getting married next saturday!

[BgDav1s]

I was told this by my LPO in the Navy a few weeks prior to my marriage in Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. Well we were stationed there together, but got married in Jamaica.

"Love comes and goes in a marriage. Both of you are gonna wake up some days loving each other and some days you won't even want to look at each other. but as long as you both remain each others best friend the bad days just won't seem that important."

He was no Shakespeare or Tolstoy, but after 21 years of marriage I can attest that the guy had some pretty profound knowledge.

[Davoh]

1. Have your bachelor party at least 2 days before the wedding, walking down the aisle hungover on 4 hours sleep with bags under your eyes is zero fun nor will it impress your new bride (although it will be the last time you can pull that off and still get some that night )

2. Have someone make you and your bride to go plates of food. You will be so busy at the reception you won't eat much. At the end of the night at the house/hotel you will be really glad to have an easy meal.

Agree with both of these. However, the night before, DO get together with your groomsmen. Have them crash at your place, or crash at their place. You WILL be nervous, and I promise you, you will not know what all is going on. If they're worth a darn they'll help you keep it together.

I stayed with my best man and one of the other groomsmen the night before. They made sure I got to the wedding place on time, and kept me from wigging out too bad.

Definitely get some sleep though.

Also, make sure you have lots of other people taking pictures too, not just the official photographer. You don't want to rely on the amateur photographers, but there's great candid shots that the photographer may not get. I asked folks to put their cell phones away while we were doing the official posed shots and such, and didn't clarify for them to take the other normal pictures. I'm sure we missed out on a lot of other great moments that could have been caught otherwise.

[Chef]

Most important thing I can tell you after being with mine for 20+ years.

1. If you are done, leave.
2. Think with the right head.
3. Respect and trust goes a long way!!!

[TMC50]

I got married on June 14 of this year... Some things I have learned in this short time and on the wedding day is

1- Don't forget the lines the priest says.... Yes I said " In sickness and wealth" and yes you can see it on the video. It is funny. we both got a good laugh

2- Have fun the night before but dont over do it. My bestman and a groomsmen sat in a pool with some of my family enjoying the night together before and still got some decent sleep.

3- Eat a good breakfast. It might be the only full meal you get that day. I know I didnt eat lunch and barely ate at the reception

4- DO NOT GET ON THE MIC AT THE RECEPTION. We got a good laugh about the stupid stuff I was saying. Heck the reception was about us right?

5- Keep the little things close. We laugh, cry, fight, argue... .all that but we pray together every night no matter the situation. It keeps us close physically and spiritually.


That is what I have taken out of my marriage so far. We have a great time always together and always remember to keep eachother close. I work 80-90 hrs a week during football and she still finds time to make me laugh.

We watched our videos together and there was no "what if we did this or that" it was laughs and her crying. It is a special day so enjoy it. I know I did, maybe a little too much.

Something cool that our video did was get the wedding party to talk on camera and it was a total surprise to us but great to see.

[Tony Pic]

Congrats! Wish you guys the best life has to offer.
Love her, be true and help each others dreams become realized.

[jsuggs]

Always ask "how does that make you feel" about everything! Leave it at that

[pigstika1978]

Always ask "how does that make you feel" about everything! Leave it at that

Lmbo!!!

[Steady_Hand]

After 40 years of wedded bliss all I can say is go nearly deaf early in the marriage. If she thinks you don't hear good it covers up a lot of mistakes on your part.

Classic! I think my dad is the master at this...

[Hands On]

It's called selective hearing....Jacob......ehh!

[coldgas]

Commit commit commit!
Know right now that there will be problems.
Never mention the "D" word not even jokingly.
Even when you wake up one day and you don't "feel" like you love her, make the decision to love her anyway. Love is not a feeling, its an action.
The first couple of years is hard. Stick it out.
Have fun and dont sweat the small things.
If you are Christian then tithe. Money is the number 1 reason that couples fight.
You will both make mistakes. Forgive and forget.
God is the glue that holds you together.

When you wake up a few years from now and find yourself more in love than the day you met then you know your doing it right.
Congrats and God bless!!!

[4Bits]

If you chose well it will be fantastic.!!!! Just always remember that if she aint happy you aint gonna be happy. Best of luck!!!

[Eric T.]

It is work. Use this it drives them nuts.
You know when something is wrong with her and then you ask what is wrong and she replies nothing. This would burn me up. So now when she says nothing, I turn into This is the best day of my life routine and after hours of being upbeat and loving everything she will eventually break and say " Don't you want to know what is wrong". Usually this is where I dig the hole even deeper when I reply " You said there was nothing wrong" and leave it at that. It works most of the time. The premise is to have fun and enjoy. If she is not having fun it doesn't mean you do not have to. Good luck and pray to God for guidance through the years.

[Texas8point]

23 years in and my only advice would be not to do it !

[Mike D]

Don't ever go to bed angry... even if that means staying up until 2am when you have to get up at 5... believe me, you learn to let the little crap go a lot quicker after a couple years of that...

This is a big, BIG one. My wife and I vowed to do this and it has worked well for us for 26 years.

Mutually respect each other.

Make a commitment to each other to never stray.

Keep God in the center of your marriage and the rest is easy.

[txdukklr]

always consider first if you are the problem

i've found if thats my first question that most often the answer is yes