When all else fails - communicate. Talk with the other guys and make a plan.
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I'd check with the other pallbearers for sure as mentioned above. Being only 19, the suggestions to just wear your suit may require a fairly pricey purchase. I remember asking a couple people what to wear to my business fraternity interview in my Jr. year at TCU and was very casually told to "just wear one of your suits...nothing too fancy". Problem being, I did not own a suit at that time...slacks with nice shirts and a tie were as nice as I'd needed to that point in my life.
That being said, I always dress as nice as possible to show the utmost respect...I often wear that suit I bought in 2002.
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Originally posted by DFWInsuranceGuy View PostWhen in doubt wear a suit. You can never be overdressed for a funeral wedding etc, but you don't want to be the only guy wearing jeans.
Sometimes there is a special request for certain clothes. When my Uncle Flint McCullough (75 years training cutting horses) died, both he and all his pallbearers wore jeans and white western shirts. With the nicer weather we're having now, I'd go with a suit, unless there's a special request. By all means talk to the other pallbearers.
The funeral director will give you a carnation to put on your coat. After the final graveside service, you'll take it off and place it on the casket.
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Originally posted by gatorgar View PostDone it too many times. First one was when I was 14, uncle's funeral and dad (his brother) was having knee problems so I was asked to take his place. Cowboy funeral with starched jeans and dark western shirt. Most every other time, I've worn a dark suit, coat depends on others, with a white shirt, black tie. My grandfather's funeral, we all wore matching t-shirts over starched jeans and our (polished) work boots. He was a worker to the end and we carried on his legacy.
Ask the other bearers and above all else be humble. Very few honors match being trusted to carry someone to their final resting place.
Thank the family for trusting you with such a responsibility. And stand by them until everyone else has left, until they are ready to leave. That means more than you will understand. They will lean on you for support and your strength will help them let go.
Condolences for the loss and be brave for those around you.
One of my biggest regrets in my life was missing a good friends mothers funeral to go on a preplanned river trip. I've never felt so guilty in my life, and I'll never make that mistake again. To this day, I think it was the most selfish thing I've ever done.
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