Am I out of line?

[Greenheadless]

Make the extra money like you said you would, then pay for it. Oh, sell your old one to get the new one faster as well.

[DXTroughneck]

does she know what your current bow looks like? if not, go buy the other one when you get the cash and she will never be the wiser!!

[robbyreneeward]

She hunts too yes she'll be able to tell the difference. And I wouldn't do it behind her back anyway

[Cam-Mac]

My head hurts

[jds247]

This is exactly why we have 3 accounts . Mine , hers , and ours . Ours is for every bill groceries etc.. We both save 20% of our checks for retirement . What s left in my or her account is saved or spent how we want .. We have never had a money fight .

[Bluesman]

If the bow you have now is a killer, you don't need another bow.

A Harley? Now there's something to argue about. A bow is a minor skirmish.

[Bluesman]

This is exactly why we have 3 accounts . Mine , hers , and ours . Ours is for every bill groceries etc.. We both save 20% of our checks for retirement . What s left in my or her account is saved or spent how we want .. We have never had a money fight .

Seriously, 20% is cool! Keep it up man.

[CastAndBlast]

This is exactly why we have 3 accounts . Mine , hers , and ours . Ours is for every bill groceries etc.. We both save 20% of our checks for retirement . What s left in my or her account is saved or spent how we want .. We have never had a money fight .

X2...I have a hunting account and savings account that is separate from our joint account.

[flywise]

If you have a bow already there is no need to get in a fight for another one.

[Black Ice]

Just do what my wife did, spend 28,000.00 on credit cards and dont say any thing about it. %$%^(Stuff) wont hit the fan until she finds out.Ya no joke.

Try $60,000

[jds247]

Seriously, 20% is cool! Keep it up man.

It was really hard at first but we got used to it ..hers comes out before she gets a check . Mine Is harder because I'm self employed and have to write the check myself.
I hope things work out for the op.

[miket]

If both partners can be fair, honest and equal your system should work. From the little info here that doesnt appear to be the case. In my opinion in this case the allowance idea would probably work best. That will keep it even and assuage any hard feelings that could arise from any appearance of inequality. Make ANY extra stuff like nails, hair, arrows, bows and ammo etc come from allowance and see how that goes. Honestly, in my case it would lessen the amount of money I could personally spend, so I would rather not use that system here, but I flat out admit I spend more than she does so when the time comes that she wants something I suck it up and she gets it as long as we have the money. If I get selfish ( and I struggle with this ) then I will end up screwing myself over by restricting my own spending, so wise man keep mouth shut!

[Kdog]

My head hurts

X2 glad I don't have issues like this. I think the best advice was setting a budget and allowance.

[Daniel75]

Robby, go get that bow if you want it. YOU are working extra to pay for it. If she wants to donate extra money to bills by working extra jobs, she can go find a part time job. Not everything in our lives are "needs". No one NEEDS two bows but if you can work extra and pay for one, more power to you.

I really do think there needs to be separate accounts. I will never have a joint account without having my own as well. If she's getting pedis and manis and haircuts and we all know how much those cost.....what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Disclaimer-I'm 37 and never been married

[Keg]

Yes just a want. And I wasn't goin to buy the bow until I had money in hand for it. Her point was if I'm workin extra jobs it should go to pay bills.

Bills come first....