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I am all for standing up to the bullies. But many you should think about before telling your kid that, depending on who is. The bully might actually can fight and have far more physical size and strength than your kids in some situations. You could be sending your kid to the slaughter in some situations.
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Originally posted by GarGuy View PostGrowing up,I was always a big kid for my age and could hold my own. When i was 12, there was a 15 year old that rode my bus. he was huge and mean. He would treat me terrible and i was scared to death of him. it was a daily think morning and evening for him to push me around, pull my ears, rub my face on the bus floor etc. Bus driver knew it and did nothing.
I got to the point that i was nausiated at the thought of riding the bus and begged for someone to take me to school. My grandfather took me and as we rode, he asked me what the heck was wrong with me. i told him the whole story. he told I was riding the bus going forward and that if i didnt deal with the situation he would deal with me worse than the boy was.
The next morning when that kid got on the bus he walked straight to me and said i was in his seat. I stood up, loaded up with all i had and hit him right between the eyes. he went down with a severely broken nose. the bus had not even started moving yet and the driver helped him off the bus. I was taken to the office at school and explained the entire situation much of which the driver confirmed. I was not punished. When i got home i told my granddad what happened and he said i dealt with it well.
the boy missed school the next day but the following, he got on the bus with two big black eyes and tape across the bridge of his nose. I was scared to death as he walked up and I just hit him again just like i had done two days before right on that broken nose. talk about a blood trail! the principal did not see the humor in that one.
That ended it though the fellow grew up and is some what of a friend to this day. As a matter of fact, i think he might just be a TBHer. No telling how long that would have gone on had I not gathered the courage to confront the situation.
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Originally posted by Captain39 View PostI am all for standing up to the bullies. But many you should think about before telling your kid that, depending on who is. The bully might actually can fight and have far more physical size and strength than your kids in some situations. You could be sending your kid to the slaughter in some situations.
I told my son to be sure he is ready for a fight when he was ready to stop the bullying. I made it clear that he may not win. But that winning is not the point. Self respect is, and letting them know that there is a price to pay for bullying him.
In the end, being bullied and not defending yourself is worse than getting your butt kicked.
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Originally posted by miket View PostBefore anyone thinks I think I am some tough guy, Im not. I hate any kind of confrontation. Im not particularly small, but certainly not a big guy.
I told my son to be sure he is ready for a fight when he was ready to stop the bullying. I made it clear that he may not win. But that winning is not the point. Self respect is, and letting them know that there is a price to pay for bullying him.
In the end, being bullied and not defending yourself is worse than getting your butt kicked.
Times have changed for sure I probably would have been suspended numerous times if I was going to school now.
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Update....
I met with the principle who is a good guy, we've generically talked a few times over the last couple of years.
He did some investigating and talked to several kids and a teacher that were there prior to meeting with them.
My son as well as the other kid were forthcoming and honest when asked what happened and the names that were called. Apparently this kid has been in trouble the last couple of years for name calling and running his mouth.
The principle talked with the them, made the kids talk to each other. They both have to come check in with him twice a week, as well as the teacher that has then in a class together. He said the policy is to suspend then both, but he wasn't going to do that. They have a pep rally today at school that they can't go to because they will be in a classroom together helping a teacher.
He said both of the boys seem to be Alpha kids and could be roll models for the 6th graders so they have to sit with and mentor them at lunch for a few weeks.
Our meeting went well, the kids hopefully resolved their issue as well. He was meeting with the other kids dad shortly after me.Last edited by Texas8point; 10-19-2018, 04:52 AM.
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In our society if there is no record of it it did not happen
Send the principle an email
About the bullying your son is going thru. Make sure to get dates and witnesses. Never know 40 years from
Now your son may run for president and he will
Be known as the school bully. Just saying in writing will
Usually get there attention
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Originally posted by miket View PostBefore anyone thinks I think I am some tough guy, Im not. I hate any kind of confrontation. Im not particularly small, but certainly not a big guy.
I told my son to be sure he is ready for a fight when he was ready to stop the bullying. I made it clear that he may not win. But that winning is not the point. Self respect is, and letting them know that there is a price to pay for bullying him.
In the end, being bullied and not defending yourself is worse than getting your butt kicked.Last edited by Captain39; 10-19-2018, 07:20 AM.
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Update....
I met with the principle who is a good guy, we've generically talked a few times over the last couple of years.
He did some investigating and talked to several kids and a teacher that were there prior to meeting with them.
My son as well as the other kid were forthcoming and honest when asked what happened and the names that were called. Apparently this kid has been in trouble the last couple of years for name calling and running his mouth.
The principle talked with the them, made the kids talk to each other. They both have to come check in with him twice a week, as well as the teacher that has then in a class together. He said the policy is to suspend then both, but he wasn't going to do that. They have a pep rally today at school that they can't go to because they will be in a classroom together helping a teacher.
He said both of the boys seem to be Alpha kids and could be roll models for the 6th graders so they have to sit with and mentor them at lunch for a few weeks.
Our meeting went well, the kids hopefully resolved their issue as well. He was meeting with the other kids dad shortly after me.
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Originally posted by Texas8point View PostUpdate....
I met with the principle who is a good guy, we've generically talked a few times over the last couple of years.
He did some investigating and talked to several kids and a teacher that were there prior to meeting with them.
My son as well as the other kid were forthcoming and honest when asked what happened and the names that were called. Apparently this kid has been in trouble the last couple of years for name calling and running his mouth.
The principle talked with the them, made the kids talk to each other. They both have to come check in with him twice a week, as well as the teacher that has then in a class together. He said the policy is to suspend then both, but he wasn't going to do that. They have a pep rally today at school that they can't go to because they will be in a classroom together helping a teacher.
He said both of the boys seem to be Alpha kids and could be roll models for the 6th graders so they have to sit with and mentor them at lunch for a few weeks.
Our meeting went well, the kids hopefully resolved their issue as well. He was meeting with the other kids dad shortly after me.
Great!
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Originally posted by Texas8point View PostUpdate....
I met with the principle who is a good guy, we've generically talked a few times over the last couple of years.
He did some investigating and talked to several kids and a teacher that were there prior to meeting with them.
My son as well as the other kid were forthcoming and honest when asked what happened and the names that were called. Apparently this kid has been in trouble the last couple of years for name calling and running his mouth.
The principle talked with the them, made the kids talk to each other. They both have to come check in with him twice a week, as well as the teacher that has then in a class together. He said the policy is to suspend then both, but he wasn't going to do that. They have a pep rally today at school that they can't go to because they will be in a classroom together helping a teacher.
He said both of the boys seem to be Alpha kids and could be roll models for the 6th graders so they have to sit with and mentor them at lunch for a few weeks.
Our meeting went well, the kids hopefully resolved their issue as well. He was meeting with the other kids dad shortly after me.
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Originally posted by MBV77 View PostThere was mention of 6’ 200# 3rd graders earlier in this thread. I want to see them!
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