Stepdaughter troubles

[JSR11]

I am in desperate need of help on raising/disiplining my 7 year old stepdaughter. We could not be farther apart right now. Does anyone know of any books or other resources. Her dad is just enough in the picture to cause problems with me and daughter. My wife and I are also on seperate sides of discipline for her. I think she goes about it wrong most of the time and she thinks I go about it incorrectly most of the time.

[sharkhunter]

I feel your pain on this one. I suggest you and your wife work out things first then go from there. That's what I had to do.

[Shane]

Step 1 is to get on the same page with your wife about it. Do not even worry about what Step 2 is until you get Step 1 done.

[bbuck8]

Good advice above. My experience.

[Will_903]

Step 1. You and the wife have to get on same page, both of you need to give a little.

[wheels]

Step 1 fo sho

[BULL21]

I have two step daughters. The only reason I made it was because my wife Nd I were In agreement. If y'all can't figure it out, get a counselor; otherwise it can effect your marriage.

[huntnfishtex]

Step 1 is to get on the same page with your wife about it. Do not even worry about what Step 2 is until you get Step 1 done.

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[QDM4fun]

As far as books on discipline, get 1,2,3 Magic. My wife brought it home, and said Ok, thought it would be bunch of psycho hooey. Wrong. It opened my eyes to things I was doing wrong quickly. Very good book and better results. Good luck.

[SNAKEHUNTER]

Shane nailed it!




SNAKEHUNTER

[Bonesplitter]

Step 1 is to get on the same page with your wife about it. Do not even worry about what Step 2 is until you get Step 1 done.

Yup, you have to remember, that is her baby. Do you have any children of your own? If not, you wont understand. If you do, try to think how you would feel if your wife disciplined your child or if your ex wives husband disciplined your child. I would try and do my best to get on the same page as your wife, talk to her and come to a mutual agreement. If you and your wife aren't working together you are working against each other.

[Bill]

You and your wife need to be on the same page. If you can't do it yourselves, you owe it to your relationship and your stepdaughter to get somebody to help you- religious, councelor, whatever.

Good book? Mother Knows Best by Dr. Lee Benjamin on puppy training. Not kidding, it's how to never hit or yell and give and get love in return with a puppy. The common thread with raising a child is children and dogs brains are not developed enough to understand the concept of an equal to equal relationship. They're either the Alpha or the Beta, and if you do not take the Alpha role, the child or the dog will. Then the trouble starts because not only do they think they're in control, they actually are and you're never going to win the race.

Advise? If you punish, never hit and have the punishment relate to the infringement. Going to your room or no TV has nothing to do with talking back or not doing a task.

[Tmag]

Step 1 is to get on the same page with your wife about it. Do not even worry about what Step 2 is until you get Step 1 done.

This, your wasting your time until this is done.

[TXBlueEyes]

You have to be on the same page. If you figure out how to do that please let me know. It gets even worse when there is his and hers. I'm glad we didn't have any ours.

[manwitaplan]

As far as books on discipline, get 1,2,3 Magic. My wife brought it home, and said Ok, thought it would be bunch of psycho hooey. Wrong. It opened my eyes to things I was doing wrong quickly. Very good book and better results. Good luck.

Highly recommend this book to all parents of small children. It was an eye opener for us as we'll.

Btw - it worked like a charm if you follow it.