Marital Problem - need advice
I don't post on here often, just browse and enjoy the conversations. However, I need to gather some unbiased opinions since no one here knows me or my wife. Sorry for this being so long winded, but here goes.
I travel with my job and spend a good amount of time in Lake Charles, as that's where one of my main customers is located. While there, I frequent a specific restaurant and have for years. There is a waitress who works there and each time I go in, she waits on me. Nothing inappropriate has happened, and I'm not trying to go there or looking for it. This waitress friends requested me on Facebook some time ago and has sent me a couple of private messages, which my wife has seen. None of them were bad, just telling me how her dad is doing (he was sick) and asking me how me, THE WIFE and the kids were.
The other day I went in there and had lunch. She has a new manager and the place has changed a little. The bar area is now smaller and it isn't the same atmosphere it was. I was joking with her and her manager and said I couldn't come in and get loud and rowdy anymore and the manager said "sure you can". Here's where the problem started.
The waitress sent me a private message on Facebook saying "See... you can come see me anytime... you know you want to". WELL, that was intercepted by my wife who happened to be on my Facebook looking up a friends number for me. She went BALLISTIC. She emailed the waitress back and told her that it was inappropriate to be private messaging a married man and why on earth should I want to come see her. The waitress replies back a little sarcastically saying "well why wouldn't he want to come see me, he has to eat doesn't he" and now have I been fighting with my wife for two days over this.
I honestly have no interest in this girl and don't see why my wife is so upset. I'm tired of fighting with her about it and so I deleted said waitress from Facebook and blocked her to appease my wife. However, this has done little to change my wife's mind and now my wife is accusing me of getting to chummy with the girl, basically saying that I am cheating on her with this waitress. I don't see the problem. I know I've done nothing wrong, but can't seem to get my wife to understand this. Now you have to understand, there has been some past issues in the marriage years ago and we struggled through them and all has been well for about 7 years. We've been married 14. This waitress isn't terribly attractive or overachieving and I have no bond to this waitress. My wife is very attractive, educated and has a great career in the chemical industry, she's a great mother and wife and mostly a great friend. I pointed out the differences between her and the waitress to emphasize my point of why would I give up our life and her and all we have worked so hard for and still she remains upset.
What more can I do????
I travel with my job and spend a good amount of time in Lake Charles, as that's where one of my main customers is located. While there, I frequent a specific restaurant and have for years. There is a waitress who works there and each time I go in, she waits on me. Nothing inappropriate has happened, and I'm not trying to go there or looking for it. This waitress friends requested me on Facebook some time ago and has sent me a couple of private messages, which my wife has seen. None of them were bad, just telling me how her dad is doing (he was sick) and asking me how me, THE WIFE and the kids were.
The other day I went in there and had lunch. She has a new manager and the place has changed a little. The bar area is now smaller and it isn't the same atmosphere it was. I was joking with her and her manager and said I couldn't come in and get loud and rowdy anymore and the manager said "sure you can". Here's where the problem started.
The waitress sent me a private message on Facebook saying "See... you can come see me anytime... you know you want to". WELL, that was intercepted by my wife who happened to be on my Facebook looking up a friends number for me. She went BALLISTIC. She emailed the waitress back and told her that it was inappropriate to be private messaging a married man and why on earth should I want to come see her. The waitress replies back a little sarcastically saying "well why wouldn't he want to come see me, he has to eat doesn't he" and now have I been fighting with my wife for two days over this.
I honestly have no interest in this girl and don't see why my wife is so upset. I'm tired of fighting with her about it and so I deleted said waitress from Facebook and blocked her to appease my wife. However, this has done little to change my wife's mind and now my wife is accusing me of getting to chummy with the girl, basically saying that I am cheating on her with this waitress. I don't see the problem. I know I've done nothing wrong, but can't seem to get my wife to understand this. Now you have to understand, there has been some past issues in the marriage years ago and we struggled through them and all has been well for about 7 years. We've been married 14. This waitress isn't terribly attractive or overachieving and I have no bond to this waitress. My wife is very attractive, educated and has a great career in the chemical industry, she's a great mother and wife and mostly a great friend. I pointed out the differences between her and the waitress to emphasize my point of why would I give up our life and her and all we have worked so hard for and still she remains upset.
What more can I do????
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