Need some advice from my Christian brothers

[sambo73]

My wife was approached today about leading childrens church. She was doing it before because others wanted it and said they would help but yall know how that went. The lady that took over is gonna start teaching a sunday school class and said she cant do both. Heres the kicker, my wife is our AWANA commander. That would put my wife doin two things plus workin a full time job.

The lady said just get some people to volunteer for a certain day. That didnt work before. My wife is the kind who has trouble sayin no because shes afraid nobody will step up and do it, thus leading to the kids not having a program. But she really dont wanna do it. Shes afraid the kids will suffer if she dont but afraid they will cause her hearts not in it. I told her to say no and make somebody step up and take it.

Any suggestions other than pray about it?

[El Viejo]

I used to be like that - can't say NO to anything. After some time I finally have come to the point where I only do what I believe God wants for me to do. If she doesn't want to do it, then she shouldn't. Her heart won't be in it. She needs to allow the person God has for the job to step up and do it. I have been asked to spearhead various endeavors, only to have them turn out not so well because I wasn't the right person for the job. I'm sure she (& you) have prayed about it, so now she should do as God leads. "Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). You take delight in Him through prayer & Scripture reading & He will lead your heart to desire what He wants you to do. I'll be in prayer for your wife as well.

[Shane]

If it were my wife, I'd advise her to say no. Sounds like she has a full plate already. The other lady needs to be the one to find a suitable replacement for herself instead of just trying to pass the buck to your wife.

It's easy to say no to bad things, but it's hard to say no to a good thing even though it's not the right time for you. But just because it's a good thing doesn't mean we have to say yes every time.

Some of the others that said they would help in the past can step up. It's OK if your wife gives them a chance to do it for themselves.

[texaswoods8]

the Lord gives us the ability to what we can handle. If we try and spread out to thin we will never be that best witness. Pray about it and he will make it clear if there's any unrest on if it the right choice it probably isn't.


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[elkbowhunter]

Sounds like your wife loves the Lord. As Ive grown up I say No to a lot thing these days at church. I pick 4 things a year that I devote to. I do not take on a 5th. God gives us wisdom to say NO sometimes. unfortunately in the church world 10% of the people do 100% of the work. The thing about the folks that do that is, they don't know how to say no. They get labeled as good ol Joe he will do it all. Doing it all takes away opportunity for those that do nothing. Ive learned that God never lets things that need to be done go undone. HE will supply the workers. The church at times is good at manipulation and guilt to pressure something that they think GOD is doing. If there is not peace and joy in your heart in doing something, why would one choose to do it. Just humbly ask God, He will make His ways clear

[DFWPI]

Are you married to Ruth? Oh wait, that is my wife LoL.

She was the same way and we did it until our kids got into Jr High and finally we were able to get away from it for a bit. Now my daughter and her husband are involved in the youth at her church.

[Bro. Bill]

Seek Gods will here .. I have seen a many a person jump up and take positions in a church.. Only for them to fail.. And it ended up causing strife.. if a person is not in Gods will they will miserable ...

[sambo73]

Seek Gods will here .. I have seen a many a person jump up and take positions in a church.. Only for them to fail.. And it ended up causing strife.. if a person is not in Gods will they will miserable ...

I understand what ur saying here. She loves the awana ministry. Thats where she fells led.

[VorTexan]

I don't think there is a church or body of christians that doesn't have this problem if you will.

I will offer this and I could be wrong but many times I think someone in this case needs to step back so someone else will step up. God is dealing with someone to take this task and it may indeed be your wife and if so He will not give her more than she can handle.

My suggestion (and you already know it) is prayer and quite time. Pray that God will reveal who should be where in this situation.

[sambo73]

I don't think there is a church or body of christians that doesn't have this problem if you will.



I will offer this and I could be wrong but many times I think someone in this case needs to step back so someone else will step up. God is dealing with someone to take this task and it may indeed be your wife and if so He will not give her more than she can handle.



My suggestion (and you already know it) is prayer and quite time. Pray that God will reveal who should be where in this situation.

Thx Marty.

[dustoffer]

Seek Gods will here .. I have seen a many a person jump up and take positions in a church.. Only for them to fail.. And it ended up causing strife.. if a person is not in Gods will they will miserable ...

"It is far better to do a few things well, than to do everything in a mediocre fashion." Spread yourself too thin and your ministry/home/job/health or something will suffer.

My wife leads the Wednesday evening children's mission program, teaches SS, and teaches 3 Bible Studies each week. She handles it, and takes care of me too, and I admire her for it. Way more than I want or can handle, but that's the difference in our spiritual gifts.

My advice is to pray for discernment -- discernment of God's will in the matter, that you may recognize the difference between His will and your wants.

[Deb]

I think she should say no. To much "busy" is not a good thing for her family life, her health or her walk with Jesus.

[Death from Above]

Hey Sammy.

I think you and your wife know the answer and just seek confirmation. Just remember that you do not have to worry about the position as God already has it worked out...just get out the way .

What does bless my heart is to see lay workers willing to do the Kingdom work. God Bless!