Ok i dont do this but i need Prayers and Personal help !

[GarGuy]

Ok, You have confessed to her and God. You have asked both to forgive you. Time to stop confessing as you are just beating yourself up for no gain. God will forgive you. You have to forgive yourself. Realize that she will likely NEVER forgive you. If she does it will be in her and GODS time.

A marriage is based on trust and there is no way in heck you can expect her to trust you right now. Time and distance are your friend. Do not force her hand right now or you loose. It is quite likely that your marriage is over and done. Give it time to find out. That may be a few months or a year. Then move on with your life and never make the same mistake again.

Show the World and yourself that you are trust worthy. You will have to earn that again so stop telling folks how sorry you are. A wise person once told me ,"ALWAYS SPEAK THE TRUTH ,BUT DONT ALWAYS SPEAK!"

[BBRU]

God's word tells us to "Give it ALL to Him." This means drop to your knees, ask Him to take it and then LET Him. Too often we give it to God and then continue trying to control it ourselves. This is not what He wants. Once you ask Him for forgiveness, you have to start the healing process. ALL of the answers you need are in Him. In The Bible. "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me." When you get things right with Him, and let Him guide you, He will set your path straight. Ask your wife to pray with you. Talking to God needs to be a continual thing. This is something I am just understanding. Prayers sent for you and your family. He provides!

Amen! If The Lord brings you to it, he'll bring you through it. It sounds like you have beaten yourself up enough, you can't undo it, but you can definitely learn from it. Keep your faith and trust in The Lord and know he will guide you down the path he has chosen for your family. I will pray for yall that everything works out for the best.

[Keg]

Prayers for U....

[Shane]

Thats going to start back up this weekend for sure . Hopefully i can find one i really get involved in along with the kids . It's just hard for me to start a new church when i have been at the same one since i was born , but i'm just an not getting what i need from it anymore .

Find a new one if you need to. Also remember that you don't get any more out of a church than you put into it. By that I mean that you can't sit in the back corner and slip out quietly when it's over and expect to go away with lots of new friends and feelings of encouragement. You have to open up to people and let them open up to you. Most of us tend to withdraw when we need people the most, and that just makes it worse. Make yourself get involved and meet new people. Find ways to serve others. Give what you desperately need, and it'll come back to you over and over. It's hard sometimes, but it works.

[glpoe1]

You will heal. It may not turn out like you want it too but time is the great healer. We all have to suffer the consequences of our actions, whether good or bad, and you will have to just work through this. I went through a similar situation many years ago and to this day I am still dealing with it. Forgiving yourself for something that has an effect of others is tough, but Jesus said "Go and sin no more." He said that to a prostitute of all people. I think the lesson is, don't forget what you have done, but learn the lesson and don't let it happen again. Praying for you.

[DeadeyeDeb]

You have asked God for forgiveness. He has given it. And He has forgotten it. He does not dwell on our sins when we have asked Him for forgiveness. He says your sin is as far from him as East is to West. Now, forgive yourself.
God will work on your wife. In His time. Just be a good a faithful servant and show this to your children.
Prayers up for you.

[GarGuy]

Right on Deb.

[ecallarman]

You have to get your SELF back first before you need to worry about getting her back. GET RIGHT WITH YOURSELF is the key. Prayers up for you.

[josh3]

Prayers for you and your family. Time heals all wounds.

[tfowler10]

Prayers sent

[PawPaw]

It's a big mess, but I am praying for you, your wife, and your kids.
If it's God's will, you'll all be back together again. I'm praying that's
the case.

[Boss Buck]

Prayer sent I was on the other side of what you speak and now 21 years "GOD" and only God healed all wound that we did to each other....stay strong

[Bowtechlady]

Ok, You have confessed to her and God. You have asked both to forgive you. Time to stop confessing as you are just beating yourself up for no gain. God will forgive you. You have to forgive yourself. Realize that she will likely NEVER forgive you. If she does it will be in her and GODS time.

A marriage is based on trust and there is no way in heck you can expect her to trust you right now. Time and distance are your friend. Do not force her hand right now or you loose. It is quite likely that your marriage is over and done. Give it time to find out. That may be a few months or a year. Then move on with your life and never make the same mistake again.

Show the World and yourself that you are trust worthy. You will have to earn that again so stop telling folks how sorry you are. A wise person once told me ,"ALWAYS SPEAK THE TRUTH ,BUT DONT ALWAYS SPEAK!"

^^^This...you were honest and truthful. You have done all the right things to make this right. Dishonesty and deceit is what will tear a relationship apart. Being truthful and asking for forgiveness will strengthen you and in time is what will heal you.

[monster7]

Thank you all for the kind words , Like all are saying I guess time will tell . Never thought i would get more help from here than my Dr . God Bless you All from th bottom of my heart .
Jason

[Tommyh]

not many survive this type of setback. good luck, and begin your own personal self cleansing. dont worry about doing it for the relationship or love for her or whatever you want to use as a crutch. youre going to have to do it for yourself to make it stick, and accept that she may ever take you back, and if she did, trust you again. good luck my friend.