Ok i dont do this but i need Prayers and Personal help !

[JSF]

Take one day at a time.....let her catch her breath and process the situation. ....its not the kinda thing you can force or rush.........let her know your there but be subtle about it

[Chunky]

Prayers sent

[OBU13DAD]

Try to focus on the positives your kids or kid! Prayers sent bud!

[VorTexan]

Praying she gives you another chance. If her trust has been broken you most be broken (no doubt you are) to have a chance at getting back together. That would be the most difficult thing to forgive. If she is a believer I suggest you talk to her in the presence of a Christian counselor that could help you both. You have the children so you must be doing something right as that is a rarity with men (custody...not doing something right ladies) sorry.

Again, praying for you as this is something nobody wants to go through.

[HELLRAZOR]

Peters sent and hope everything turns out for the better.

[monster7]

Thanks for all the good words , It means alot to me . I have let her know i will always be there for her no matter what happends . I just feel like being honest was kinda the wrong thing to do , but then again i couldn't hide it any longer . At the time it happened we were seperated ,but it still dont make it right . I was mad ,upset , and really hurt deep inside , with no one to talk to and i let all guards down . It's kinda hard to talk about this to a 9 yr old and a 16 yrd old . So i took it to a different level and now it has kicked my butt ever since . I even knew it was wrong as soon as it happened and i left sick and mad at myself .

[dhillis]

I have suggested this book many times and maybe someone else will chime in about it, but you need to get and read The Love Dare. Also another book that I saw someone talk about the other day that I forgot about is The 7 Love Languages. Find out which one your wife likes and focus on it. Don't be pushy but make sure you still do things for her. There are a few other threads as of recent from guys who went through the same thing. You might want to go read SOME of the advice that was given to them as well.

[monster7]

I planed to go and get a book or two , But didn't know what to look for . I will run by today hopefully and pick up one , if not today then soon .

[Shane]

I have suggested this book many times and maybe someone else will chime in about it, but you need to get and read The Love Dare. Also another book that I saw someone talk about the other day that I forgot about is The 7 Love Languages. Find out which one your wife likes and focus on it. Don't be pushy but make sure you still do things for her. There are a few other threads as of recent from guys who went through the same thing. You might want to go read SOME of the advice that was given to them as well.

I think the Love Dare book is definitely good advice in your situation (among others). It sure can't do any harm to show your wife that you love her with no strings attached.

Man, the devil sucks. That's all I know. Find someone that you can talk to on a regular basis. Idealy it would be a Christian counselor that both you and your wife could talk to together. But if she isn't willing to go together, then go for yourself. You did the right thing by being honest. The mistake happened before that, and hiding it would have would have probably ended up even worse. It's possible that y'all can get through it and end up even closer than before. It's definitely worth an all-out effort. Just love her as best you can while expecting nothing in return. Love your kids as best you can. Don't be afraid to be honest with them whenever and however it might be appropriate for their age levels. One thing I've learned about being a dad is that it is bad to try to fool my kids into believing that I'm some kind of flawless Superman. It's OK for them to see you hurt and to hear you say that you messed up sometimes. They know you're human, whether you admit it or not.

Just stay as close to the Lord as you possibly can. Trust Him completely. Lean on Him, and lean on anybody else you can find that will help you stay close to the Lord. He works through other Christians to help us. Let Him do that. Pray a lot for wisdom and courage. Pray for forgiveness and ACCEPT it. Learn from your mistakes, but don't wallow in guilt over them forever. It's healthy to feel guilt and remorse, but you have to move on from there. Take what you learn from the mistakes and figure out ways to avoid making them again. But move forward one step at a time and one day at a time. Big mistakes usually take a long time to get through, but you can only live one day at a time. Pray for patience and guidance as you live each day. Don't dwell on yesterday. Just think about how you can start from where you are today and live your today for the Lord and for your family as best you can. That's truly all we can ever do.

I wrote a story in the TBH Journal one time about plowing up cotton. That lesson is what I always think of in times like these. I don't know if you read that or not, but it you did you'll know what I'm talking about.

Prayers sent for you and your family, brother. I'm no counselor or anything, but PM me anytime if I can help.

[Blonde huntress]

Prayers sent your way. God is almighty and he hears our prayers. Going to church will be great for you and your children

[monster7]

Thats going to start back up this weekend for sure . Hopefully i can find one i really get involved in along with the kids . It's just hard for me to start a new church when i have been at the same one since i was born , but i'm just an not getting what i need from it anymore .

[Larry L]

Just the BIBLE (the best book there is for advice) and lots of prayer. Praying for ya

[quarterback]

I will pray for you too. You did something wrong, then confessed it. That is the first step in righting a wrong. Sure you feel bad. That is probably completely normal and it sounds like you really should feel bad. At this point you cannot undo whatever you did. It appears that you are taking the proper steps to atone for this wrong. It's ok to feel bad, allow yourself to be bummed for awhile but then you have to move forward. Ask God for forgiveness along with strength, wisdom and direction. He hears all prayers.

[Tmag]

Prayers for you, your wife, and your kids. He is able!

[TxMachinist]

God's word tells us to "Give it ALL to Him." This means drop to your knees, ask Him to take it and then LET Him. Too often we give it to God and then continue trying to control it ourselves. This is not what He wants. Once you ask Him for forgiveness, you have to start the healing process. ALL of the answers you need are in Him. In The Bible. "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me." When you get things right with Him, and let Him guide you, He will set your path straight. Ask your wife to pray with you. Talking to God needs to be a continual thing. This is something I am just understanding. Prayers sent for you and your family. He provides!