Prayers please. Another TBH Divorce

[Brian H]

I am sending prayers up for y'all. I can recommend the book "The Love Dare." You can pick it up at any Mardel Christian bookstore. My wife and I watched the movie "Fireproof" that it is based off of. I have given this book to a few of my friends and it has changed their marriages for the better.

I will be getting that movie ASAP. Our company has it in the library. We will watch it in the next couple of days, at least I will

[deer farmer]

if u can keep a woman happy , then u r a better man than me After being married for 24 yrs I went through a divorce, the yr before the divorce we went through counseling and she told the counselor, they were on my side. I walked on egg shell that year, trying to keep things together but nothing seamed to work, then I found out she was having an affair. So after the divorce, I found out that I was a lot happier and have had a great time being single. 18 yrs now, its great.
I hope things work out for u but if not , it is not the end of the world and some good times are in the future. Lots of um out here

[RascalArms]

Sorry to hear about the pending divorce....hope you can get it turned around and repair what is broke..

I do have to wonder why it is always the man that has to make the woman a priority. Seems every time I read one of these threads that is the case. Meanwhile the woman can do what she wants when she wants and doesn't catch any slack for it. I have a friend going through the same thing. She wants him to make her his priority but she is not willing to do the same. She has no concern for what he likes to do or that he like to go hunting or fishing occasionally or making sure he is happy. She is just concerned about herself. It's pure selfishness. I hope that is not the case here...it should be a team effort..

Spot on Jason. Nobody ever said marriage is easy...in fact, it's hard DARN WORK and takes equal effort from BOTH parties. If one throws in the towel it won't last.

Prayers up for the OP.

[60 Deluxe]

My first wife was a stay at home mom. She wasn't doing much of anything as she wasn't cleaning house or doing any cooking for the family. She started in on me about all of the hours that I was working and wanted me to find a different job. I could not do it without putting the family in the poorhouse. I figured that the hormones that the Dr. had her on were just messing with her emotions and just tried to hang in there as I thought that I loved her. She divorced me, took me for everything, and moved on. She has been married four times now and can't get along with any man. We (family and ex husbands) have all come to the conclusion that she is bat crap crazy.

It is a tough spot to be in. If you love her you will try everything in your power to keep it together. If she leaves anyway, just remember that life is too short to live with a woman that does not love you back.

[60 Deluxe]

also there is some horrible advice in this thread. 85% of these guys think the ***** needs to stay in the kitchen. Treat her like the queen you know she is.

Get real, they are no more a queen than the man is a king. It takes both sides pulling together in a marriage and there is not room for any prima donnas. That being said, I spoil my wife quite a bit and she returns the favor.
We will probably be together until death.

[Graysonhogs]

Hope y'all can figure things out. However, in my experience, the reasons that one tells the other "is the problem" seldom turn out to be the real reason.