The wife and I just had it out. Not too bad but I told her I wanted another bow. Luxury, just to have not a necessity. Told her I'd buy used and I'd do bush Hog work Over the summer to pay for it so it wouldn't have to come out of our checking account. We only have 1 joint checking account, which is how we want it. Obviously if we can't afford it I figured this was the best way to get it. Wife gets mad saying she gets a decent Christmas Bonus every year and never spends it on herself and buys the family Christmas with it. Said it's not common sense to spend $$ on things like that when the extra money could take care of necessities. So I guess I just have to do without. Oh well. I just stopped talking and let it go.
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You sir have a smart wife. Listen to her. This was a dead give away to reality.
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Smart wife...work your part-time and buy a bow when you have the money in hand! I do that with my side job...it's my money and I use it for hunting, etc.
My deduction from the post is that you have a bow, just WANT a second one?Comment
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Wife's right on this one... Now go say sorry an cook dinner!
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Yes just a want. And I wasn't goin to buy the bow until I had money in hand for it. Her point was if I'm workin extra jobs it should go to pay bills.Originally posted by TxMedic View PostComment
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YupOriginally posted by drop dead fred View PostWife's right on this one... Now go say sorry an cook dinner!Comment
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I know its hard but its time for " sorry honey you were right"! Just wait till summer time when you got the cash in hand.
Ahh just read your other post...good luck!!Comment
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Lets think this through. You want/need a newish bow. Confucious say, make equal fair propisal to wife. Offer to get her something she wants of equal value.then you happy, she happy. Grasshopper. Read very last part again. Very important for happy marriage.Comment
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There won't be. I'll not worry about it. Nothing wrong with the bow I've got I'm just more upset over the principle.Originally posted by TxMedic View PostComment
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Guys, IM NOT GOING TO BUY ANYTHING UNTIL CASH WAS IN HAND. My point was no matter where the $$ came from be it account or odd jobs she did not want me spending $$ on another bow.Comment
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Here is the only way to solve this issue. You and her need an allowance. A monthly portion of money that is set aside for EACH of you to do what ever you want with.
I promise you you can sell her on this idea. Even your brush hog money needs to go to the general fund and you and her each take out your allowance. Sounds pretty simple but it works. As you both progress in your life and make more money the allowance gets bigger that you both agree on.
My wife is a stay home mom and she has had issues with spending money on herself. We have worked out a plan that allows her to spend her portion on whatever she wants.
It may take you 2 years to save the money you need to spend but it will be worth it.
Not sure how old you are or how long you have been married but advice from guys that have been down your path is priceless. Trust Me!
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