When is a friend not a friend anymore?

[Fishndude]

He's still your friend but sounds like he's having decisions made for him.

Invite him still and if he shows, great. If not, don't lose sleep over it. He will come around when he realizes he's being manipulated.

[Mayhem]

wife has that cat on a short leash. i know it sucks to lose friends but you have to realize to people move on with their lives sometime and even the closet of friends drift apart.

i know how you feel, i have recently lost a close friend, due to someone he is friends with now and me not getting along. sometime 20 years means nothing to people. i beleive that one that he will wake up and realize the error of his ways and regret alot.

[muley4x4]

Been there done that...twice. Couldn't figure out what was going on for the longest time. Eventually I found out the first time that the wife thought I was a bad influence (I was single...he wasn't, aka she didn't trust him to be hanging out with the guys.) The second friend that did that to me eventually came clean with me that his wife didn't like my wife (I'm married now), so that was the hangup most of the time that he "was busy that weekend."

That's all I really wanted even if he had said sorry. I would have taken any answer. I'm not the first one to try and get in on anyones business. The not calling or texting when it is his idea and sets it up......

[texag93]

I think it's an issue with his wife. She is either running the show, he is whipped beyond belief or he is just plain scared of her. I'm sure his life has changed since marriage, but I don't think he would quit doing everything he use to without someone influencing him(the wife). Write him off and move on. He may come around again some day.

[bowhuntntxn]

Until they sleep with your sister, your mother or your wife.

Space and time. If he wants to remain your friend, another you have given him some space and time, he will be back. If not then that is ok too.

[HeyMikey]

Seasons change and it's time to move on. He may seek you out again, later on in life, but I wouldn't invest anymore effort on this relationship. He's made it clear, where you stand on his priority list for now.

[Big-Ed]

I've got a couple of "old" friends that have slipped out of touch. There was never an issue or blowup, so I assume that if life changed we would pick right back up. Until then, I won't sweat it. Life changes. I can guarantee that you will not be friends if you decide that you aren't!

However, based on your info.... I wouldn't make plans and expect him to show up.

[aggie2000tx]

Things do change after marriage. I have a friend that I have had for 20+ years and we make plans to see each other and one of seems to always have something come up. Our wives love each other so that is not the issue. We always go to Comanche rodeo every year so we at least seem them once a year maybe more

[Thwackmaster]

I got one the same way, pw and his wife hates me

[Encinal]

He's gone...

Find a better one.

[systemnt]

pick up another friend of yours and drive up and down his street.. make sure he can see you.
He'll get jealous and start coming around more.. or...his wife will think your stalking him and call the police.. and you'll see him in court.. either way your time with him will increase.

[Fargus]

Another buddy "D" and I are going through something similar with a third friend "B". We used to hit a bunch of 3D shoots, go hunting and fishing as often as we could. He has since divorced his wife and has now shacked up with another girl who has him so tied down I am surprised he can breath without her permission. What makes this worse is that "B" is into "D" for about 5k in back rent. "B" has had his truck repo'd, sold his ATV and pawned several guns while she has had some 'work' done as well as impeccable nails, hair, tan and designer clothes.

[systemnt]

Another buddy "D" and I are going through something similar with a third friend "B". We used to hit a bunch of 3D shoots, go hunting and fishing as often as we could. He has since divorced his wife and has now shacked up with another girl who has him so tied down I am surprised he can breath without her permission. What makes this worse is that "B" is into "D" for about 5k in back rent. "B" has had his truck repo'd, sold his ATV and pawned several guns while she has had some 'work' done as well as impeccable nails, hair, tan and designer clothes.

No pics, didnt happen

[NannySlayer]

He'll be back!!!!!! Don't set up days specifically for/with him.. Because you'll set yourself up for disappointment. But If you're having a cookout at the house shoot him a text and invite him and her.

If you're true friends then when he comes back around you'll still be there.

[bdog14]

pick up another friend of yours and drive up and down his street.. make sure he can see you.
He'll get jealous and start coming around more.. or...his wife will think your stalking him and call the police.. and you'll see him in court.. either way your time with him will increase.

LOL