Why does my step mom feel it is not important to call me and tell me my dad is in the emergency room with chest pains, when he has heart problems. She took him to the emergency room at 5am this morning but just now decided to call me an tell me. I am so pis***. It wouldn't be a big deal but work has me out of town this morning 3 hours away. Had she called me when she took him I could have changed my work schedule. Sorry just have to vent a little.
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Maybe she didn't think it was a big deal at first and didn't want you to leave work if it turned out to be nothing. Its not like she didn't call you at all. -
The problem is this isn't the first time she has done it.Originally posted by Felix40 View PostComment
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Take a breath.....I would for sure give her some Grace with this. You don't know all the stress etc that she was going through at 5am. Maybe In the right moment in the next few days let her know that it would mean a lot to you in the future for her to give you a call immediately if this ever happens again. Say these things in kindness. Hope your dad heals fast!!!Comment
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Once you've had some time to take a breath... you need to let her know how important it is to you to know so that YOU can make the decision of whether or not you drop everything and go or sit back and wait.
The othe piece to that is you know how stubborn old men can be... HE might have been the one telling her not to bother you and to passify him, she agreed to let it ride for a couple of hours.Comment
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She still should of called me and let ME make the decision to go on with my day or haul butt to the hospital to be with my dad.
He did have a slight heart attack. They are going to keep him over night to monitor him.Comment
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btw.. I tried to edit three times but was getting a "security token" issue.. I wanted to add "prayers up for a speedy recovery for your dad".. didnt want you to think the whole underlying issue got overlooked!Comment
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I understand exactly how you feel..
My dad passed in 1999, same circumstances.. Except I was listening to it on the Fire pager..
A neighboring Dept. was dispatched and I tried calling numerous times before she answered. Unfortunately he had passed before I got there, I miss him bad.. Wish I had some more time to tell him some things.
Don't put off to tommorrow, what you can tell your Dad today. If there is anything you have wanted to tell him, do it now!! There may not be a tommorrow.Comment
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next of kin....just saying....had that happen to a relative before....Comment
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My step mom I'd the same way but my dad will tell her not to call because he thinks it's not a big deal. I chewed their butts pretty good the last time and now they will call me right after they call the ambulance.
The problem I had was she would call her kids, his step kids but not me until they knew what would wrong.Comment
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Ill be 40 years old next month and my parents still do the same thing to me. My mother was near death last July and they waited to tell me on the day I got home from my 2 week hitch. When I walked in the house my wife told me that my mom was in the hospital. I didn't jump to conlusions till I got to the hospital. She was diagnosed with cancer a few days later. She is doing well now but I made it clear to my parents that they needed to let me know what was going on. I have made trips to Houston with them when my mother has major updates. they protest but I let them know that I will not have it any other way.Comment
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Mother's Love!
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Could it be possible that he asked her not to call ???Comment
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No. I asked him last night when she wasn't around.Originally posted by wellingtontx View PostComment
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