Love and Logic!

[txpitdog]

Our Sunday school class is for new parents and parents with young children. We're studying a book called Love and Logic that has completely changed how we deal with discipline and responsibility. It takes all the frustration and anger out of the parent and lets the child learn the consequences of their actions by explaining the consequence and then giving them the freedom to royally screw it up if they so choose.

I haven't had to yell, spank, or threaten punishment in 3 weeks, and although our home is still loud and chaotic with a 5, 3, and 18mos old running around, it's not stressful or out of control.

Anyone else done this? So far it is a major positive for us.

[d1rich1]

Hmm. I would be interested to see what everyone else on here sayd about this.

[Chaindiggity]

I'm assuming the book is faith-based (Christian)? Never heard of the book, but my wife and I are using this approach for our 10-year old. Makes me think every kid in middle school and high school should have to read a 'cliff notes' version of the Texas Penal Code.....the left column = the crime.....the right column = the possible punishment and length of prison time.... Make sure ther're fully aware of the consequences of bad decisions.... Thanks for the post; I'll check out the book.

[diamond10x]

nothin like using a belt when theyre younger so when they grow up they still have that fear of mom and dad in them so they listen and behave, but im sure your book is just as good!

[EppysWorld]

We have been using it for about a month and love it. It takes some time to change the parents habits but it is worth it. No need for a belt because the kids are learning that life is about choices and living with the outcomes of this choices. It has definitely made life less chaotic with my two kids.

[skyhawk]

It has worked well in our house. We read it when our daughter was born, and still refer back to it when we need a refresher.

I give it two thumbs up!

[jkk831]

My mom is a school counselor and is a firm believer in this. Havent read it myself by probably need to!

[skyhawk]

BTW, it can be used along with spanking, as my daughter can atest to.

[txpitdog]

We are talking about redoing the book, video, and workbook every 3 years or so to refresh as our kids go through different stages.

[Shake N' Bake]

Our SS class uses the book along with others. It's great!!

[bjstockard]

Do some research on Foster Cline, the author of Love and Logic. His medical license has been revoked, among other things:

http://www.quackwatch.com/01QuackeryRelatedTopics/at.html

Also, I wouldn't let the family dog starve to teach my child responsibility (a discipline technique discussed in the book).

[Buck Roar]

Every kid I have seen that the parents use this technique are brats, disobedient, not respectful of others. But the technique is easier on the parents.....for a season!

I have heard parents say, "my kids are obedient.".....after they ask them to do something 5-6 times, which doesn't equal obedience but convenience for the kid.

Not a fan, but good luck with that.

Parents vs School Counselor--two totally different settings and biblical responsibilities.

[RdRdrFan]

Never heard of the book.

Never heard of Foster Cline.

But this has the makings of an interesting thread!