What to wear to a funeral

[RogueSamurai]

I'm a little more old school on this one. I am of the opinion that, even if you aren't a "suit guy", every man needs to have at least one suit, usually a grey one, to wear to such occasions.

I realize the day and age we live in where more and more guys wear jeans and "dress down" for work etc. But, there was no man ever more country than my grandfather and he still owned a suit or two for funerals/weddings etc. It's just the proper thing to do.

Sometimes the "respect" is being paid to the family/loved ones...or even the family of bride in the case of a wedding, not necessarily to your buddy. I'm sure your buddy would be ok with the jeans and boots and I doubt that anyone else would realistically have a problem with it, but wearing a suit and tie carries respect and shows that you care.

[vanmedic]

You are good to go sir, Being/Wearing something your not is not needed at all,Nice pair of pressed jeans, Nice collared shirt & jacket is very appropriate ,especially being that your friend preferred wearing jeans himself. I wear this every time I have this misfortune it's just me.Sorry for the loss sir.

[BTLowry]

Nice shirt and jeans

I think your friend would wear the same if it was the other way around

[TXUSMC]

Thanks for all the input.

[txfireguy2003]

You being there, for his family, is more important than what you wear.
I think your choice is fine.

Exactly! Your presence is way more important than your attire! I'm having a lot of issues with "etiquette" and what not lately with this wedding deal, so I'm getting to the point that I want to be rebellious about anything to deal with etiquette. Wear what you think he would wear to your funeral. If he never wore suits, what makes anyone think he would expect you to wear one?

[PSD Ryan]

I wore my cowboy boots, jeans, a nice pearl snap, and my black felt cowboy hat to my grandpa's funeral. The entire family is farmers though.

[Hart8]

What you have planned sounds good to me..I went to a funeral between landscaping jobs a few years ago,To pay my respects.If I would have had time,I would have worn starched jeans,and a nice shirt.

[Artos]

Did not read the other responses but we burried my 93yr old Gramp on the 2nd...I wore my nicest jeans, shirt and footwear.

It was a private service and asked my Grandmother about the attire beforehand & she said; "I'm not gonna even get dressed to the nines when we have outlived all our friends...he knew you best in your jeans, cap and tennies. The hoot to what other folks think."

I was blown away...you would have to know my Grandmother & I never expected that coming from her!! You ALWAYS wore your Sunday best when apporpriate & she was plain snooty on the subject. Just goes to show you that priorities change over the decades.

[Uncle Saggy]

Wear what you want, being there is all that should matter. I was at a funeral last fall and 2 friends of the family came to the funeral right from deer camp wearing Camo. It's about being there for the deceased and the family, not about clothes

[deer99hunter]

Wear what you want, being there is all that should matter. I was at a funeral last fall and 2 friends of the family came to the funeral right from deer camp wearing Camo. It's about being there for the deceased and the family, not about clothes

YESSIR !!!!

A grieving family will not notice what you are wearing, they will remember your presence at a time of deep sorrow.

[holdem]

Last two funerals I was at were in Falls City. Jeans and a shirt were fine, but they were Catholic.