Would you....?

[randtx]

Would you buy your child their first vehicle even if you never see them? I have a son turning 17 next weekend and I really want to buy him his first vehicle. Problem is I never see him. He lives with his mom and he "just doesn't feel like coming over" and his mom won't make him. So I am torn. I love my son and I really want to buy his first truck for him but at the same time I don't think I should because of the situation. What would you do?

[Huntindad]

I think you have answered your own question... go with your gut

[Kbeaz]

Don't buy it

[fishycatfish]

I would not.

[randtx]

I think given the situation, you guys are right. I guess I knew it, I just needed to hear it.

[Rather_B_Fishin]

Your in a tuff spot on that one but IMO I plan on my kids buying there own vehicles, they will respect them better! That's what I had to do.

[Phdan]

I wouldn't.

[sharkhunter]

Sometimes the right answer is the one that hurts the most... Like was said above I think you know already..

[mac0515]

He won't respect it

[elkbowhunter]

I think you gotta do what your heart tells you to. Don't base it on what he has done or going to do for you......base it on what you want to do for him cause you love him. Maybe talk to him face to face and let him know that you really want a deeper relationship. Ask him to show you ways you can be a better dad. Sometimes its just a communication thing. You sound like a good dad. Its tough being the family is already broken up. I would say.....search your heart and do the right thing....only you know what that is and above all else pray. God listens to the humble.
praying for you.

[bowhunter45]

make him come up with money for his first vehicle. if you really want to help him, tell him you'll match his money. that way you feel good about helping your son, and he might appreciate it more if he has to pay for half. win win

[elkbowhunter]

make him come up with money for his first vehicle. if you really want to help him, tell him you'll match his money. that way you feel good about helping your son, and he might appreciate it more if he has to pay for half. win win

Great idea. If he has that capability.

[bowhunter45]

Great idea. If he has that capability.

a 17 year old boy is 100% capable. my son is 14, and that works for him too. he can only mow lawns and stuff, but cars are not in minds just yet either.

[duckhead]

make him come up with money for his first vehicle. if you really want to help him, tell him you'll match his money. that way you feel good about helping your son, and he might appreciate it more if he has to pay for half. win win

My father in law has done this with all of the grandkids.my son bought his car when he turned sixteen.he just turned 21 and still has the car and takes care of it like he just bought it

[elkbowhunter]

a 17 year old boy is 100% capable. my son is 14, and that works for him too. he can only mow lawns and stuff, but cars are not in minds just yet either.

Usuallly...but I don't know the circumstances....I guess you do.

and I did purchase every car and motorcycle I had in High School. Worked my butt off cause I wanted a car.