Need advice...

[Mac...]

If you've followed my prayer request thread about my cousin, you may see where this is headed. My cousin past away a little over an hour ago and she was my daughters God mother and now her guardian angle. They were very close and Johnna was her baby sitter for the 1st 18 months of Addys life. Until she got sick.

How do I break the news to my 2.5 yr old daughter that she can't go visit Nanna anymore? I'm balling my eyes out just thinking about this breaking my baby girls heart. She's no ordinary 2.5 yr old. She's very smart and comprehends more than a 2.5 yr old should. People who meet her for the 1st time thinks she's a 4 yr old by the way she acks, looks, and talks.

I've personally never lost anyone as close as Johnna was to me. And I'm taking it a lot rougher than I thought I would.
What do I tell my baby???

[Bish]

Tell her what is in your heart brother, and that somtimes God wants them there with him.

God Bless
Bish.

[Uncle Saggy]

Tell her what is in your heart brother, and that somtimes God wants them there with him.

God Bless
Bish.

What he said....say what's in your heart bro

[techsan]

So sorry for your loss! I agree with those above. Be prepared for questions. Prayers for you all!!

[cheez]

Sorry for your loss Mac. Don't worry too much about your daughter. In my limited experience I have noticed that young children have a remarkable resilience.

[mboltm]

Sorry for your loss brother, Kids are a lot tougher than we think, Just be there for her when she needs you

[Angola'sBest]

Mac, So sorry to hear bro. As the others say above, say whats in your heart. If you need anything bro, dont be scared to ask.
SMOKIN59L

[Kdog]

Prayers sent, sorry for your loss.

[Bonesplitter]

Tell her the truth, and she has went to be with the lord. She's gonna ask questions and cry with you but she will heal quickly. Youll know what to do better than anyone when you start. Good luck brother, prayers sent

[Slick8]

I copied this from Bro Bill, hope it helps with the healing.

Very sorry for your loss and prayers offered for you and your family.

Behold, I make all things new. —Revelation 21:5
Two young brothers sat on the front row in church every Sunday, observing their dad as he led the worship service. One night after sending the boys to bed, the dad overheard one of his boys crying. He asked him what was wrong, but the boy was hesitant to answer. Finally, he confessed, “Daddy, the Bible says we’re going to worship God in heaven forever. That’s an awfully long time!” Because he pictured heaven as one long worship time with his dad up front leading, heaven sounded pretty boring to him!

While I sometimes wish we had more information about what heaven will be like, we know this for sure: boring can’t possibly be the right word to describe it. We will see beauty like we’ve never seen before, including “a pure river of water of life, clear as crystal” (Rev. 22:1). We will experience “the glory of God,” which will illuminate heaven (21:23; 22:5). And we will enjoy a life without pain or sorrow (21:4).

Yes, we will definitely worship in heaven. People “out of every tribe and tongue and people and nation” (5:9) will rejoice in praising Jesus, the worthy Lamb who died for us and rose again (5:12).

We will bask in the glory of the Lord’s presence—forever. But not for one second will we be bored!

In heaven we’ll see our Savior
And like Him we will be;
We’ll praise Him and we’ll serve Him
For all eternity! —Fitzhugh



The pleasures of earth cannot be compared to the joys of heaven.

[ladiehood79]

I am sorry for your loss! I went thru the same thing when my mother passed away and I had to explain it to my 3 year old twins. I told them that Mam went to heaven to be with the Lord. That she was an angel now and she would watch over them. They accepted that answer. I spoke to a doctor I worked for and she said that was a healthy answer and to just answer questions as they come up. She said kids understand better than we think. Just hug your baby, let her cry if she wants to, and always tell her the truth. Also don't be afraid to cry in front of her- lets her know its ok.

[Mac...]

Thank you all for your kind words.


Ladiehood, I don't think I'll be able not to cry infront of Addy. I've been making rivers since about midnight last night.
That's part of my problem. I'm scared I'm gonna freak my daughter out when we tell her. We're so afraid of how she'll react, we're going to bust into tears and really freak her out.

Should I wait a few days to settle down before we tell her?

[rjtkdplus]

Sorry to hear. Prayers for all.

[HoffDawg]

Again mac, sorry for your loss, will continue to pray.

When my grandmother passed away, it was the hardest thing i ever had to deal with. my son and daughter were young. they were sleeping the night we got all got back to my grandfathers house after my grandmother passed. but the next day they asked why everyone was so sad and crying... So we had to tell them... Told them that grandma went to be an angel and was with god... don't think they really understood what it meant, cuz they went on with their day like nothing was wrong... but at the service, they ask alot of questions, and i think they finally understood..

[ladiehood79]

Mac- you tell her when you think you can. That's the best answer I can give you. My girls were in the next room playing when my mother passed away(she passed at home). They stood there when she was taken out of the house. That had them asking questions so we(my husband and I) answered as we could. We explained why we were crying and so sad. You will have to do what you feel you can handle. I don't think any of us can tell you when is the correct time-it's when your comfortable.