Hears the deal, When I married my wife she already had a two year old little girl, she is now seven, in the past 5 years she has been to her "real" dads a total of 4 times, and spoke with him over the phone about 5 times, not to mention she went to stay with him a year and a half ago and has not see or spoke to him since. So the other day he calls out of the blue and says he wants her for a month withch is a bunch of BS in my opinion. The sad thing is in her divorce papers it does say he gets her one month out of the summer so she has to go. My little girl doesnt even want to go, ever since she meet me I have been dad and I am all she knows as dad. He pays 100.00 a month in child support and yes I said 100.00, he could really care less about her but wont let me adopt her. This being said, I am sure some of yall on here have been throught some custody battles for children so my question is what should I do? Thanks for your opinoin.
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Man that is a tough thing. Good luck to you, she knows who her real father is. The one who has been there for her and taught her right from wrong. -
All I can say is first pray, then continue to be there for her.
Good Luck.Comment
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If the papers say it then the man has custody...as long as he is current on child support and not a threat to her life all you can do is sit back and be supportive. Good luck man...I came from a divorced family and it is always hardest on the kids.Comment
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U can always take him back to court.....but I can assure you it will get nasty quick!Comment
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make it as easy on her as possible, enjoy every minute you have with her and hope he treats her good!!!!Comment
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Sorry, don't have an answer for you. My kids haven't seen their dad in a year. They ask about him some but he doesn't make time for them. It's hard to aay good things about him.Comment
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My folks divorced when I was five. Childhood memories of my father are vague. Mother burned all the pictures she had of him and married a new man she liked within a year. He didn't care for me much. I remember a time at dinner when he grabbed my tongue and threatened to cut it off. Third husband was okay but very passive. Through the years we'd still visit grandma from time to time and she would mail us birthday cards. My sister and I always suspected something wrong about our father that he just didn't want to know us.
I didn't know the terms of the arrangement until I was about 16. Apparently if my father's family mention him or arrange contact of any kind between me and my father there would be no further contact. it was like he never existed.
It was 11 tough years for him, but we're way past that now. Turns out my dad is a bowhunter. Too bad I missed that growing up. My childhood was focused more around mother's gender-equality agenda, so I had none of that.
God gives the willing enough love to share for four parents and all their families, and forgiveness their imperfections and mistakes. I hope this works out for you and your daughter.Comment
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this is the truth.... be supportive, (at least around her). i am in a real similar situation. its hard but she knows who her DADDY isOriginally posted by Closetohome View PostComment
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This is a no win situation. Make the best you can. Prayers for all of you!Comment
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in the same situation, my stepson's dad pays a reduced amount, never sees him, they got divorced over some serious issues on his part, my wife wanted it raised where it should be after 3 years, and he stonewalls until he takes US to court to want to dictate terms. he still doesn't see his kid worth anything
my suggestion? everyone else is right, the papers say what the papers say and only a judge can change those. she knows who the real dad is, so just hang in there, make sure she knows your phone number by heart and go get ur girl if she calls.
I never understood that whole month thing. seems it'd be hard on the kids as well as parents. My ex and I,with our daughter, work all our stuff around vacations, work schedules, I get my baby girl as much as I want. wish everyone could work things out like my ex doesComment
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Got to do what the papers say. Now what I would do is get back in court infront of the judge and explain the situation to him. Also if the guy is able to pay more cs I would force that issue. 100 is sad my BIL is a hell of a dad to his son and pays 400 a month and a friend of mine makes less than 40g a year and is paying almost a grand a month for his 2. That could help force the issue of letting u addopt. If the cs goes up significatly he may just say he is done.Comment
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i feel your pain bro, i went thruogh the same thing but wit my ex.all i did was be supportive to both my kids and gave her some rope n a lil time. 13yrs later the shoe was on the other foot.and still didint see a nickel of c\s$ .it was the hardest thing for me but i had no $ for a lawer till one day ,i was graced n i put it to good use. it was a happy ending.but it was hard on my babies. be strong ,patient, loving n understanding .n just pray bro.keep ur chin up. GOD ALWAYS LOOKS OUT FOR HIS SOLDIERS.Originally posted by HandiKap Bowhunter View PostComment
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Pray first, then obey the law.Comment
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buy a firefly phone at AT&T store (has four programmable buttons you set to make calls to only who you want and can only accept incoming calls from who you want.)
Set it to your phone (all 4 buttons).
Tell her to call ANYTIME she wants, and when you drop her off/he picks her up tell him you will be calling/and/she is to be allowed to call whenever she wants.
If she fails to answer once, or you don't get your calls, you'll be coming to pick her up.
Court papers may say he is to get physical custody for a period of days, it doesn't say he can keep her from contact with the parents with legal physical custody.Comment
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