Single Dad Question how to answer this - "my wish didn't come true"

[ted_kennedys_liver]

I most line other single dad's have grown to hate Sunday afternoons. On the way to bring my daughter back this afternoon, I have the phone to my 5 year old daughter to call my mom. With a minute my daughter tells my mom, "I mass a wish last night and it didn't come true." My mom asked, " what was the wish?". My little girl says,"that I could stay with daddy forever and now I am having to go back." Immediately my eyes watered up and managed to keep myself strong. My mom was at a loss and managed to somewhat change the subject.

All I knew to tell my daughter was sometimes when we wish for things you don't get that wish right away. You just have to believe it will come true later. She then said, "like when I turn 6?" I said we will just have to see but just know daddy lives you and will see you Wednesday for dinner.

Last night she asked me why things are ago unfair because I have to stay at mommy's much more than I do with you. All I knew to tell her was unfortunately that is the way it is sometimes but know that I love you.

Any of you have any advice or been in my shoes with the same questions from the little ones?

I wouldn't wish this crap on any one.......

[BrandonA]

Long drive in my life. It does get a little easier

[Colton]

Man I don't know what else to say other than my heart breaks for you

You'll be in my prayers

[boy wonder]

Very difficult situation.

[Speedgoat]

Being deployed for a year away from my son was pure hell and his mother loves me. I pray that your situation improves and that you are freed of the stress.

[TxDispatcher]

My daughter is now 20, but I went through the same thing when she was that age. All I'll tell you is this...be true, real, show her love, and be honest. If you mess up, apologize to her. It may take longer than you want (it took 8 years for me) but when the day arrives that she wants to live with you, and has actually the choice, you're heart will explode with happiness. Never give to hope, brother...never give up hope. You will face some hard times, just hold on to hope

[denowt]

One of the reasons I fought for, and won, custody of my son when he turned 1.
He's been under my roof, under my rules for almost 16 years now.

What sucks and is unfair is, she pays me a whopping $150/month for child support.
If the roles were reversed, I'd be paying $600/month or probably more.
It's the same kid.
Explain that one to me.

[oldag1986]

Went through it in the nineties. Make every day all you can, can't get it back

[Texas Grown]

I know this situation all to well. You gave her the right answer(s). What we pray for today, isn't always answered today.

[Atfulldraw]

I just try to use something positive.....

"Whenever I wish for something like that, it may not come true immediately, but that doesn't mean your wish wasn't granted. Sometimes, what happens is that the next few days will fly by really quickly and we will see each other again before you even know the time has passed. So that's almost as good...."

or "We will just keep wishing together, because I have the same wish." My daughter and I like to talk about looking forward to the next time we are in the same place together.

Those days of looking forward to something are priceless as well.

[Pushbutton2]

Read Daniel 9

[ted_kennedys_liver]

Appreciate it guys.