The Bible first and foremost !! I believe that if you bring them up in the bible first and thhe outdoors second, you could raise them no better.
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Great bookOriginally posted by Rcwood View Post
and it will change the way you think about raising kids today.
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Sounds like you've already got what it takes. Skip the books and do what you do. There's no written word(in my opinion) that tells you how to be a perfect dad(no such thing). They may teach you a few little tips here and there but way too many variables are involved for some child psyche dude/chick to tell you how to be a good dad. JMOOriginally posted by westguy76 View PostComment
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Read "King Me"Comment
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Very well said and some great advice.Originally posted by Shane View PostNot a book, but a couple of things I learned from my dad (whom I consider to be an awesome father) as well as many other fathers that I respect....
Never hesitate to let your kids, and yes even your boys, know that you love them like crazy just because they are your kids - no matter what age they are. My dad still tells me he loves me every time I talk to him or he emails me, and I'm 44. Don't let your love be something that they have to earn or live up to in order to get it. Just love them and make sure they know that nothing will ever change that.
Teach your boys what it means to be a man - to love God, to be a good husband and father, to be a protector and provider for your family, to get up every time you're knocked down and try harder next time, to never quit, to always give 100% of your effort, to have integrity, etc... Don't hesitate to correct them in any of this anytime it's warranted. Set expectations and keep to them (within reason). Don't neglect discipline when they're rebellious. It's your job as a dad. Just make sure they know that their mistakes don't change the fact that you love them. Admit it to them when you make a mistake and apologize to them if necessary. Don't try to act like you're perfect. Be real.
Every man I've ever talked to told me that he had the same regret.....they all say that they wished they'd spent less time at their job/business and more time with their kids while they were young. Keep that in mind. Set your priorities and live by them. Kids are just young for about 3 blinks of your eye, and then they're grown and gone. Mine will be VERY soon. Seems impossible, but we're almost there. I've made some tough job/career choices at times - choices that cost me money, but I chose time with my family sometimes (not every time, to be sure). I don't regret those choices a single bit. Business and money will always be here. Your kids combined with your relative youth and good health won't. Take advantage of every opportunity you can to be with your kids. Even when just doing fun things like going hunting or playing ball or whatever, you will have so many opportunities to really connect and teach your kids very important life lessons. They learn by seeing you do things much more than by hearing a speech or reading a book. They watch you and learn. (That's scary too!) Give them the chances to watch you interact with them and with others, and pay attention to your example. When you screw up, talk to them about it. Admit your mistakes. Apologize. Talk to them about the consequences of bad decisions. Take your lumps. Those are hard lessons to teach, but they are good ones.
Pray for them constantly. Pray for yourself to be a better parent. Study God's word. Try to take as much of it in as you can so that it can come back out of you for your kids' benefit.
When you're not sure what else to do, tell 'em you love 'em again. Tell 'em until they start saying, "Yeah, I know, Dad. You love me....." They might occasionally act like they're too cool for it, but they love that you love them.Comment
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"To Train Up a Child" by Michael and Debi Pearl
It's chocked full of scripture references. I highly reccommend it to all parents new and old.Comment
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thanks for that, good stuff there. I might make a cheatsheet to look at every day.Originally posted by Shane View PostNot a book, but a couple of things I learned from my dad (whom I consider to be an awesome father) as well as many other fathers that I respect....
Never hesitate to let your kids, and yes even your boys, know that you love them like crazy just because they are your kids - no matter what age they are. My dad still tells me he loves me every time I talk to him or he emails me, and I'm 44. Don't let your love be something that they have to earn or live up to in order to get it. Just love them and make sure they know that nothing will ever change that.
Teach your boys what it means to be a man - to love God, to be a good husband and father, to be a protector and provider for your family, to get up every time you're knocked down and try harder next time, to never quit, to always give 100% of your effort, to have integrity, etc... Don't hesitate to correct them in any of this anytime it's warranted. Set expectations and keep to them (within reason). Don't neglect discipline when they're rebellious. It's your job as a dad. Just make sure they know that their mistakes don't change the fact that you love them. Admit it to them when you make a mistake and apologize to them if necessary. Don't try to act like you're perfect. Be real.
Every man I've ever talked to told me that he had the same regret.....they all say that they wished they'd spent less time at their job/business and more time with their kids while they were young. Keep that in mind. Set your priorities and live by them. Kids are just young for about 3 blinks of your eye, and then they're grown and gone. Mine will be VERY soon. Seems impossible, but we're almost there. I've made some tough job/career choices at times - choices that cost me money, but I chose time with my family sometimes (not every time, to be sure). I don't regret those choices a single bit. Business and money will always be here. Your kids combined with your relative youth and good health won't. Take advantage of every opportunity you can to be with your kids. Even when just doing fun things like going hunting or playing ball or whatever, you will have so many opportunities to really connect and teach your kids very important life lessons. They learn by seeing you do things much more than by hearing a speech or reading a book. They watch you and learn. (That's scary too!) Give them the chances to watch you interact with them and with others, and pay attention to your example. When you screw up, talk to them about it. Admit your mistakes. Apologize. Talk to them about the consequences of bad decisions. Take your lumps. Those are hard lessons to teach, but they are good ones.
Pray for them constantly. Pray for yourself to be a better parent. Study God's word. Try to take as much of it in as you can so that it can come back out of you for your kids' benefit.
When you're not sure what else to do, tell 'em you love 'em again. Tell 'em until they start saying, "Yeah, I know, Dad. You love me....." They might occasionally act like they're too cool for it, but they love that you love them.Comment
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I can recomend a Song
Love Without End Amen. George Strait. I live by this song as a father.Comment
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The best book!
I highly recommend the bible!Comment
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x2, but it was written by John Eldridge (i happen to have it laying right in front of me.)Originally posted by rileydog View Post
Not necessarily a book on fatherhood, but more a book on the masculine heart, which if properly captured will lead to great fatherhood.Comment
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This a great book. I went through a 6 week study with some friends that have boys my sons age based on this book. We hold each other to the standards of "raising a modern day knight".Originally posted by Rcwood View Post
The simple fact you have asked tells me you are raising great young men.
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Effective Parenting in a Defective World
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Bringing up Boys. James Dobson.Comment
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