At least make it tax deductible. I cant claim it and the ex doesn’t have to claim it as income. You can deduct gambling losses and alimony for Pete’s sake. I’m lucky, the ex and
I live a few miles apart , and I can see my kids whenever I want. We don’t have a schedule. If she has plans with them, they stay with her and vice versa.
I, thankfully, have not been divorced. Two of my friends have some horror stories though.
One friend had to spend an extra $15,000 to get child molestation accusations expunged off his record. They were false with no evidence. This same lady has done the same thing to two other men. She gets child support from three men that she accused of child molestation. All three cases were thrown out, no evidence.
Friend number two, he owned his house before he met his wife, before they got married and before they had two kids. They get divorced, she got his 180 thousand dollar house! They had a 2013 truck paid off, she got the truck. They had a nice four door car that was paid off, she got that.
Both friends pay about $1700 a month in child support.
For friend # 1, I'd sue the chit outta her for defamation of character. She wouldn't have a pot to **** in after that award amount. That and he'd gain custody.
I was very happy when I finally made my last child support payment. In all I paid over $200,000 in support to the ex. Also paid the medical bills. My two sons are worth every penny. They were raised right. My youngest is in college still so he only got more expensive.
Not divorced but my parents are. It wasn’t always smooth but over time, they learned to work together. Eventually, my mom agreed to stop child support because they had shared custody (and she didn’t feel that my dad owed her anything). I cannot thank my parents enough for making me their priority, versus focusing on hating each other. It’s amazing how much I learned about marriage by growing up through divorce.
It’s clearly a flawed system but, for those of you who are divorced with kids, please remember that your kids will grow up and they will eventually know the truth. For some of you, that should be a comforting feeling. For others, it should scare you to death.
Not divorced but my parents are. It wasn’t always smooth but over time, they learned to work together. Eventually, my mom agreed to stop child support because they had shared custody (and she didn’t feel that my dad owed her anything). I cannot thank my parents enough for making me their priority, versus focusing on hating each other. It’s amazing how much I learned about marriage by growing up through divorce.
It’s clearly a flawed system but, for those of you who are divorced with kids, please remember that your kids will grow up and they will eventually know the truth. For some of you, that should be a comforting feeling. For others, it should scare you to death.
My parents divorced when I was 6 the youngest of 4 boys. They worked everything out before court. Then my mom's friend talked he into a lawyer and he tried to hose my dad for every penny. She dumped him pretty quick. They respected each other to much to let lawyers screw things up. It was different back then ( i think ). The norm these days seems to be suck every penny out of someone then ask for more.
So what would an itemized list look like? I am not trying to start trouble here. I help raise two of my children by sending their mom money every month as well. Far more than anyone on here has mentioned. I think it is fair and have no problem doing so. We do not even have it court ordered. We left the court out of everything except the legal divorce papers. We have worked everything else out since. Here is what I would expect to see if she was to send me an itemized list
Rent = $1,200/3 in the house (my two kids and her) = $400 per person
Utilities/cable etc.. = $300/3 = $100 a kid
Groceries = $450/3 = $150 a kid
Transportation $450 car payment and insurance/ use for school and activities say .57cents a mile (irs number) 500 miles a month for both kids (school, sports ect...) $285 for both kids.
This does not include cell phones, clothes, sports, etc..
Total here would be $1,585 a month for two kids.
Not saying this is high or low, just what I figure it takes my ex based on what I feel she probably pays for. If she goes and gets her hair done or goes on a vacation does not matter as it is not in the base cost or needs of my kids.
I paid $ 525.00 a week, medical, and got to see her maybe a weekend out of the month, I KNOW what her mom did w/ the money since this was partly why I divorced her, among several other things, and paid for till she turned 18, and decided to drop college, that ended my support. Guys I feel for you all, its rough to see a child "once in a while" and know what her mama is doing w/ the money.. god bless each and every one of you paying...
And to make it worse, I have seen her 1 time in 9 years since she married.. this past saturday, and she avoided me like a plague... At a memorial service..
Let me clarify. I was paying 600 a month before, but after adjustments/hearing, it is adjusted to over 1k. Our orders haven't been adjusted in years. The AG sent out the letter saying we can file a hearing for adjustment if we wanted. Obviously she chose to have the hearing. The new amount is legit (support plus medical) based on my pay, but man, it just sucks. Between that and taxes, I am only bringing home around 55% of my pay each period. Maybe I have no right to gripe, but to me it's a lot of money. Her husband works, and they have 3 children in the house (2 together, and mine). Like I said, I'm not looking for pity, or someone to tell me I've no right to gripe, just wanted to vent.
So did you go to the hearing too? You should have had a chance to show your bills and plead your case to not have to do the full % taken out. The AG office will push hard to get the full amount because thats more money for them but ultimately its up to her so she could have taken less too or even no increase at all.
Been paying mine for the last 11 years and only have 6 months to go!!!!! I agree it sure would be nice to be able to use it as a Tax Deduction.......no such luck.
If I run into this, I will have no problem telling my 18 year old how much her mama was given. The month my CS stopped having to go to daycare by ex bought a 30k car and a trip to mexico with her bf.
So you have no problem telling your kid that it’s not his fault what mama did but you want to screw him over anyway? Can you video the lunch in the face he should give you?
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