Help me with my Research, please!!

[Speedgoat]

I attended college for six years and finished with two Bachelor degrees and most of my Master degree classes, before military service and a change of duty location called a short term halt, or what was supposed to be a short term halt, to my studies in 1999 I have wanted to finish my remaining classes for a long time and finally decided to do so this year. I am writing a paper and could use some input from the Green Screen

My research paper delves into a topic that at some points may seem biased, but allows for the "Human" perspective when approaching and calculating my findings. Without getting into my whole methodology and research plan, here is what I need.

What inherent "Life Skills" can only be learned by an individual as opposed to being taught to them? I always hear folks say that life is the greatest teacher, so let's expound on that a bit and actually put a label on what life can teach that people cannot

BTW, I am pursuing my Master's in Counseling while hoping to get my LPC and become a Juvenile Counselor/Life Coach after my Military service is complete.

[CookieMonster]

I maybe off a little on what you are actually looking for, but I would think that day to day living teaches one about a lot if things in life. Financial struggles, peer pressures, alcohol and drug usage, bad decisions, etc. we learn a lot from history, not just in books but what has happened to us in our own lives. For young people who don't have a parent or mentor around, they learn by their own mistakes as well as other people's mistakes (or at least some of them do).

Hope this helps. Good luck.

Wow, the things you talk about in a ground blind when the deer aren't moving! Haha!

[systemnt]

Anything lesson that involves pain as a possible result.
ie: Hot stove.
You can be told its hot .. but until you experience 'hot' for the first time.. you haven't learned it.

[ken]

Most of what you learn in college is "taught". Once you apply it you realize that it was taught by people who have often never done it and one ends of "learning" how the world really works.

I'll take an experienced moderately intellegent person over an inexperienced intellect anytime.

[rberg]

OK, here are a few;

Don't touch the stove it is hot.
Wet Paint
Here, taste the milk, I think it is sour.
Don't date/marry her/him; they are no good for you.
You're going to feel bad in the morning.
Trust me.
Would I lie to you?

[John Paul]

You can not teach some one to Love, have faith, or have a moral compass.
Teachers can make you aware of such things but its up to each person to live it for a full understanding. JMO

[scrapwave]

One of the things we seem to see around here far to often because teenage girls just don't seem to be getting the lesson: Teen pregnancy is preventable and it doesn't cement a relationship---you aren't going to keep the boy or make him stay with you just because you have sex with him and get pregnant. You would think the mtv show Teen Mom would prove that point and teach that lesson but it seems far too many teenage girls still don't get it. You can't make someone love you, you can't make someone stay with you and having a baby as a teenager isn't going to make everything better--it's going to make your life so much harder. (I'm not saying teenage moms can't be successful and do a great job raising a baby--I'm just saying how much harder it is on them to have a baby at that age when they are still "kids" themselves).

[Txjourneyman]

My trip to the penitentiary was certainly a life lesson. All during my mis-spent youth people would tell me to straighten up and fly right. But I knew better than them. Who were they to tell me how to live? Dang, I'll do whatever the heck I want to do. Screw the consequences!
The consequences were the only way I was going to learn. It was a harsh but just lesson. I was one of the few people there that actually felt like I was where I belonged. I live my life totally differently today than I did way back then. Certainly for me, a life lesson I had to learn on my own is that there are consequences for my actions, and they can be negative consequences for negative actions and, the way I live today. Positive actions begetting positive consequences.

[Deer Destroyer]

What you are talking about is the difference between education from teachers that teach and do not do, and wisdom. Both are very important but wisdom is getting harder and harder to achieve. Just my thoughts

[Bilbo]

Good to hear you're extending your education, Matt.

The first thing that comes to mind is common sense. That's certainly something that we must learn on our own.

[txrdkng]

Life lessons result from the application of instructions. Couple of examples:

You instruct someone about bow hunting. You show them the bow, the inter-workings, the physics of the operation, etc. You tell them how to draw back, how to anchor the string, how to aim, release etc. However, the person will only now be informed. The true learning comes from actually picking up the bow, nocking the arrow, drawing back and firing. Until that point there is no way to communicate how the bow will draw back, how the muscles work together to balance, how the eyes and muscles work together to aim on target. How it feels to touch the release. These cannot be taught; only instructions given and the remainder is learned...life lessons.

Now take the bow to the field. You can instruct someone on proper blind setup, scent strategies, aging deer, sitting still, being quiet. However, the real lesson begins when the person sets up the blind. Actually weaving the materials together, how this camouflage rips if you pull it too tight, how uneven ground creates unique challenges. Then how wind instructions can't cover all conditions...heavy winds, light and variable, etc. No one will ever understand the emotions that can affect a shot when the deer actually moves in until they experience them. Rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms, shaking, confusion trying to process all the shooting instructions under pressure, self doubt.

This all needs to be experienced = Life Lessons.

[El Viejo]

How to get up after you've fallen on your face.

[DawgOnIt]

Knowledge vs Wisdom! As in many of the above posts, you can impart all the teaching (knowledge) you want on a person, but Wisdom only comes from experience.

[WCI]

Taking personal responsibility for your actions. Learned Shown responsibility .... Taught
Satisfaction from a job well done.. Learned Watching someone do the job for you.. Taught
The joy of being loved for just being you.. Learned Showed how to love ... Taught