for us husbands and husbands to be

[sambo73]

Ephesians 5:25-33

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%205:25-33&version=NIV

my wife of 11yrs told me last night that she wished she never had kids or gotten married. we have been struggling with different things. one would pass and two more come on. she said her kids didnt care and her husband only thought of himself.

as her words hit me like a ton of bricks, i realized shes right. im selfish. im nothing like the husband talked about in the bible. no wonder she dont respect me, who could blame her. i tell her i love her but only show it when i want sex.

i say im a christian man, but upon further examination, ive been anything but. im tired of the man that i am. i wanna be the husband in the bible. i sat down this morning and prayed to God to forgive me of my actions and to help me be the man im supposed to be.

sorry for deviateing from daily bible reading but felt like i had to share in hopes it might help others.

have a blessed day!!

[tbeak]

at least you see your pitfalls (we all have them to some degree), and hope it will work out alright for you.

[deano70]

many times it takes alot to admit your sins and to confess them to the Lord. Thanks for being a man and standing up and admitting that. I'll pray that the Lord gives you courage to confess that to your wife and kids as well and that you'll be the man that He wants you to be.
This was a good reminder for me as well.

Thank you for sharing.

[TexaswBOWhunter]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this tough time, remember that HE does not put you through anything you can not handle. I will pray for you and your family, it sounds like you are on the right track.. I received the book Courageous as a gift recently, this book has opened my eyes to what a Godly father, husband and man is supposed to be.

[sambo73]

many times it takes alot to admit your sins and to confess them to the Lord. Thanks for being a man and standing up and admitting that. I'll pray that the Lord gives you courage to confess that to your wife and kids as well and that you'll be the man that He wants you to be.
This was a good reminder for me as well.

Thank you for sharing.

i told her this. and i told her that talk is cheap, so now its up to me

[BIG BONE]

many times it takes alot to admit your sins and to confess them to the Lord. Thanks for being a man and standing up and admitting that. I'll pray that the Lord gives you courage to confess that to your wife and kids as well and that you'll be the man that He wants you to be.
This was a good reminder for me as well.

Thank you for sharing.

x3

[Txjourneyman]

I have been going through some of the same stuff very recently. I had to take a good hard look at myself. Marriage is a two way street and my side of the street needed a good cleaning. I tell my wife and children I love them but I wasn't showing them. What are words without actions to back them up? I am learning to start giving my wife the respect she deserves again. I have a quick and sharp tongue with my family. I have to relearn the patience I used to have and think before I speak. I don't want to say hurtful things to those I love most.
We got to the brink of divorce before I asked my wife to forgive me. My family is worth fighting for and are not the people I should be fighting with. It is amazing to me how changing my attitude has changed the atmosphere in my home. I profess to be a Christian, when I act like one I feel like one!
Say a prayer for me brother, I'll do the same for you.

[cashcropper]

Sent one up for yall brother. Do not stop here. If you have a pastor then see if she is interested in counseling and if not then go yourself. Circle the wagons and spend time with your wife.Pray with your wife and pray over your wife. Be patient if she needs some time. Never give up.

[NibletGillispie]

Prayers have been sent for you and your family.

[sambo73]

thx, and journeyman, u got it.

[Boss Buck]

Prayers for all men and women and ther family's in today's world I find it hard to be a Christian . The pressure of the sin in the world is all a around us we must not forget there is a great spiritual war going on and we must keep our armoire on at all time to protect us from this god bless and thanks your statement hit home

[Texas Tracker]

Marrage is the hardest thing I have ever done but just like my career if you work hard enough it pays off. Been married for 25 years so I guess I am doing something wright.
Prayers sent.

[WKH2213]

prayers sent buddy

[Playa]

I have been going through some of the same stuff very recently. I had to take a good hard look at myself. Marriage is a two way street and my side of the street needed a good cleaning. I tell my wife and children I love them but I wasn't showing them. What are words without actions to back them up? I am learning to start giving my wife the respect she deserves again. I have a quick and sharp tongue with my family. I have to relearn the patience I used to have and think before I speak. I don't want to say hurtful things to those I love most.
We got to the brink of divorce before I asked my wife to forgive me. My family is worth fighting for and are not the people I should be fighting with. It is amazing to me how changing my attitude has changed the atmosphere in my home. I profess to be a Christian, when I act like one I feel like one!
Say a prayer for me brother, I'll do the same for you.

I disagree, marriage is more like a single lane country road that is best travelled going the same direction. It will have it's washes & pot holes along the way, it's inevitable. And often you and your travelling mate will want to go opposite directions, which requires you to yield time to time. The easy way is the on ramp and subsequent fast lane/freeway.

Sambo, here is hope for you. This is (or can be) the single greatest opportunity for your marriage and family. If you will lead she will follow. It's scary and challenging at times, but remember if you are living a life pursuing Jesus, your leadership is actually just following his lead.

Marriage is the deepest definition of what Christ meant when he said "lay down your life for one another.". To daily (& even moment by moment) sacrifice that "self" you speak of is the fulfillment of this command.

Remind yourself daily that your wife is not your enemy, you are on the same team. Commit to pray for your wife. Ask her to pray for you. Pray together.

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[Brett C]

It takes 2 , Sammy. I know we as Christian men need to do our part but they (women need to do their part too. Stay strong brother. Your a very good man & dad. Don't let this bring you down. She could have a lot worse.