on God in my opinion won't last. She needs to move on. Just my .02

I'm a devout Christian and believer, but that's me. I try not to judge that view it differently.
I agree that a marriage should have God in the center of the marriage, but I also know plenty of devout and believing Christians that are miserable and/or divorced. Just because God is at the center of the relationship is no guarantee, but it certainly seems like it raises the odds in favor of longevity.

To the OP, just out of curiosity, if you're not a religious person, why bother with the marriage? Seems like you're going to make a promise to a God you don't believe in, in a place you don't believe in for a relationship title. Not being a smart ***, I'm just curious....why bother?

[Bowhuntamistad]

Marriage not based on God in my opinion won't last. She needs to move on. Just my .02

One of the best marriages I know isn't remotely religious at all.

The worst I know revolves around religion and it consumes their lives.

Marriage is about the couple, not religion. You shouldn't need religion to make it work.


Just sayin'....

[dac6933]

One of the best marriages I know isn't remotely religious at all.

The worst I know revolves around religion and it consumes their lives.

Marriage is about the couple, not religion. You shouldn't need religion to make it work.


Just sayin'....

[Bowhuntamistad]

Happy Wife, happy life

This is the biggest crock of BS in human existence. If you start off thinking like this, the marriage is already one sided.

Happy couple=happy life. Nobody's happiness outweighs another partners, ever! You should both be happy, equally, with whatever is at hand.

[Buckshot4900]

I'm a devout Christian and believer, but that's me. I try not to judge that view it differently.

I agree that a marriage should have God in the center of the marriage, but I also know plenty of devout and believing Christians that are miserable and/or divorced. Just because God is at the center of the relationship is no guarantee, but it certainly seems like it raises the odds in favor of longevity.



To the OP, just out of curiosity, if you're not a religious person, why bother with the marriage? Seems like you're going to make a promise to a God you don't believe in, in a place you don't believe in for a relationship title. Not being a smart ***, I'm just curious....why bother?

My thoughts exactly.


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[BoneDigger]

Marriage not based on God in my opinion won't last. She needs to move on. Just my .02

I will only say that you are incorrect.