I dont normally do this but I have no one to talk to about this right now. It was 6 years ago my wife and I started a business. I kept my time card job and she ran/built our business. I am the GM for a business and make a good income, so it made sense to keep it. She was there for the daily grind and I helped after I was off work and my days off. So here we are and it has grown with 5 employees working for us. So now for the other side of the back story. About a year into the business I found where my wife was using my fathers bank account to pay some of the bills. She had taken payday loans in my name. I was very close to divorce but worked it out. I payed my father back and I told her never to do this again. Fast forward to the present. We both got Covid and been locked in this house for over a week. This much down time let me do things I normally do not have time for. I have found where she has been using my fathers bank account to steal money. So far I have found 39,600.00 and I finally got access to records beyond the last date and there is more. She has taken several pay day loans and high interest loans all in my name. I have over 40k out in my name right now, just in loans and CC debt-cards I did not know we had.. I need 20k to pay the immediate commitments and I think I can have that put together Monday evening. The business is profitable and I just do not know where the money going at this time. The only reason I found all this is because I got a call from Adult Protective Services, I had the lady on speaker and she was asking me about my fathers money. I told her I had no idea what she was talking about. My wife jumped in nervously and started deflecting the questions. I knew right then this is bad. Her only excuse for doing this was things got out of hand.
My son works there and the plan was for him to take the business over and buy us out when we retired. He did not do anything with financial side and never knew any of this. Yesterday he found more loans but we have not found where the money is going. The business is in my name only. I have her locked out of the bank accounts. Monday I am going to an attorney to start on the divorce, get guidance on the business and about Adult Protective Services. I want to file charges and I want to her in jail and then there is a part of me that is on the fence. Normally I am not like this but we have been married 29 years and I do love her. I sit here going over options in my head and as stupid as this sounds I question if I am doing the right thing. I know what I need to do, I just never thought I would ever be trying to put her in jail. I guess this just hurts to be betrayed like this. It really hurts that she did this to my father and I am not sure why he did not say anything. He likes to help and does go overboard for my brother and myself. He is in ICU now battling Covid that turned into pneumonia. He told me and my brother good bye while he could still talk. He is still nICU and it just does not look good for him, he just turned 80 on 9/1. Anyways I go from being mad as heck to am I doing the right thing. I know what I need to do. If I had divorced her 4 years ago then this would not have happened to my father.
I know I need to get mad and stay mad. I need be aggressive in cutting her out. As I read what I am writing it makes no sense why I am saying I am on the fence, being weak I guess.
I know I have to save the business, without it I would not be able to pay my father or in worst case scenario the estate back. Its just my brother and myself and he has been a huge help over the last 2 days. I cant really talk to friends about this. I dont want to air out my problems to them. I just need to stay focused on saving the business and get her out of my life. I have been on TBH a good 10 years under another handle. This is not my normal one to use here. Ladies and gents thank you for your time and letting me air this out some. I am open to advice if anyone wants to throw knowledge my way.
My son works there and the plan was for him to take the business over and buy us out when we retired. He did not do anything with financial side and never knew any of this. Yesterday he found more loans but we have not found where the money is going. The business is in my name only. I have her locked out of the bank accounts. Monday I am going to an attorney to start on the divorce, get guidance on the business and about Adult Protective Services. I want to file charges and I want to her in jail and then there is a part of me that is on the fence. Normally I am not like this but we have been married 29 years and I do love her. I sit here going over options in my head and as stupid as this sounds I question if I am doing the right thing. I know what I need to do, I just never thought I would ever be trying to put her in jail. I guess this just hurts to be betrayed like this. It really hurts that she did this to my father and I am not sure why he did not say anything. He likes to help and does go overboard for my brother and myself. He is in ICU now battling Covid that turned into pneumonia. He told me and my brother good bye while he could still talk. He is still nICU and it just does not look good for him, he just turned 80 on 9/1. Anyways I go from being mad as heck to am I doing the right thing. I know what I need to do. If I had divorced her 4 years ago then this would not have happened to my father.
I know I need to get mad and stay mad. I need be aggressive in cutting her out. As I read what I am writing it makes no sense why I am saying I am on the fence, being weak I guess.
I know I have to save the business, without it I would not be able to pay my father or in worst case scenario the estate back. Its just my brother and myself and he has been a huge help over the last 2 days. I cant really talk to friends about this. I dont want to air out my problems to them. I just need to stay focused on saving the business and get her out of my life. I have been on TBH a good 10 years under another handle. This is not my normal one to use here. Ladies and gents thank you for your time and letting me air this out some. I am open to advice if anyone wants to throw knowledge my way.
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