Manner's

[TKRanch]

We have 2 children, a sophmore in high school and a sophmore in college. My son in college often tells me thanks for "raising him right" and making him say thank you, offer to hold doors, etc... and perform what we all think are normal good manners. He says that he sees so many that simply don't and he knows that those things make him stand out in the world! Sad, but true....

[SamHarper]

I think everybody is responsible for their own behavior, not the behavior of others. So you should take it upon yourself to thank people who do something nice for you, but it shouldn't be your concern whether they thank you for something nice you did for them. Sure, it's bad manners, but that is their problem, not your problem. You should only be concerned with your own behavior.

Of course the exception is if somebody else's behavior hurts others. Then you should be concerned with their behavior. Or if it's your own kids, and you want to teach them good manners, then you should be concerned with their behavior.

That's just my opinion, though. I think society would be better off if we did a better job of picking our battles and not making a big deal out of every perceived slight. It also comes from my Christian background and the ethics of doing good for others without expecting anything in return, including appreciation. Don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing, etc.

[Burnadell]

I don't know....but I also don't spend too much time worrying about other people's proper raising.


But I do worry a little about people who overuse apostrophe's.

See...that was wrong.

Thanks for this thread.

It’’’’’”””s a valid question.

D**n grammar police!!!

[TKC]

I expect my kids to use manners like thank you etc. but others I don’t. It is nice when others do, but not expected.

I have to lend my services or favors without expectation or expecting reciprocity. I do what I know is correct and try to be selfless and hopefully teaching and impacting folks along the way.

[Colton]

"Thank you" is a lost art. Whether in the form of a note for a gift, for holding the door for someone, or a simple wave for letting someone in while sitting in traffic. It is not just today's kids, it's people of all ages, races, backgrounds, and both genders (There are only two). People get too busy and distracted to act right. As my wife would say, "It's these **** phones".

However, I've never given a gift with the thought of "I better receive a thank you" or I'm gonna ask them to return it, I don't hold the door for people with the attitude of tripping them if they don't thank me and I don't act like an *** in traffic just because the last person I let cut in didn't give me the customary wave. I do these things because I do have manners, I was taught how to act and I'm not too busy to have some class.

I have been guilty of saying "You're welcome" when someone fails to thank me for holding the door.

I agree with most of this, but if I let someone in during traffic and I don’t get my mf wave I am ****** 😂

[sailor]

When I grew up, and was taught proper manners.................
The result, of not using them.............
Was often, swift and painful.........

[Smart]

I agree with most of this, but if I let someone in during traffic and I don’t get my mf wave I am ****** [emoji23]

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[DRT]

I think it's what you want to find.
My wife's family still send thank you notes for gifts. They also say yes sir, yes ma'am and respect their elders.
I dealt with a lot of scouts over the years and yes it was a mixed bag. But most were respectful. Grateful even.
I don't sweat the ones that aren't or don't have good manners. I sure appreciate the ones who do and let them know it as well.

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[dustoffer]

I had three teen-age boys working yesterday hauling and spreading 8+ yds of mulch. Not one of them failed to say thank you or thanks when I answered a question or paid them, or whatever. I know the families of two of them, and I wasn't surprised, but I know this is the exception these days.

Send a graduating senior or bride/groom a gift---I'd say the percentage that either say thank you or mention it is right at 10 percent--1 out of 10. There was a baby shower at church yesterday---I wonder how many of the givers will receive any acknowledgement?

[Hammerdown]

Went through the Jimmy John's drive thru yesterday and I was greeted at menu/speaker with a "Welcome to Jimmy John's, What do you want?" I replied with "Well that's an oxymoron but I'll take a......." Completely went over his head.

[bmac]

You should not expect a thank you for this. As a matter of fact, you owe your family member an apology. Two ribeyes are not nearly enough for a dog to eat over a week's time. The dogwatcher would have had to supplement with an additional four or five ribeyes from their own freezer to keep your dog properly fed. Some people...

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[Pstraw]

When I grew up, and was taught proper manners.................
The result, of not using them.............
Was often, swift and painful.........

This^^
Using proper manners wasn't an option.
I could do the right thing on my on, or with tears in my eyes.
My dad could open the flood gates if you understand me.

[Agdog]

Guess I was raised right. Except for telling my wife “I’m sorry”. But then again I’d have to be wrong to ever have to say it!

[c3products20]

Oh well, it all started in the schools. Took out the discipline, prayer and pledge of allegiance. And really the no child left behind B/S. We gave a gift card to a good friend's grandson for high school graduation. She told my wife to not expect a thank you card or note. When asked, she replied that he does not know how to write. Oh what a shame this culture change has taken us, and appears to still steady to deteriorate.

I disagree. It all started in the home because christian men stopped being christian men. We got lazy and handed our responsibility to lead our family to our pastors and our government. We also handed the responsibility to raise our kids to the school. I appreciate your statement/sentiment I just think it should have never been tbe schools responsibility in the first place!

[Dusty Britches]

The replies are funny but I'll answer

... Example. Family member... you get them or do something nice. They do not acknowledge receipt unless you ask and then they almost never say thanks?

Yes, rude, but not relationship ending. We send cards and gifts often and rarely receive an acknowledgement.

...Another example. A family member watches your dog for a week. When you drop the dog off you bring them 2 big USDA Prime Ribeye Steaks. Would the steaks be considered a thank you for watching the dogs even if the words are not spoken.

Good for you! but honestly, I would say, "hey, I wanted to give you something special for watching my dogs so here is 2 steaks."

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I was told it was be rude to say something to a person for this reason.

Not rude. Rude behavior or lack of manners needs to be politely and gently pointed out.