Ok so I really don't like posting things on here that don't relate to hunting but today I'm making an exception since I really need some advice. So my girlfriend and her family are leaving to Mexico to visit some family members for the holidays and I have been invited to go. They want to leave on the 23rd and come back on the 3rd of January. The issue is I don't know what to do! I want to go with her because I would have fun with her. Her grandma remodeled a whole room just for me to stay in and her parents are also excited for me to go. Her dad even got someone to loan a rifle for me down there so I can go hunting since he knows that's what I love to do. These are the Pros of me going. The reasons I'm undecided is because I would be gone for a lot of days. I would not only miss Christmas with my family but New Years too! Deer season would basically be over for the year for me which as corny as it sounds it actually makes me sad. I keep thinking that what if I go and some of her family from down there gives us issues and makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable. What if I stay and regret it? I don't want to go and cause problems neither! I do have the option of coming back earlier on the bus but I'm really not to comfortable with that idea or at least coming alone.I've been with her for 3 years and going on 4. We aren't married which is why I also kind of hold back but I do Love this girl and we have talked about one day settling down if God permits. Her grandma and parents love me so there are no issues there but I'm really stuck. I know at the end of the day it'll be up to me on what to do but I was hoping to see if you guys could give me some advice that would probably help my decision. I'm making this a big deal when it's not even close so I apologize for that just would like to hear some opinions on it. Thanks!
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Sounds like you have a chance to go hunting in Mexico. I would go! You only live once. -
Just go, have fun, and spend time with your family when you get back. You don't get too many opportunities like this and none once you have children and a family of your own.Comment
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Let me help you out if you wanna keep that woman. GO!Comment
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We need more info...... Where in Mexico and how much land does the family have?Comment
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It sounds like the reasons for going far outweigh reasons for not going. Start packing!Comment
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tough decision either way. I would go and try it if you are thinking marriage is in the cards. I would rather be with the person I love over the holidays even if the location was somewhat unfavorable. In your case it seems like you could have the chance to hunt Mexico....Comment
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It's 9 hours from the border in a ranch in San Luis Potosi. I'm not sure how big the property is but there are a lot of hills/mountains similar to West Texas. There are deer but people don't respect the laws there so they are scarce but there are alot of small game/varmints and Javelina.Originally posted by GarGuy View PostComment
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All those what ifs will never be answered if you never go. Id say go and have fun. Im sure she would be more than willing to leave early too if a real problem came about while down there.Comment
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That is tough but these would be my questions.
1) Who would it hurt or disappoint more if you were not there, your family or your gf?
2) Would your gf completely understand and not question your commitment to her?
3) Is there anyone in your family that this could be there last Christmas? (Grandparents etc)
4) Christmas isn't about you so who would it mean more to if you were there?
5) Can you afford that many days off work?
Be in prayer until you have to make a decision and ask that God makes it clear for you and whatever you feel you should do, stick to it and don't allow yourself to wander about the what ifs.
Good luck and Merry Christmas - AlexComment
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Why not split the difference and go there for part of the time? I don't think it's unreasonable for you to expect her to spend part of the holidays with your family as well...Comment
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I’d have my bags packedComment
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Hey thanks this helped a lot as well as many of the other posts. To begin with, my mom thinks it's ok for me to go since I don't go out much. I talked to my dad about it and he said if I don't want to go then just stay but if I want to then go ahead and go. My girlfriend said if I stay or go she would respect the decision I make and still be happy with it even though she really wants me to go. Fortunately, we are blessed and everyone is doing ok in my family at the moment for me to be able to make the trip. If I was there it would most defiantly mean more to my girlfriend than anyone else. It would make her year! Work is really not an issue because I work for my dad at his business so he doesn't mind and also we are usually slow at this time of year so he won't be working much neither. As far as prayer goes, I have been doing that hoping to make the right decision wanting God to really make it for me. It sure helped that I'm sharing it with you guys on here so far so once again thank you and everyone who's taking the time to comment on here!Originally posted by SETXoutdoorsman View PostComment
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