How bad does divorce suck?

[Jease]

Down2hunt I wanna tell you and the rest of the people on here something. First and formost be there for your daughter... and for the people and for Down2hunt its funny because like i had posted yesterday about me and my situation and reading alot of these post for Down2hunt has made me realize that I'm not doing something that I should be doing and that's not giving up on my kids because of my ex.. You all have helped me see that just by helping one person. Thanks I'll be making a suprise visit to my kids house on Sunday night and for Down2hunt good luck and please do not give up on your daughter like I did on my kids, it wasn't their fault.... God Bless

[Joe H]

Sounds like you have done a lot of changing and are not being very flexible. You are a different person than she married. Sounds like anyway.

[down2hunt]

Sounds like you have done a lot of changing and are not being very flexible. You are a different person than she married. Sounds like anyway.

That's true to a point. I didn't want to make this about religion, but we were both raised Mormon. Unfortunately, I don't believe the church is what it claims to be. I did not plan for this to happen and it would have been a lot easier if it hadn't. If you don't know with Mormons its pretty much do or die. I don't do therefore I must die (figuratively of course).

I have tried to be as flexible as possible. She still goes to church every Sunday and takes our daughter. She does whatever she wants and has no resistance from me. But now she wants someone that will do those things with her and I'm am not that person. I'd be willing to just go to church with her, but that's not good enough. You would almost have to be a Mormon to truly understand. Like I say, it's do or die. There is no room for people in the grey.

[Brotherbill]

Prayers sent.

[aironeout]

Don't take this the wrong way. But, it all depends on how selfish the parties are in regards to the child.

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[Zen Archery]

As a student pastor who has to deal with this on a weekly basis I can tell you it will impact your child.

I've seen healthy relationships post divorce.
I've seen unhealthy relationships after the divorce.
I've got parents who are in court every 6 months battling the stupidest issues.

So as others have stated. Pray for healthy resolution. If you can work things out work them out. If you can't God first, child second, your own wants last.

Prayers to you and all struggling with marital issues (which is basically everyone)!

[Atfulldraw]

Oh. That would have been helpful info to have.....

and by that I mean that it makes sense what you said earlier.
My dad was (past tense) Mormon, so I get it.

it probably isn't going to work out, and you are battling an entire church.
The good news is that most kids survive whatever craziness with religion their parents throw at them, and there are certainly much worse influences than Mormonism to have on a child.

In the meantime, follow the teachings and start canning your cash to save it for later

[76truck]

Find her best friend and get revenge first because more than likely she will date one of your friends

My rule of thumb,,,,, Women are like monkeys, their not letting go of one branch without a firm grasp on another one so odds are another man is in the mix allready.

You asked for it,,,

This is true to the T when it comes for how things ended for me. The exception was she had a firm grasp on another man who was my right hand man.

[fizzle]

This is the truth!Speaking from experience. Soon to be ex wives are evil no matter how nice they pretend to be or are to you in person
Dont let your guard down and listen to this here>>>>>


QUOTE=brianwalker42;5722140]I dont know where to start. My divorce was final one year ago last week. She is now living
with one of my old buddies. If you live in the same town, do not give her any ammuniton.
I would wait on getting a steddy girlfriend ( or atleast dont make her to public). Get your money out of the bank! ( GO NOW STOP READING TBH! GO GET YOUR CASH). Be the better person.
( IT SUCKS OUT LOUD, AND ITS NOT EASY) If she can get something on you she will... She will call your buddies and your buddies wives, your family any one that might be able to help her get the upper hand. CONSTANTLY WATCH YOUR 6!

There was a thread on here a few weeks ago about a 30 day (cool off period ). I have
been looking for it and cant find it... If someone can find it please post the link.
I had a terrbile marrige. 14 years, 3 years of counseling, and she was still not happy.
( found out she was ummm, well, uhhh... yah lets just say "... like a screen door in a hurricane") with one of her co workers. she worked in a town 30 miles away.
and her Attorney made me out to be the dirty sob.

In short... Cinch up your boot straps cowboy... its gonna get wild.... I wish you the
best of luck... and most of all... remember two things!!


1. Your baby girl
2. God

If your ever in the area ( Ft. Worth ) give me a call. Ill buy you a beer or twelve. Ill take you to the deer lease and we can kill some stuff.[/QUOTE]

[Blood Trail]

Pray! Ask her if there's anything that will change her mind. Pray! Try to work it out. Pray!
Oh, and did I mention you should pray!
Dave

Couldn't said t better myself. My wife and I was headed down that path back in 2005. I even moved out. God had to break me an have His way with me before He fixed it. Divorce is not what he has planned for y'all brother. Praying for you.

[Blood Trail]

1. God
2. Your baby girl

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fify....

[Artos]

After almost 8 years of marriage and a beautiful 2.5 year old daughter my wife just hit me with the D word.

Some of our fundamental world views have changed over the years, but we have a great relationship. In those 8 years I can count on one hand the number of fights we've had.

My biggest concern is for my daughter. The thought of not being there every day is more painful than words can express.

I know this is going to suck, suck bad. Give it to me straight....I want to know from those that have been through this how hard it is?

I can't even believe I'm posting this. Never in a million years would I think if be posting a thread like this!!!!!!

Show her this thread & link...The Art of Marriage

http://www.familylife.com/

I agreed to go to this deal on valentines day as a request for my wife and it was the best time I've spent and we really didn't have marriage issues...if you can get someone to watch your girl and can get to an event, I will pay for the admission.

I have that much faith in it...ask her to please consider it for her daughter'd future & tell her it will help you both remember why you got married and fell in love all those years ago. First class & best time you can spend with eachother.

good luck,

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[Blood Trail]

Just read thru a few post. Differences
In religion is the 2nd leading cause of divorce behind infidelity. Especially when one is really involved with the church the other isn't (not saying that's the case with you). Scripture warns about being unevenly yoked with someone. Brother, I hope it works out.

[Speedgoat]

I think outside the box about alot of things. If the person you devoted your life to would rather "quit" by filing for divorce more than they would desire to work on things, then I say let them go. I have no time for quitters. Divorce should never be mentioned by two people who are sworn to one another for life, but if it is mentioned, so be it. Help them pack and wish them well.

[Playa]

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