divorce

[Graysonhogs]

The most amazing thing about heartbreak... it won't kill you.

It takes time to deal with all the emotions involved and get your life sorted. There are a million clichés and no one wants to hear them.



My suggestion is no matter how hard it is... get up, get busy - find something to focus on. Find a hobby that makes you feel good. Find a way to laugh - friends, funny movies, something to start bringing the positive back into each day. Over time, that positive will start to take over the negative.



And of course as stated above, love those babies and make every second count!



So sorry you have to deal with this.

Well said

[Hot4huntin]

Prayers sent for you and your family!!

[eaglegolfj]

Sorry to hear of your troubles. But be there for the kids when you can, and keep your head up my friend it will be OK.

[Bigyummy77]

Stay strong and pray! What you choose to do now will continue to effect them. The things you do and how you carry youself will be witnessed by your children forever. They will see gow you handle certain things and if you stay strong and respect yourself as well as the things you do, they will take notice. It can be devistating to a child to see either of their parents "give up". They are still who you do things for, but do it for yourself first. Look into those things you wanted to do in the past, stay motivated! Do something that means more to another than yourself. Volunteer some of your time. But like I said before, PRAY!

[doright]

You will receive a lot of advice on this and most of it is good advice, however most of it is easier said than done. I have not been through a divorce so I will offer no advice. I will however pray for you. When my first wife died I gathered my kids together and we had a long talk about what comes next.I told them it was okay to grieve our loss but at the same time we have to remember that life goes on and we have two choices. We go with it or get run over by it.We hurt for a while and 14 years later we still hurt to a degree but we cant stop living just because we are hurt. again I will pray for you to find the strength to go on with life one day at a time. Remember that Gods plan is not always our plan . He will have something for you down the road.

[Dusty Britches]

So I posted a few weekes ago that my wife or 12 years wanted a divorce. I have done everything I can think of since then to be perfect to no avail. I love her and the kids we have together. She has filed and unless it becomes along draw out thing will be finalized February 8th. So what do I do now? What do I do with life? I worked my butt off for them, not for me. I wanted them to have the best of everything in life. I was going to school to be able to get a better job for them not for me. What do I do from here on out? I dont want someone new, I dont want to start over, I love her. I feel that I have failed at life because when we started a family I am suppose to support and take care of all of them forever and now thats not happening. I feel I am a failure as a man becausr I wont always be there for them, for all their needs. Where do I go from here? I have lost all motivation at work, towards school, towards anything. I dont want to go anywhere, see anyone, talk to anyone, do anything. At work I just sit starring at a screen all day, when I try to work I cant stay on task because my mind is spinning 1000 miles a min all about her. She supported me through 8 years in the navy, we have 3 kids. Things werent always the best but she always pushed me in the right direction. Without her I wouldnt be who I am today.

You should tell her this - send her a card.

And you need some counseling. That is classic depression and rightfully earned. She can't stop you from loving her or your kids. You might not live in the same house, but you can continue in the direction you feel is best. Keep taking care of them. God will intervene. Prayers for you and your family.

[deer farmer]

Kyle !! Man UP, Be the Rock. U were a Navy Man. U know how to get there. Your Kids need someone sturdy. Seek someone to talk to. It is not the end for you. I have been there, it got better for me and it will get better for you. It is not easy in the beginning of divorce, but be the Rock. Family and others will see that in you. Life can be very rewarding.

[Shoe]

I know how you are feeling. I never got a divorce but my wife of 31 years passed away. I was lost without her. I do not remember the year after she died. I don't remember much of what I did. I do remember thinking about suicide a lot. I finally went to a therapist who helped me a lot. All I can tell you is it gets a little better every day. Do not do anything rash. Take one day at a time. Keep doing what you are doing. Time will heal and you will work it out. I am praying for you.....

[bloodtrailer28]

Just because you're not a husband doesn't mean you're not a father. Keep doing the best for your kids that you can. They need you now more than you need them. These things are hard on the little people.

Well said.

[Bonesplitter]

Dude...your not a failure. You can do everything your children need. Her needs, well she left so that's now on her. Live your life, enjoy it and your children will be happy. It's tough but it's definitely not the end of life. Trust me, I am happier...and have more money in my pocket than when I was married. Kids are way more happier as well. We do everything together.

[Keg]

Been there..done it.... All I can say is hang in there..stay busy..protect yourself financially(if thats possible).... Its the best thing that ever happened to me..now that I look back....

[TexasCanesFan]

Time heals most everything man.

Focus on your kids and not her. They are your blood and will need you forever.

[Drycreek3189]

The most amazing thing about heartbreak... it won't kill you.
It takes time to deal with all the emotions involved and get your life sorted. There are a million clichés and no one wants to hear them.

My suggestion is no matter how hard it is... get up, get busy - find something to focus on. Find a hobby that makes you feel good. Find a way to laugh - friends, funny movies, something to start bringing the positive back into each day. Over time, that positive will start to take over the negative.

And of course as stated above, love those babies and make every second count!

So sorry you have to deal with this.

Pretty much says it all. Sorry about this, but life goes on, and you have the kids to be concerned with.

[kyle]

As me see the kids go I will have them alot but I just dont see it I guess. The paper her attorney has draw up at her request says I get them monday from 730pm til school starts tuesday, weds from 730pm til school Thursday, thrusday from after school til sunday at 730pm. My attorney laughed and said that is more time then fathers that have custody. All that I can see at this point is the negative though, I dont know how to get that out of my head. We have been in counseling since april and she said no more. I have told everything going through my head and what I have put on here as well.

[Tmag]

Praying for you Kyle. For strength to get through each and every day, for wisdom to know when and what to say, for love to overcome this mountain in front of you, and for the peace of God to surround you.