What Would You Do?

[firemanjj82]

It's Christmas time, and I have two brothers that I have broken relationships with, due to one who has neglected his kids to the point that he lost custody permanently, and another who has placed himself back into a situation with a girl that he just got out of with his now ex-wife.

I feel like I should at least call and say Merry Christmas to them, but I know if I was them, the words "Merry Christmas" would be the last thing I'd want to hear.

[topduarte]

Do it. Merry Christmas are strong words to the soul

[DRettele]

You need to call them. Sounds like they need someone to lean on.

[lodgepole]

I don't talk to my brothers. My family is completely dysfunctional. But hay, you can't spell dysfunctional without functional.


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[wsteffen]

Call or at least message them in one way or another. Don't sink to their level. Have a former, very good friend that won't even talk to me, but sent her a Merrry Christmas message.

[firemanjj82]

I sent him a voice mail and talked to the other one. The conversation could've been more awkward, but truth be told, him and I were good up till a month ago. Then he went off and did some stuff that, between him and my other brother, about put our mother 6 feet below.

The thing is, is that they both know better, they know what they need to do to fix the situation, especially when their kids are involved. Instead, they choose the other road and it breaks my mom's heart. So, if you mess with her, don't expect me to be too kindly to you.

[wsteffen]

They have to live their lives, not what you or any one else thinks they need to do. It may be hard, but accept it. You don't want them to tell you how to live do you?

[fox1]

I promise you that EVERY family has issues, their sins are no greater than anyone else's. Be the bigger man and open up to them.

[rjtkdplus]

I promise you that EVERY family has issues, their sins are no greater than anyone else's. Be the bigger man and open up to them.

No truer words were ever spoken.

[BBBGP]

I promise you that EVERY family has issues, their sins are no greater than anyone else's. Be the bigger man and open up to them.

[AntlerCollector]

I would call them

[TxAg]

If somebody neglects their kids that bad, then I'd want to help the kids and to hell with the adult.

[Radar]

Have not spoke to a brother or a sister in three years. I know it eats at my mom but my dad understands and the whole deal was over my moms heart surgery. She needed a valve replacement in her heart and her choice was a biological valve and not a mechanical valve. I took my mom's side and told her to get what she wanted. My sister in law started talking smack about my moms decision and got my brother and sister to take her side. My mom and dad and I agreed that what ever mom wants she gets.
I no longer consider my brother or sister as family and have moved on.
This is the first time I have thought about it and really don't care about those two siblings. My uncles and aunts have talked to me about the issue and clearly relate to my side.
Good luck bud and do not doubt your decisions.

[Mohawkman]

Call sounds like they need YOU more than ever. Blood is Thicker than water!

[Buckwheat]

Call. If you're second guessing you thought it's because calling is the right one. One day you may regret not calling.

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