Taking on another Child...

[webstertroy]

When me and my wife started dating 8 plus years ago I knew about her ex husband I used to work with him.. He passed away leaving 2 daughters. One with my wife her name is Ayla and is how 10 and another girl Hailey who is now 15. Hailey has a different mother yes I know lol. But none the less apart of the family. Her mother about 4 years ago got n heroin pretty bad and hasn't gotten her self back yet.. She has been with different family members and now looks like Tuesday we will be taking her in.. Shes a head strong Child but a willingness to work already and exell in life.. She has had a job for little over a year already and when she moves with us will be looking for another. I guess it will just have to see how it goes 4 kids is going to be tuff lol. Ill be posting looking for a dresser here soon if anyone has a lead on anything.. Anyone tell me what I'm about to get into with a 15 year old girl lol

[Playa]

No idea what it's like to have a 15 yr old girl, but good on you for stepping up.

[Landrover]

Positive loving reinforcement...........show her what she does not know! Congrats on the addition!!!

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[Black Ice]

I got nothing on advice for raising a kid but I will put up $50 for a dress for y'all. PM me your PayPal and I'll send it.


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[Ironman]

I have 3 daughters, all grown now. About all I can say is good luck. You are going to need it.

[webstertroy]

I got nothing on advice for raising a kid but I will put up $50 for a dress for y'all. PM me your PayPal and I'll send it.


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I dongt have a pay pal thanks for the offer not looking for handouts.. We will be ok

[El Viejo]

May God bless you richly for this gesture. Both of you show her lots of love. She probably needs it.

[chongo]

My wife and I are foster parents. We've only had young kids, under 3. So no advice for your kiddo but good luck. We have three bio kids and it took me quite a while to get used to 4 kids and we'll be getting a fifth in the next few weeks. It's a lot but you'll be fine. We'll be sure to keep your family in our prayers. You got this!

[webstertroy]

We are going to start next week looking for a new rent house hopfuly we can find one around what we already pay lol but in a 4 bedroom lol... I don't think the girls would like to have a 5,10 and a 15 year old all in one room lol

[Pullersboy]

When me and my wife started dating 8 plus years ago I knew about her ex husband I used to work with him.. He passed away leaving 2 daughters. One with my wife her name is Ayla and is how 10 and another girl Hailey who is now 15. Hailey has a different mother yes I know lol. But none the less apart of the family. Her mother about 4 years ago got n heroin pretty bad and hasn't gotten her self back yet.. She has been with different family members and now looks like Tuesday we will be taking her in.. Shes a head strong Child but a willingness to work already and exell in life.. She has had a job for little over a year already and when she moves with us will be looking for another. I guess it will just have to see how it goes 4 kids is going to be tuff lol. Ill be posting looking for a dresser here soon if anyone has a lead on anything.. Anyone tell me what I'm about to get into with a 15 year old girl lol

Teenaged girls can be a huge PITA. But, at the same time, can have you wrapped around their little finger in no time. My daughter (about to be 22) was a pain when she was that age. I think social status is so much more difficult of a subject that when we were kids. All of this social media is just too much for mush-brained teens. Their world revolves around it and one would think their lives depend on it and their relative successes or failures.
This girl sounds like she's had a rough go at life so far. I'd be inclined to show her the love, attention and morals that she may not have seen before. By love, I don't mean showering her with gifts. Of course, having descent things is nice for any kid. But, I mean really spending time with each of them individually and as a family. Try to make each one feel special and loved. Show interest in their interests. Get involved in their interests with them....even if you couldn't care less about the subject at hand. Provide even keel, steady boundaries, guidlines, and discipline to each child in the household. This will be extremely challenging, especially with the new one coming in. But, if you let her slide on stuff that you wouldn't let the other kids, you run the risk if damaging relationships with the other kids.

Kudos to you and your wife for taking on this great challenge for the benifit a young lady in need. This will be a difficult task, I'm sure. I would bet, though, that the rewards will outweigh the difficulties when it's all said and done.

[Cajun Blake]

prayers and support sent brother

I have a 15 yo daughter who lives on her cell phone and constantly takes selfies, instagram

I still don't understand the fascination of taking 100's of pictures a day of your face , guess its because I'm old school and didnt have a cell phone (Nokia bag) until I was 21 and in college

[bwssr]

awesome!...before you bring her in, you and the wife sit down and agree on how to teach all 6 of you the way to help her...and sit down with the other kids, talk to them and let them know what is going on, and why....good luck!

[IowaHunter]

Good for you and what you venturing into shortly. It will be a rodeo without a doubt. Try not to react as quick as she will to issues. Girls are often a little more stubborn than boys. My girls appreciate what we did for them in hindsight.

[Eric Pence]

I have 2 boys 18 and 15 and just get ready to spend some money...But God bless you for helping this child out.