I think it’ll be worth it. Willing to pay for whatever it costs. Haven’t decided yet on which marriage counselor.
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Ever considered premarital counseling?
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Yes but NOT for couples. Couples counseling is a giant waste of time and money. Go get counseling for yourself. Fix YOU. Be the best YOU. Then when the two of YOU know how to do be great by yourself and communicate with each other then and ONLY then is couples counseling worth it. I can assure you any marital type problems are based on unmet expectations. PERIOD. If you cannot communicate in a loving way your expectations and their expectations of you then, you're wasting time.
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Originally posted by Graysonhogs View PostYou don't need no stinking counselor. Marriage is easy. I've done it 3 times.
Seriously though, it couldn't hurt.
I wouldn't call what my wife and I did as pre-marital counseling but we did have to go through an interview of sorts before the pastor would agree to perform the ceremony. He asked questions and gave advice and I think it only lasted about an hour. I feel like even that was beneficial.
We haven't had any issues that we couldn't figure out how to overcome by spending a little time studying the Word and openly talking with each other. If we ever encounter a problem we can't overcome with those things, I won't hesitate for us to seek counseling.
And while you're not asking for it, I'm going to give you some simple advise anyway. Don't be afraid to show her your vulnerabilities early in your relationship, and allow her to be empathetic to them. On the flip side, be empathetic when she shows you her vulnerabilities. She won't always need you to fix her problems, sometimes just listening is enough. Solid advice from a Texas counselor named Brenee Brown. You can find her videos on YouTube.
May the Lord bless your upcoming marriage.
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Ask yourself these simple questions and there is no need for it. You can mix the order of questions if you like.
1. Is she low maintenance?
2. Where does she fall on the crazy/hot matrix. (if you don't know what that is, do yourself a favor and look it up)
3. What does her mother look like?
4. Can she bait her own hook?
5. Can she pack a cooler?
I'm sure some others will have more questions you can add to the list.
seriously though, if you feel the need, then do it. Good luck
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