Live in help?

[Captrix]

This. Lots of crooks out there.

We had one from a service taking care of my grandparents. Although she wasnt live in, she was able to take advantage of them bigtime. Right under our noses. They hated the idea at first, but then fell in love with the helper. It was tough on them for us to replace her, and they denied she was a crook. But we ran her off anyway, and they soon forgot about her.

After that happened, all bets where off.
Dad Took power of attorney, & control off all bank accounts, money in/money out. Took all mail, and took care of all bills for them.
All they had to do was kick back, and coast, in their own home.

It's a tough situation for sure. Good luck!

During that time, I would jokingly remind my dad that he needed to be nice to me.....

If you don't mind me asking, how was she taking advantage of them. Any warning signs y'all wish you would have seen sooner? My mom is handling all of their bank accounts.

you can PM me if you don't want to post

[Deb]

Genieve, all this stuff is true and that is why I think Shana (Skunklady) will be such a good person to talk to. This is the biz she is in and I am very impressed with her integrity and her skill level. She should be a wealth of imformation.

[brymor31]

Genevieve,

I own/operate several Assisting Living Homes and would gladly talk to you about the different options which are available for you. There are alot of different things to consider. Feel free to call me at 469-360-4493. Thanks.

Bryan

[fritztown]

Took care of my mother for 3 years after brain surgery....
The kids supplemented the in-home (and in hospital) caregivers, or "sitters".

You can usually find sitters through an agency, who may have their employees bonded & insured, operate on a schedule and can provide replacements easier. However, it runs around $15/ hour if I remember correctly. Some individuals are good, which you can request, others not so much...which you eliminate quickly.

Tough situation but depending on finances I'd go heavy on sitters, then supplement with grandma and kids.
Be forewarned: those who caretake too much will suffer...

[QuackAddict]

Both of my wife's grandmothers have live-ins there where they live in Florida. We were so lucky to find two wonderful, trustworthy Christian ladies to help out with the daily activities for both grandmothers. They both refused to cook for themselves and one was eating very little and continuously losing weight. The other was getting confused with medications, and we were afraid she would end up in the ER or something after unintentionally overdosing on some type of medication. Both of these helpers take them to the grocery store, doctors' appointments, cook, clean house, arrange pool maintenance, etc. Both of the grandfathers passed away somewhat suddenly and it is comforting to know that there is someone for them to talk with, and see that they are taken care of when we aren't able to be there with them.

[dustoffer]

Guys and gals--this is nearly inevitable for all of us, either our grandparents, parents, or our kids and grandkids taking care of us. Give lots of thought to how much you think you'll need to retire on--as we are all living longer. And also, an assisted living facility is a great alternative if affordable. Sometimes selling the house/homestead to fund it is the best thing for all. And, last of all, even though it is expensive, long term care insurance may be an option, even though I dislike paying premiums.

Gen--best of luck and hope you find the right person and/or place for your folks.

[DeadeyeDeb]

Gen, there should be a case manager involved in this case while he is in the hospital as that person is the one who is setting up the rehab and talking with someone in the family, my guess it would be your mother. That person could be a wealth of information and knowledge for all of you.