A few months left with Momma...

[JDALEX]

I lost my mother 3 days after Christmas, I would spend as much time with her as you can.
Tell her you love her! Prayers for you and your family.

[BigRed323]

Has she been to MD Anderson by any chance?

[SL1]

One of things my wife did without our knowledge, was sit with my mother and video tape answers to questions that she asked my mother. It was about my mothers childhood and when she met my father. A lot of questions about us kids, etc. It was the most thoughtful thing ever.

It took a while before any of us could watch the videos, but i wouldn't trade them for the world now. Try to spend as much time as possible with your mothers, fathers, brother and sisters.
You never know what can happen. The things you think are insurmountable will suddenly become trival when something like this happens.

[HogHunter34]

Man I feel for you & can relate to a certain extent. My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer back last June of 2016. She's currently undergoing chemo cycles via MD Anderson. She's responded well with very little side effects which has been a blessing so far. I often wonder at what point will she decline. It's a tough road. I stay prayful for continued positive response to chemo. I think quality time with her is what I would recommend.

[Boyd1212]

Lost my dad when I was 17 to cancer. He's been gone 14 years now. I wish I would have asked him a bunch of questions but I didn't get to see him while he was going through treatments. I got to see him the day before he died. And all I could say to him was it was ok to go. Told him he didn't need to fight anymore, he did his job with me. He died the next morning with me standing by his side. I wish I could have really told him that I did need him, and it wasn't ok for him to go yet, but I knew he was only holding on for me. So now I'm setting here crying like a baby, but I can only say to spend as much time with your mom as possible and just be there for her. Prayers to you and your mom.

[chino]

Prayer sent

[Pullersboy]

My Mom has been diagnosed with a very aggressive cancer and it was caught pretty late... She was given 3 months to live without chemotherapy and 6 - 9 months with chemo. She has elected to do the chemo because she wants to make my Daughter and Son's birthday...

What are some questions you would ask your Mom? I'm just drawing a blank and I guess it is because I am in shock over all of this. But, I realize that at some point I won't be able to talk to her anymore...

Anyway, let me know what you would ask your Momma...

Sorry for the bad news to have come.

I'm not sure what I'd ask. But, I can say that as my wife's grandfather got older and wasn't getting around to well, my wife got an idea that was brilliant. See, he was always a quiet guy and never told much about his own history. He was a Mexican imagrant to the US as a young boy, and was a WWII Army Vet, who landed in Normandy France in a glider 1 day after D-Day and fought his way across Europe. The man had a story that up to this point had never been told because he didn't volunteer info and everyone was afraid to ask. My wife started taking a recorder to his house when she'd go over there to clean his house. With his permission, she recorded their conversations. It really is an amazing story that's recorded in his own words. It just took my wife taking the time to get his story before it would be lost forever. Less than a year after she stopped recording, he passed away. But that audio history collection is there for his posterity.

I wish you, and you family peace during this difficult time, Sir.

[CrookedArrow]

I asked my mom several times before she passed, if she knew how much I loved her?

I asked her if my 2 daughters had made her happy at the way they were growing up and maturing as ladies.

I asked if she were happy with the spouse I married and overall just with my/our marriage.

I asked her what she was going to miss most when she left this earth and she gave me 3 answers.
1) She was going to miss Sam's college graduation.
2) She was going to miss Katie's graduation (she graduates in 2018)
3) This one I still get teary eyed and miss. She stated she was going to miss just drinking coffee and catching up with me.

My mom was in Hospice for 4 months so yeah I asked a bunch of stuff. Don't let your mom leave this earth before telling her what you may have wanted to tell her for years. You will NEVER get a second chance. That suks..........

[Chapo]

This may sound strange but I would suggest recording the sound of her voice. I lost my dad very unexpected 6 years ago and so many days I would give anything to hear his voice. Wouldn't matter what was being said, just the sound of their voice will be very very comforting later on

[BmacBmac1]

I have nothing to add that has not been said but you, your Momma and family are in my prayers!!!!


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[drube75]

Hey brother, I can't even imagine what you are going through, but my best suggestion is to ask her to make you a cook book with all of her best and favorite recipes. For some reason, with my family, memories are based around food. It's warming and its something you can pass on for generations. Prayers sent.

[ElWhompo]

My Mom passed Dec 1, 2004. As many others have said, just spend time with her. Me? I just want 1 more hug from mine.

That said, prayers up. Faith will see you through.

[Mudslinger]

Similar happened to my Dad. He knew he was very sick, but did not let anyone know except my BIL. I knew he did not feel well, but did not know how bad. He went into the hospital on Dec 22, came home on the 23rd and went back in on the 24th. Mom had a heart attack on the 23rd getting him out of the hospital. She had a stint put in on the 24th and got her home on the 25th. Docs told us the morning of the 25th of 2001 Dad would not make it thru the day but he did not die until the evening of the 26th. It is tough watching your Dad pass in a hospital room. One if not the worst day of my life. I did not ask any questions as he was in so much pain from a very aggressive cancer that basically all I told him was the love I felt for him and Mom and he would always be in our prayers. He was my step Dad, but the only one I knew as I never knew my biological Dad (died very early in my life). A wonderful person and a great provider. he is sorely missed.

Not sure about any questions, but if you truly care, just keep telling them how much you love them and how much they mean to you.

[Rakkasan2187]

Prayers sent

[Muskles]

My dad just passed unexpectedly almost 10 years ago. We never thought anything was wrong, he and I had been building fence the week before. I'd give anything to hug him and say I love you again! Enjoy the time you have! Bless you, your mom, and your family!