What Would You Do? 23 year olds

[bluelund79]

I was given 3 options upon high school graduation. 1) Attend college, 2) Get a second job, 3) Join the military. Either way, but end of August, Dad got his den back. I did all 3, and somehow turned out somewhat okay.....my kids will be given the same options. FWIW, I bought my own truck at 16, paid all maintenance and gas, insurance. My wife, well, silver spoon. She has come around to my way of thinking for our boys. Imo, the young needs to grow up and remember the previous work ethic you stated he has

[dbaio1]

Foot + *** = Insert

I have no tolerance for laziness or free loaders. If your room and board is covered to help you build a nest egg, get off your *** and help around the place........

[randal]

i would expect some help, i wouldn't make my own kids pay to live with me.. when i lived at home i was expected to clean up after my self and help out when needed.. i took it upon my self to mow and take care of trash day and stuff like that without being asked.. it was the quitting college that got me the push out the door..

[SmTx]

He gets to go fishing every weekend?

He's living the dream.

[kumathebear]

Not good.....

[TMiddleton]

Time for him to go.

[jds247]

Kick him out he will be fine . I moved out at 17 and made it just fine . I didn't have money working as a house framer . I was able to pay bills just fine .

[djc]

My kids paid their car insurance and phone from the time they were 16. Either pay his own bills and pitch in around the house, or move out and do it all on his own.

[Corn Sack]

I'll relate this to my ole man teaching me how to swim as a young boy. It's called the "sink or swim method" throw him in, and he'll either sink or swim, pretty simple. Pops was there to make sure I didn't drown of course but it **** sure works!

[Ruark]

It's very common for people in their 30s and 40s to temporarily move in with their parents these days, when people get laid off, have huge student loan debts, etc. and now you can get a college degree and best thing you can find is working at McDonald's. So if parents want to help their kid get a leg up and put some money away while he's finding a life, nothing wrong with that *IF* there's a mutual understanding that that's what's going on, not just freeloading.

There's nothing wrong with expecting them to help out with bills, housework, mowing the lawn, etc., but not so much that they can't save any money. You just have to look at the individual situation, and the person's attitude towards it all, what they're really doing.

[Old Bald Guy]

"Or is this just the ENTITLEMENT age kids nowadays?"
Kids come into this world not knowing much of anything. What they know when they are in their 20's is directly related to what we as parents have taught them as they were growing up. I've tried to teach mine that no one owes them anything--the only thing they are entitled to is the opportunity to succeed or fail in the game of life.

[Abcdj]

Enabling to much. Let him stay awhile, save money then the move out date is a great idea. Might be in some sort of mini depression from not being a college athlete anymore. It's hard when your competitive career is finally over but ya gotta move on.

[jerp]

Some of these responses crack me up. Apparently all you guys were 100% squared away in every aspect of your life at age 23. The kid has a job, right? That is a start. Maybe he just needs a firm nudge from his folks to get out on his own. It just takes some longer than others to find their way.