Keep your drinking in check.

[Bowtech08]

From an alcoholic, talk to her. I came close to drinking myself to death years ago. I was lonely,single and all my friends were married. I drank a case of beer a day along with no telling how much whiskey a week. All because I had nobody that cared. I stayed drunk for so long, my family didn't even notice it. Even though I still like to have a beer or three, my wife keeps me in check. If it weren't for her, I'd have been gone long ago. If I start getting carried away, she sits me down and talks to me. Letting her know that there is someone that really cares about her can make the difference. I know.

We have tried so many times to prove we love her and want her back and just seems to make things worse

[Shake1]

Man, I am sorry to hear this. Has your family tried an intervention? There is no "in between" with this disease. If it is not stopped, an alcoholic will end up in one of three places: jail, asylum, or deceased. Although they "think" they can, an alcoholic cannot drink socially. No matter how hard they try. Believe it or not, quitting scares them more than anything else. And the drinking part in itself is only the symptom of the disease.

[Goldeneagle]

We have tried so many times to prove we love her and want her back and just seems to make things worse

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm just speaking from personal experience and not sure what to tell you. My prayers are with you and your sister. Personally I think I would get her to go for a ride. Take her to your deer lease with no booze and keep her there until she dries out. Seen this done with drug addicts before. It's tough, but it can work.

[RedRocker]

As mentioned above, go to Al-Anon, you will find others there that are dealing with the same thing and can help you deal with it. I've known some folks that were literally on their death bed before they "got it". Went on to live sober for many many years. Sad to say some folks never get sober, alcoholism is a mean *****, I know first hand.

[G5Gal]

Sorry to hear... Prayers sent up.

[dustoffer]

My mom, and 3 uncles (her brothers) all went that way--and when I came back from VN in '71 I felt like I was well on the way. Then when my son got to 14-15 and I knew driving was in his close future, decided that was it. Now, I might have 6 a year--but every time I come in from mowing the yard, it sure would be nice to have a cold one.

[black42]

prayers sent.

[Hoytchix]

Praying for all of you! Love you

[PHC]

As others have said, go to al-anon. As you pointed out in your first post, it is a family disease and helping yourself is the only piece you can control.

Find qualified professional help for her kids. The trauma that they are enduring is real and they need help dealing with it. They can't process it on their own.

[dexterc]

prayers sent, sorry to hear

[spur]

My mom is a drunk I just never have anything to do with her, life is to short

[Ballcoach10]

prayers

[kraigrrr]

sad deal...

[Lynda]

Lost my mum to the bottle 16 years ago this Christmas. Her new husband pretty much poured it down her neck, but she had been a drunk since I was a kid. AA (in England) couldn't do anything unless she went to them. I've lived the past 16 years feeling like I should have tried harder with her. My uncles, dad and brother didn't care.

It's tough, but as long as your sister is alive there is hope. I have seen many addicts come to know Christ in my church, and their lives turned around.

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans 12:12

[WIKI]

HI I am Mike and a dumb @$$. Thanks for sharing I need to get off my rump and save my own life about right now