Divorced Men: Child Support

[BrandonA]

Absolutely! It is not meant to financially supplement a lifestyle for the mom that she can't afford on her own. It is called "child support" not mommy fun money!

So true but thats not the way it goes. The whole system is FUBAR.

[txdukklr]

yes rational and due.

if the court said it then they examined his income and determined the percentage.

pay up . . . . .

anyone who thinks that 20-30% actually covers the care of your child should try and operate on that amount. I am a support payer and pay over the amount and cover all costs. I divorced that witch . . . . not the kids.

[JTRichardson]

Note to self: stay single and sterile.


That's what this thread has taught me lol

[randal]

It sounds about right but I still think 20% is too much

[Humper]

yes rational and due.

if the court said it then they examined his income and determined the percentage.

pay up . . . . .

anyone who thinks that 20-30% actually covers the care of your child should try and operate on that amount. I am a support payer and pay over the amount and cover all costs. I divorced that witch . . . . not the kids.

I sure wish that more dads thought like you !

[kch73]

Thoughts from a divorced father...

1. NEVER and I MEAN NEVER make any informal payments...the law is very clear on this that informal payments do NOT carry any wait in the court system...

2. The rules and laws are set by the state and are pretty cut and dry on the percentages...don't be a s@#-head and try to get by with less...no matter what the situation, the children are the loser's in the divorce, don't make a bad situation worse...

3. I have no tolerance for "Father's" that don't pay child support...it amazes how many "men" and I use that term loosely, try to run from the responsibilty...newsflash...you because you can't get along with the Momma doesn't excuse you from the child/children...

Off soapbox...

[Goon]

It can be a vortex. Guy at works always picked up every overtime job and side job he could. Got the big D. Child support is ordered to over $1900 a month plus all medical. It was based off his overtime. Now he cant stop working overtime every day to be able to make his payment plus living expenses. Now he never gets to see his kids because he has to work the overtime when he is suppose to see them.

I'm in that situation now. I made 30k in ej's last year and 25k in OT(most I've made) My attorney told me to stop working ej's for now. I'm really hoping that my wife and I can agree on a set amount.

[Legdog]

Note to self: stay single and sterile.


That's what this thread has taught me lol

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[Chew]

Divorced Men: Child Support

I have one more month of CS. Been paying since '99. That's all I got to say about that.

[El Coyote]

yes rational and due.

if the court said it then they examined his income and determined the percentage.

pay up . . . . .

anyone who thinks that 20-30% actually covers the care of your child should try and operate on that amount. I am a support payer and pay over the amount and cover all costs. I divorced that witch . . . . not the kids.

Well the problem lies in that the ex goes out and gets into a 200k house on a teacher salary then my 1k in support I pay goes all to the mortgage and I'm stuck renting a 1bdr home. Who knew my kids have to pay rent #butthurt

[Puggy625]

yes rational and due.

if the court said it then they examined his income and determined the percentage.

pay up . . . . .

anyone who thinks that 20-30% actually covers the care of your child should try and operate on that amount. I am a support payer and pay over the amount and cover all costs. I divorced that witch . . . . not the kids.

The bolded part above is what I have to disagree with you about. Child support payments ARE NOT INTENDED TO BE THE ONLY MONEY USED TO SUPPORT A CHILD(REN). That is only your share, the other parent should be expected to support them with an equal percentage of their income. That's what most seem to forget. It isn't meant to be the only means of support, but most moms I know that receive child support don't think that their income should be used for anything except what the mom wants. I know my ex and her husband enjoyed a very nice 25' Baja pleasure boat before my $1500/month child support ended. Funny how the boat disappeared when the money stopped coming in.

The system is screwed up. For both sides in some cases. PERIOD!

[BrandonA]

The bolded part above is what I have to disagree with you about. Child support payments ARE NOT INTENDED TO BE THE ONLY MONEY USED TO SUPPORT A CHILD(REN). That is only your share, the other parent should be expected to support them with an equal percentage of their income. That's what most seem to forget. It isn't meant to be the only means of support, but most moms I know that receive child support don't think that their income should be used for anything except what the mom wants. I know my ex and her husband enjoyed a very nice 25' Baja pleasure boat before my $1500/month child support ended. Funny how the boat disappeared when the money stopped coming in.

The system is screwed up. For both sides in some cases. PERIOD!

Yep. I have a feeling my ex will be the same.

[txdukklr]

The bolded part above is what I have to disagree with you about. Child support payments ARE NOT INTENDED TO BE THE ONLY MONEY USED TO SUPPORT A CHILD(REN). That is only your share, the other parent should be expected to support them with an equal percentage of their income. That's what most seem to forget. It isn't meant to be the only means of support, but most moms I know that receive child support don't think that their income should be used for anything except what the mom wants. I know my ex and her husband enjoyed a very nice 25' Baja pleasure boat before my $1500/month child support ended. Funny how the boat disappeared when the money stopped coming in.

The system is screwed up. For both sides in some cases. PERIOD!

what the mother thinks is irrelevant she may think a lot of things but the fact is that 90% of support is not enough.

let my ignorance run wild for a moment.

80% of the population makes under 100k so at 20% that's 20k $1667 a month and child support caps support payments for single child at $1710.

Average Texas income is $50,740 so the payment would be closer to $840.

so lets assume

1200 rent
400 car
200 insurance
300 groceries
300 gas

for a cost of living of $2400 that support payment represents 35%. This assumes that there is no money spent on another thing out there.

I don't really give a crap what my ex spends the money on. As long as she's not on drugs, not an alcoholic providing a stable environment and my kids can reasonably expect what they need.

Every guy that says "i'm not paying for my ex to have . . . . " do the math are you really paying enough to cover that extra AND the needs of your kid. You can't expect your ex to live in squalor just because your paying support or live below the standard of life you are in.

[txdukklr]

Well the problem lies in that the ex goes out and gets into a 200k house on a teacher salary then my 1k in support I pay goes all to the mortgage and I'm stuck renting a 1bdr home. Who knew my kids have to pay rent #butthurt

they don't have to pay rent, but you surely have to help pay it. 200k house is a 1600ish house payment . . . . . 1k doesn't cover that whole amount.

so who pays

groceries
gas
car
insurance
incidentals

[BrandonA]

what the mother thinks is irrelevant she may think a lot of things but the fact is that 90% of support is not enough.

let my ignorance run wild for a moment.

80% of the population makes under 100k so at 20% that's 20k $1667 a month and child support caps support payments for single child at $1710.

Average Texas income is $50,740 so the payment would be closer to $840.

so lets assume

1200 rent
400 car
200 insurance
300 groceries
300 gas

for a cost of living of $2400 that support payment represents 35%. This assumes that there is no money spent on another thing out there.

I don't really give a crap what my ex spends the money on. As long as she's not on drugs, not an alcoholic providing a stable environment and my kids can reasonably expect what they need.

Every guy that says "i'm not paying for my ex to have . . . . " do the math are you really paying enough to cover that extra AND the needs of your kid. You can't expect your ex to live in squalor just because your paying support or live below the standard of life you are in.

The other side has a financial responsibility as well.