A Son in Trouble....My Time to Ask..Prayers
I have read so many posts on all the forums, prayers needed, classifieds, all the one's that mean something to us in various ways. I'm not religious, but spiritual and have experienced the power of prayers in my long life....
Just felt compelled to share something I've never faced...."When your Son is getting divorced," but he has potential mental problems to be faced.
Brought back memories of past experiences I had over the years...my children wondering why Dad was leaving, were they to blame, why have Mom & Dad gone their separate ways? Will the hurt and anger ever subside?
There were those days long past when my son's and I went hunting together with their Grand Father who is deceased, but their mom was not part of our hunt anymore. They heard the arguments, sometimes took sides, but my ex and I mostly managed not to say "too" many bad things about each other. We are cordial to each other anytime some family event brings us together. Perhaps we both finally grew up and buried the pains.
Now my oldest son, cried today about his two kids being gone...at least half the time? Some family members are involved and from experience I have told them to stay out of it! Memories are shattered and the future is not set yet.
It's just a Deja Vu...for me...can't do much but "tear up" and hope my son can defeat his demons....all I hear is 2nd hand information from his brother, other family, ex to be and of course him. As an ex LEO I could deal with those is distress...I had an easy out...break the law and you go to jail! I felt empathy for many over the years...others...well you made your decision now suffer the consequences. But now it's on my, our family and the love I will always have for my oldest son...of course all 3 of them.
So, it's tough love as I told him today...get your act together, change and survive. I'll always love you, defend you, give my life for you...but YOU have to change and conquer your demons....if you don't, the future is not in your favor. He's educated, has his own IT company, but all of that does not matter when rational becomes irrational.
Physical disease has a much more better outcome than those afflictions that our mind endures. My love for him will never falter, but patience will. So my ONE and ONLY time to ask....send a prayer his way....he's not a TBH member, but needs intervention to pave the way for a better life......
Just felt compelled to share something I've never faced...."When your Son is getting divorced," but he has potential mental problems to be faced.
Brought back memories of past experiences I had over the years...my children wondering why Dad was leaving, were they to blame, why have Mom & Dad gone their separate ways? Will the hurt and anger ever subside?
There were those days long past when my son's and I went hunting together with their Grand Father who is deceased, but their mom was not part of our hunt anymore. They heard the arguments, sometimes took sides, but my ex and I mostly managed not to say "too" many bad things about each other. We are cordial to each other anytime some family event brings us together. Perhaps we both finally grew up and buried the pains.
Now my oldest son, cried today about his two kids being gone...at least half the time? Some family members are involved and from experience I have told them to stay out of it! Memories are shattered and the future is not set yet.
It's just a Deja Vu...for me...can't do much but "tear up" and hope my son can defeat his demons....all I hear is 2nd hand information from his brother, other family, ex to be and of course him. As an ex LEO I could deal with those is distress...I had an easy out...break the law and you go to jail! I felt empathy for many over the years...others...well you made your decision now suffer the consequences. But now it's on my, our family and the love I will always have for my oldest son...of course all 3 of them.
So, it's tough love as I told him today...get your act together, change and survive. I'll always love you, defend you, give my life for you...but YOU have to change and conquer your demons....if you don't, the future is not in your favor. He's educated, has his own IT company, but all of that does not matter when rational becomes irrational.
Physical disease has a much more better outcome than those afflictions that our mind endures. My love for him will never falter, but patience will. So my ONE and ONLY time to ask....send a prayer his way....he's not a TBH member, but needs intervention to pave the way for a better life......
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