Need some input

[LonghornsATX]

So. My wife's dad is a wonderful man. He loves her and his grand kids. He and I don't really get along. Because she and I went through a separation period. (Worked it out and all is good)

He is an alcoholic. My wife lines to go over there once a week Nd stay the night with our oldest. I don't like that. I don't want my son around someone who is drunk all the time and drives drunk all the time. He hasn't hurt anyone or gotten angry when he was drunk. But it's just a matter of time. How do I tell my wife that he can't be around my kids when he's drinking?

[Cam-Mac]

Well the easiest way is to say "he cant be around my kids when he's drinking.".

[LonghornsATX]

Well the easiest way is to say "he cant be around my kids when he's drinking.".

That way will spark the argument. Trying to avoid that lol

[BWDean]

Tough one there man. Good luck.

[Longhorn95]

My 2 cents is that you're not going to stop it from happening without all hell breaking loose at home. What about setting limits? IE: if they are over there and go somewhere she drives or if he gets out of line with his behavior they come home?

Good luck. It sounds like a tough situation any way you look at it.

[quackaholic1]

I think you said a lot in your statement when you said " he drives drunk all the time" and " he hasn't hurt any one". I also think you missed a really important word at the end of that statement and that word is "YET". If your son is riding with him someday he will have a wreck and someone will get hurt if not killed. I would not allow my child ride anywhere with anyone that is drunk no matter what anyone else thought. I think if you explain to your wife that you are concerned about your sons safety and his impressionability at his age of being around someone who is a drunk she will understand.